Why Your IPhone Is Ruining Your Relationships

I was surfing the Internet one day and found an interesting article. Over one thousand people on gazelle.com took a survey about how technology is affecting people's everyday lives and most importantly the impact of iPhones could have on their sex lives.

RELATED: 10 Signs You're Not Ready For Him To Pop The Question

I understand the love of technology and great social media platforms such as Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Pintrest and Stumble Upon. I even use them all in my life and they are critical in what I do. But when has technology and social media gone too far? Want to know how to attract a man away from his iPhone?

When asked what platform or device they could not live without, 65% of the survey participants chose their iPhone. Only 1 % chose they couldn't live without Facebook. I would choose my iPhone over Facebook any day, because without my iPhone, how else could I tell all my friends about getting contacted by someone from the Oprah Winfrey Network while I'm pumping gas?

RELATED: If I Learned These 9 Love Lessons Sooner, I Probably Wouldn't Be Divorced

If my iPhone is out of sight for more than 10 minutes, I break into a cold sweat. Then that turns into a hot sweat while I'm running door to door looking for a neighbor that is kind enough to call my phone. But would I rather be on my phone or have a passionate lovemaking session? I get plenty of iPhone time, and I don't need more.

Smartphones and social media platforms have taken dating and relationships to a whole new level. It's like navigating unchartered waters in the Atlantic Ocean, and you're not really the adventurous pirate type. When you get used to using technology to your advantage, it can be a great tool and you will feel like a captain when it's smooth sailing. But when you use your phone too much, it can turn clear waters into a tidal wave, and it feels like all you've got is a dingy and no paddle.

It's never been so easy to reach out to a lover or potential lover and send a sexy text message like " I was thinking about that time you kissed me and…" But too much phone and technology can cause big problems. If you pay more attention to your Facebook notifications than your partner, there are going to be hurt feelings, no get togethers and breakups. Want to use texting the right way?

25% of the survey respondents admitted to almost always using their iPhone at social gatherings; I'm guilty of this too. When I was on my annual girls only beach trip, it was the first year we all had smartphones and they were great for sharing photos, doing cool things on Facebook and calling boyfriends. But it just wasn't the same as it used to be. But we have to go with the flow of these modern times, to an extent.

RELATED: 5 Types Of Awful Kisses That Will Make Anyone Break Up With You

I was dating a guy who was really into his phone and it became a huge problem. When I walked into the restaurant on our first date, I was excited that he was playing his scrabble app because was cute and smart! But when we were on our second, third and fourth date, his phone was on every date with us, I began to feel like I needed to leave him and his phone, alone, so they could have some quality time together. I mean, how could I ever compete with all of those Facebook notifications?

When your smartphone starts affecting your life under your new soft, 500 count white sheets, your phone addiction has definitely gone to far. 15% of the survey said they would rather go without sex than to not have their iPhone for the weekend! Are some of us moving away from physical contact to no contact because of our iPhones? It's all about keeping technology in balance in your own life and with your relationships.

But if you are in a physical relationship and there is potential for some nookie, please ignore your phone. The pictures of Aunt Susie's cute new kitten will still be on Facebook tomorrow. Get yourself ready for dating and love.