Brilliant Men Never Settle For Women Who Do These 10 Things
These type of men have certain standards and expectations when it comes to being in a relationship with a woman.
Vera Petrunina | Shutterstock Brilliant men often think differently about specific endeavors in their lives. From their careers to their relationships, they have a sense of purpose and clarity, refusing not only to compromise their peace but also their morals and values. They're not only able to succeed in their work, but they also possess a deep sense of self-awareness and emotional intelligence that they expect from the people around them, especially women with whom they wish to be in romantic relationships.
While brilliant men may not be picky, they do have standards rooted in making sure that respect and emotional depth exist in the relationship. Intelligent, secure, and self-assured men have no problem walking away from a woman if they see even a hint of a red flag, and they do so because they would rather continue to be alone than waste their time and energy trying to stay in a relationship that's just all wrong. There are certain behaviors that they won't tolerate at the end of the day.
Brilliant men never settle for women who do these 10 things:
1. She invalidates his feelings or calls him 'too sensitive'
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The one thing a brilliant man will never settle for is a woman who doesn't understand the importance of validating the emotions of your partner. Too often, men are told that they need to "toughen up" and be completely stoic, but these types of men are aware that this social construct isn't the true definition of masculinity.
Not only are they in touch with their feelings, but they expect the same from the women they choose to date as well.
"Sensitivity is in no way a shameful 'unmanly' flaw that one has to get over," pointed out psychologist Tom Falkenstein, MA. "They have to accept it, learn to value it, and to use it positively in their relationships with other people. When this happens, I believe that a highly sensitive disposition can make men particularly good fathers, husbands, partners, sons, brothers, and friends."
2. She puts her needs above his every time
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The number one thing a brilliant man needs in his relationship is balance and reciprocal energy. He can't find enjoyment in being with a woman who constantly prioritizes her own needs over his. It ultimately conveys a clear message that the relationship is one-sided, rather than involving two capable individuals.
Being the one who constantly gives and never receives eventually leads to emotional burnout, and a brilliant man knows that sacrificing his own needs isn't the way to keep someone, nor is it an indicator of a safe and healthy love.
"If it is wrong to view ourselves as more important than others, then it is wrong to view others as more important than ourselves. The equality of human beings means that being good to others and being good to ourselves are equally important, so we should treat ourselves as well as we treat others — no more and no less," explained clinical psychologist Jeremy Shapiro, Ph.D.
3. She avoids meaningful conversations about their relationship
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Brilliant men refuse to waste their time on a meaningless connection, especially when it comes to love. They're looking for depth in all areas of their life and thrive on having deep conversations with the person they're with. A woman who either avoids these types of conversations altogether or shuts down the moment things start to get real is a major turn-off for these types of men.
In a study where strangers were brought together to discuss either shallow topics or deep ones, researchers found that deep conversations felt less awkward and led to more connectedness and happiness than the participants initially expected. Being able to have a deep conversation with your partner is often a key element to making that relationship last.
4. She treats respect as an option
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For brilliant men, mutual respect isn't something they're willing to compromise on. If they notice that the woman they're with is treating respect as something selective, only giving it when it's convenient for her and withholding it when it's not, they usually see it as a major red flag.
These types of men refuse to be spoken down to, dismissed, belittled, or undervalued because they know what they bring to the table and expect the same in return from their significant other. If a relationship lacks unconditional respect, it simply will not thrive. A brilliant man would rather not entertain a woman who can't adhere to this expectation.
"By fostering an environment of mutual respect, individuals can build each other up, creating a safe space for growth and security. This mutual respect ensures that each person feels valued and appreciated, contributing to a healthy relationship," explained psychotherapist Ilene S. Cohen, Ph.D.
5. She makes him question his self-worth
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While brilliant men are aware of their self-worth, even the strongest individuals can be shaken if someone else makes them feel inadequate, especially if it comes from a woman they're in a relationship with. A woman who is chipping away at their worth through constant criticism, comparisons of other people she knows, or emotional manipulation can easily make these types of men realize she's not the one.
"Society has convinced us that our worth is something to be earned, won, or proved. We are expected to be extraordinary in every area of our lives—our jobs, family life, hobbies, and even our personal wellness," explained wellness scholar Robyne Hanley-Dafoe, Ed.D.
"When we depend on the outside world for our sense of worth, our inner world becomes chaotic. The opinions of others become the measuring stick for our value, yet those opinions are ever-changing and often unkind."
6. She refuses to take accountability for her mistakes
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Brilliant men are always making sure they put in the effort to grow and learn through the various challenges that present themselves in life. They also expect that from the people in their lives. When a woman refuses to acknowledge her mistakes and instead casts blame on others, including him, or plays the victim in every situation, it's such a clear sign of emotional immaturity that they simply don't have time for.
It's not as if he's looking for perfection, but he would prefer that a woman be able to take accountability. It's truly only through making mistakes in life that we learn how to be better.
7. She sees compromise as 'losing'
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No healthy relationship can thrive without learning the value of compromise. Brilliant men are aware that there are moments when it's simply about working together as a team. Compromise doesn't mean that someone is "losing" or "winning," and then they start to realize that a woman has that mindset, it's a glaring red flag for them.
To these types of men, compromise isn't about giving up control, but rather about finding a middle ground where both people in the relationship can feel seen and heard. It shouldn't have to be treated like a competition; instead, it should be able to meet halfway with understanding and respect.
8. She only loves him on her terms
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Love should never be given with conditions or strings attached. In a relationship, love should always be unconditional, even if you're fighting with your partner or disagreeing on something. Real love doesn't just disappear when moments get a bit tough. Brilliant men are aware of this and refuse to compromise this belief for a woman who only shows affection or support when it suits her.
Instead, these types of men are seeking authentic connections and love. They aren't trying to play games. While they may be understanding at first, there comes a point where they recognize that a woman who does this doesn't value the relationship.
9. She creates unnecessary drama
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A brilliant man cannot stand being around anyone who's constantly drawn to chaos. They value their peace and stability. The last thing they want is for a woman always to be creating and involved in drama that is just downright unnecessary and a waste of energy. Drama for the sake of excitement doesn't entice these kinds of men, and they don't want that whole toxic, back-and-forth, dynamic with their significant other.
For them, peace isn't boring at all; instead, it's a sign that they've managed to find a healthy and grounded partnership with a woman.
10. She disregards his boundaries
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Brilliant men value their boundaries and appreciate a woman who respects them, rather than challenging, ignoring, or trying to work around them because she may disagree with them. They usually have these boundaries as a way to protect their peace and energy, and the ultimate green flag for them is a woman who honors their limits.
These types of men don't have the time to constantly explain and defend the things they've communicated to their significant other.
Nia Tipton is a staff writer with a bachelor's degree in creative writing and journalism who covers news and lifestyle topics that focus on psychology, relationships, and the human experience.
