9 Subtle Ways Men Reveal How They Feel About Someone, According To Psychology
How to know how a man genuinely feels about you from the depths of his soul.
Nedrofly |Shutterstock Men can be a confusing mix. On the one hand, love stories and songs suggest that they can be the most upfront human beings in the world when it comes to their desire for a woman to like them.
But, on the other hand, men also have the magical ability to play awful mind games that make us wonder if we’re going crazy when we talk to them. Even if you already know how to tell if a guy likes you, there’s never such a thing as being too sure. The following signs can give you some insight into how to tell where you stand with him and how a man feels about you.
Here are the subtle ways a man reveals how he feels about someone:
1. He flaunts you
One thing that often separates the guys who are serious from the guys who are just looking for a fling or a side piece is how they behave around others when you’re with them, according to a study in Personality & Social Psychology Bulletin. A guy who isn’t serious about you or isn’t sure about you won’t be going around introducing you to his friends and families.
A guy who’s looking for side action might not even go out in public with you, and if he does, he might say you’re “a good friend.” Men who are seriously looking for a relationship will make a point to introduce you to friends, family, and more — as the girlfriend.
2. He pursues exclusivity with you
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Men who aren’t serious about you or want to keep you on the down low will not care about locking you down as a girlfriend or wife. Studies in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggested If you notice he’s making a point to discuss commitment and take you out on “date-dates,” then it’s a good sign in your favor as long as he’s not taken.
3. He doesn't bail when things become bad or inconvenient
A man who is legitimately interested won’t leave when the going gets tough.
4. He wants to meet up with you
Generally speaking, men who want something more serious will choose to meet up with you on a weekend, assuming they aren’t working. If he’s constantly booking dates within hours of the date time or only calling you late at night, then he’s not serious about you, nor will he probably ever be.
5. He asks about your opinion or includes you in plans
Men who are interested in you will make a point to include you in their plans or will want to know what your thoughts are on everything, according to research from the American Psychological Association (APA). Not asking questions means they don’t want to take time to know you, and therefore aren’t serious about you.
6. He is respectful
Studies in the APA discussed how respect is a great indicator of how to tell where you stand with him. Many men these days just aren’t respectful, and frankly, that’s a shame.
However, just because most men aren’t respectful doesn’t mean you should give them a pass or lower your standards. Men who are worthwhile and interested in you will be respectful towards you and genuinely nice to you, too.
7. His schedule is open for time with you
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It doesn’t matter how busy a man is, If he is interested in a person, he will make time for them even if it kills him. If you constantly find yourself being cloistered to awkward times throughout the day, constantly being asked to do last-second dates, or worse, having to hound him for time, then he’s not interested in you or losing interest.
8. He spends money or does major favors for you
Men, much like women, don’t want to waste time, money, or effort on people they don’t feel are worth it. If he’s always willing to do something for you, he feels it’s worth it to do so. As a good rule of thumb, the more he’s willing to go out of his way for you, the more likely it is that he’s seriously smitten.
9. He genuinely wants to be with you
More often than not, we know the real answer to this in our gut. A lot of people tend to date those who they have to sell on dating them.
If you have to hard sell the guy into hanging out with you, flaunting you, committing to you, or anything similar, he’s not into you, as shown by studies from the APA. You should try to look for someone who is and to drop him like a rock.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer whose work has been featured in Yahoo, BRIDES, Your Daily Dish, Newtheory Magazine, and others.