10 Sweet Gestures That Make You Irresistible To Men, According To Psychology
Men cannot resist these charming sentiments.
Dean Drobot | Canva Do you wonder why some women always have hot, smart, adorable boyfriends while others stay single? Those lucky ladies aren’t the prettiest or smartest women we know. But they have a certain something that attracts men
You can learn a lot from those wise women about how to get his interest in irresistible ways. None of these gestures are difficult, all they require is a bit of thought about your actions.
Here are 10 sweet gestures that make you irresistible to men, according to psychology:
1. Light up the room with your smile
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The more you smile, the more he’ll like you. Give it a try! Smiles tend to be as contagious as laughter when they are authentic and reflect your personality.
2. Flatter him, sincerely
If you like something about him, tell him. Men love compliments and feel more confident when they know you like them.
3. Break the touch barrier
A small touch will tell him you are attracted to him. Neurobiological research reinforces that touching his arm or leaning against him slightly breaks the touch barrier as a signal you’re interested, and he’ll respond to it immediately.
4. Greet him warmly
When you meet him for the first time, give him a big hug, and tell him you’ve been looking forward to meeting him. Make him feel liked immediately — he’ll love the way it feels.
5. Be playful
Stop being so serious on your dates. Be playful, and silly, and have fun. Men love being around women who are having a good time, as supported by a study on playfulness and romance.
6. Keep it positive
Steer conversation to positive topics only (not your annoying boss, annoying neighbor, or general life frustrations).
7. Don’t mention other men
Don’t mention your ex or tell him how many dates you’ve been on. Make him feel like he’s the only guy in town. No one wants to hear about the other people their date is seeing.
8. Leave some things to the imagination
Don’t tell him your entire life story in the first conversation you have with him. Share something real about yourself, but leave him wanting more. Be mysterious and he will think about you more.
9. Don't be intimate until he’s your boyfriend
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Waiting is a smart (and safe) strategy. A commitment-minded man will like you more if you make him wait. Just make sure he knows you’re attracted to him and are a fan of sex — that’s important, but so is taking your time to get there..
10. Don't take him for granted
The Journal of Happiness Studies agrees that you should make sure you say, "thank you" more than once. Men respond to appreciation. They like to know that you notice what you're doing for them and that you're grateful. Men love that.
Give these 10 tips a try, and see how quickly they work for you. By having a clear intention of the behaviors men find attractive, you can better facilitate interactions on dates, so both of you have a good time, learn more about each other, and figure out if you are ready to commit to being one another's on and only.
Michelle Jacoby is a matchmaker, a dating coach, a relationship coach, and a dating and relationship expert. She is also the owner of DC Matchmaking.