Dee Tozer, BA - Expert

I am a Couples Master Coach.

Why a Couples Master Coach? You may be curious as to what the difference is between myself and a Marriage Counsellor, a Couples Therapist, a Relationship Psychotherapist and so on. Well I am ALL of those, and on top of that I am a long experienced Psychologist with 27 years working with couples one way or another, and the last 15 years almost exclusively serving couples in crisis. What does that mean for you?...It means that I’m unlike virtually every other couples therapist or marriage counsellor out there…

NOT EVERY COUPLES THERAPIST OR COACH: 

• has real-world, 27 plus years of experience in applying the proven strategies I teach….

• will have helped over 3800 couples heal from deep hurt, re-connect, and transform their relationship to one that thrives….

• is a sage who generously and lovingly provides a no judgement, safe haven where you can unburden yourself from the pain and anguish you and your spouse are suffering….

• is a master educator who creates solid foundations by sharing her depth and breadth of knowledge in this complex area of couples in crisis…..

• will give you the perfect mix of couples’ transformation strategies, mindset shift coaching, and actions specific to you, which will show you exactly how to realign and rewire your relationship and life……

• will fully get the depth of your pain, understand your trauma, and provide you with the support, love, and specific guidance you need to experience relationship breakthroughs to catapult you into a new relationship that thrives. 

Need more convincing? Take a look at my Couples Stories here. Or book a connect call with me to see if we are a good fit. If you are struggling through a relationship crisis then don’t let the pain and disconnection drag on any more. Make contact and get help right away.

Most couples in distress have the following stuff going on: it might be put downs, hurtful words, angry reactions, vitriolic statements, raised voices, or even hurtful silences or walk aways. There could be trust issues, jealousy, dominance and control or competitiveness. All of these threaten the emotional security of one or both partners and a fight or flight response usually occurs. Which means that one partner or both, will either fight, or flee the situation….that is walk away….or eventually leave.

The Fight or Flight response is the basis of our self protective behaviour as human beings. The same goes for most animals who, when under threat from a predator, and their immediate survival is at stake, have to make an instantaneous decision to either stand up and fight the predator off, or flee from the danger. With couples relationship conflict it boils down to the same instinctive fight or flight response. However as humans in a love relationship we don’t usually bolt away in the other direction at the first sign of trouble, instead we put up all manner of defenses and attacks to protect ourselves which, if kept up for too long, eventually fracture the relationship and it falls apart.

Hence over many many years my role as a couples counselor and coach has evolved to provide couples with the learnings, understandings and skills which teach them:
- how to soothe each other and keep loving feelings alive
- how to recognize the cry for reassurance from their spouse
- how to break the resentment cycle
- how to remove the threat of break up and loss of family and loved ones
- how to dissolve the pain of feeling unloved or unloveable
- how to express concerns and talk to each other without destructive ridicule & on-going criticism and conflict

My starting point is to create the safe place for this couple to begin expressing their concerns in a non-threatening, non-judgmental, warm and friendly setting. Whether it be in person in my counseling rooms, Skype on line, or via my online course which will be opened up for its second release in January, you will feel heard and understood as I talk about the feelings you are probably experiencing which is what brought you to my page. The first session will put you at ease and help you find the initial steps towards sorting things out. Most often taking this first step starts to alleviate the overwhelming pain and you can see light at the end of the tunnel.

Typically it takes a program of 15 sessions either in person or by Skype to turn you and your mate around. Oh, can I hear you saying that’s a heck of a lot of sessions, we don’t have time for that!

I know how time-pressured life is these days so I have developed an on-line course of 8 sessions which may provide you with everything you need to get back on track. You can work through the sessions in the comfort of your home at times to suit your schedule. It is priced to give you great value for a very moderate spend. If you think a short succinct course is for you then you can register your interest on my website here and I will notify you when the course is re-released in January 2020. Or you can email me at hellodee@deetozer.com