Make Love, Not War: Is Your Constant Fighting Healthy?

Based on our own personal experiences, we can all admit that no couple gets along 100% of the time. In fact, it's completely normal to have differing opinions and for said opinions to create conflict. However, how much fighting is too much fighting? Is there a way to tell whether the arguments are covering up a bigger issue? When two people are so passionate about their relationship and each other, it only makes sense that they're willing to duke it out to get their point across. The problem lies in not knowing how to differentiate between a lover's spat and a full out war.

Joined by YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman and EFT trainers Elana Katz, Zoya Simakhodskaya, and George Faller, author Dr. Sue Johnson discusses the conflict that occurs in every marriage and how to overcome the difficulties that arise because of it. While personalities clash all of the time, it's important to find a way to effectively speak without blowing up at each other. In Love Sense, Dr. Sue Johnson stresses the fact that the moment that you stop confiding in your partner and begin avoiding fights altogether, your reservations will end upmaking things worse. For starters, avoidance has many destructive consequences in marriage such as feeling disconnected from your partner physically and emotionally. George Faller also makes a good point by mentioning that "When people are fighting, they still have hope, they think it can change. It's when couples aren't fighting anymore that they're both sitting it out and that's a lot of distance in a relationship. That's when you really have something to worry about."

Regardless of how often you're fighting or what you're fighting about, all relationships can use some work. Focus on reparing your marriage so you can save the precious bond that you share with your partner. If your marriage is on the rocks or you just want to learn the best methods for resolving marital conflict, Love Sense will point you in the right direction.