How The Most Unshakeable People Stay Calm And Motivated During A Crisis
Effective psychological tips for keeping it together when things are falling apart.
PeopleImages by Yuri A | Shutterstock We are living in strange and uncharted times. Politically, we are more divided than ever and the news feels dark, as if there is no more hope left. It makes sense that many people are panicking and feeling scared during these unprecedented times. After all, our genetic programming is to be on alert when we enter unknown territory. Fortunately, it doesn't have to be this way.
The ancestral aspect of our brain, our limbic system, or reptilian brain, is designed to keep us safe from predators and other dangers. But we are not only primitive organisms. We are complex people, who also have a deeply spiritual side.
One of our gifts as humans is that, when we are not freaked out and hyper-reactive, we can choose the most appropriate way to respond to a situation. This is your responsive state.
The difference between being reactive and responsive in scary times
The reactive mind sees a shadow, fears the lion, and jumps. This can cause a healthy response if there is a lion, or can create unnecessary panic or even panic attacks if there is not.
The responsive mind can assess whether the shadow is, in effect, a lion or not. It has the capacity to hold a higher perspective and act accordingly.
In fact, we hold a number of aspects of ourselves in our psyches, but the main ones that are reactive are related to our survival instincts of freeze, fight or flight.
How unhealthy, 'reactive' states might look
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Let’s look at these aspects in terms of how people react in times of change and unrest.
Freeze: There are people who've become immobilized due to fear. They are collapsing psychically, and effectively reverting to babyhood, crying and complaining and hoping others will take care of them. Just as a baby can’t take care of themselves, these people feel helpless and move into freeze mode.
Fight: These are people who are fighting for their own survival at the expense of all others.
They are the ones who freak out and prepare for the apocalypse thinking only of their own personal survival. They childishly protect their inner vulnerability by blaming others for their situation. These people feel that if they don’t fight, they will be lost and not survive.
Forget/Flight: And of course, there are those people who are simply running from the reality of the situation.
They feel so overwhelmed that all they want to do is escape their situation. They avoid the reality of the situation by partying, drinking, or using other habitual avoidance techniques. They are reverting to the inner child who just wants to escape and play. These people are in flight mode.
How healthy, 'responsive' states might look
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Now let’s understand those who are not reactive, but rather responding in a healthy manner to any crisis (real or perceived).
The mature adult can assess the situation and frame it globally — which doesn't always involve the entire population of the planet, but the population of those affected or experiencing a crisis. They understand the ramifications, how it started and what to do to cope with it as effectively as possible.
These are the people who are doing what needs to be done responsibly, and adapting as needed in order to help affect the changes needed in order to help solve any problem, big or small.
Those who are coming from their Higher, Conscious or Spiritual Self are responding to the crisis from a wider, deeper perspective. They choose not to react with panic and to limit their exposure to fear-inducing media. They are acutely aware that any crisis highlights our interconnectedness with everything and everyone on the planet.
They also practice self-care by eating healthily, going for walks in nature, reaching out compassionately to friends and loved ones, as well as taking the time for restorative exercise, rest, quiet time, and spiritual retreat.
Any time a crisis or time of immense stress or change arises, we can take it as an unprecedented time as an opportunity for growth. Instead of contracting into our childish selves, we can breathe deeply and support and nourish ourselves and others and focus on healing our bodies, minds and souls.
Since we are all interconnected — part of the same being — we can hold steady to our higher consciousness and hold each other and the world with love, care and compassion, praying for the betterment of all.
Lorell Frysh, Ph.D., is a transpersonal psychologist, teacher, and author based in Atlanta.