4 Worst Types Of Energy Vampires In Your Life

The most widespread human activity on this planet is not what you think. What human beings do most, everywhere, anytime, is stealing other human beings' vital energy. As many Eastern healing arts and medicine (Traditional Chinese Medicine, Ayurveda, etc.) describe, we are mainly made of energy, in different levels of density (we have 7 bodies, or energy fields around our physical body). Every day, we burn some of it, a little or a great deal of it, depending on our lifestyle, activities, mental state, and relationships. So we need to refill our stock every day, or we end up depleted and sick, not to mention dead.

When we don’t know how to refill our energy stock healthily and naturally, we steal it from others. That's what we learn to do as kids; our first practicing targets are our parents. Human beings are entangled in this ongoing struggle and subconscious competition that explains many behaviors, situations, and conflicts.

When we grow up, we are supposed to learn how to let go of the techniques to steal energy. It is not always the case though, and some people become masters at it, and it becomes outright abuse. Problem: the victims are ... victims. Being depleted leads to a series of unpleasant to dangerous consequences for health on all levels.

It is therefore extremely important to know how to recognize those techniques around us, and to know who uses them. Many books have been written on that topic and I recommend you read a few. My favorite is The Celestine Prophecy, a milestone book authored by James Redfield. In that book, he describes four mechanisms of energy stealing. My practice as an energy therapist brought me to verify those mechanisms.

Here are the 4 worst types of energy vampires in your life:

1. The intimidator

Gets others’ energy by threatening, either verbally or physically, oppressing, imposing, and even beating up people. Fear empties the Kidneys meridian, where we stock our vital energy, and where is stored our original (= transmitted by our lineage) energy. The intimidator triggers fear, and then just has to collect the energy that leaks violently and completely from his victim.

How do people end up interacting and developing relationships with someone like this? Studies found that 40% of their respondents had dealt with abuse by young adulthood, so the chances are that this isn't the first time you've dealt with a toxic person like this.

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2. The interrogator

Gets others’ energy by questioning everything all the time. Children subconsciously use that technique. Adults use it out of excessive curiosity, and jealousy, to find the flaws and better belittle or criticize.

That mechanism empties the Earth Element (Stomach and Spleen meridians), which regulates self-confidence, the Gall Bladder meridian (focus, imagination, reflection), and the Heart meridian (interaction with others) because personal boundaries are violated.

3. The aloof person

Gets others’ energy by looking indifferent, withdrawn, mysterious, or secretive, which leads others to exhaust themselves trying to get their attention, wondering what is going on, and feeling guilty. That technique drains the Earth Element (self-confidence, anxiety/Spleen.)

@thewrighterica You might be acting this way in response to your partner (who may sometimes ask a bunch of questiojs and get anxious when you get quiet, which can trigger even more withdraw of “aloofness” in you. To learn more about this, google “Control Dramas in the book Celestine Prophesy” & google “Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Style” & google “Distencer - Persuer dynamic in relationships” More on the Aloof Architype: Aloof is a common response to an Interrogator parent or an Interrogator partner (Interrogator = another arcitype) – the Aloof copes with other people by acting distant. They might drop vague hints, which in turn may mean that you ask even more questions in order to engage with them. You can imagine how an Aloof person could use this as a defensive strategy, but also you can see how the aloof will encourage others to interrogate them to try to find out what they really think.The Aloof encourages the Interrogator, and the Interrogator encourages the Aloof.The Interrogator Architype: The Interrogator feels good (and safe) by asking questions that are borderline aggressive. Sometimesthey are aimed at making the other person feel small so that the interrogator can feel superior to them.Questions like “Why can’t you get it together and just get it right?”, “Why don’t you do that differently?” and “Why are you so messy all the time?” and “What’s wrong? I know something is weong. Come on, TALK to me!” are not nice questions are they?And questions like “You know why that happened don’t you?” are tricky because whatever you say they are going to say “Oh no no no, you’ve missed the point”.That’s the interrogator. If you recognize yourself in either the architype of the Aloof or the Interrogator, that’s okay - it’s just something to notice. There are actually 2 more archetypes that I’ll include here just so you can explore them: The Intimidator:The most aggressive one is the Intimidator, who steals energy from other people by dominating them and making them feel inferior, either with physical or verbal aggression, so the intimidator gets to feel better and the other people feel worse.This is similar to being rude and agressive. The “Poor Me”: Finally there’s the fourth way to control others and that’s the Poor Me.These people take the victim position, saying their life is awful and it’s all unfair, and they use guilt or pity to manipulate you.They might say “It’s fine, I’ll just carry on, I’m used to doing everything by myself” or even “After all I have done for you, you let me down like this.” Do you tend towards one of the four control dramas?Are you more of an Intimidator, an Interrogator, an Aloof, or a Poor Me?Or maybe you live with someone who is one of those, in which case do they bring out one of the other behaviours in you?These are the 4 ways we can steal someone else’s energy. Maybe now it’s time to break the loop!#relationshipcoach #relationshipcoaching #relationshipcommunication #relationshipanxiety #relationshipanxietyawareness #relationshipanxietycoach #communicatewithyourpartner #communicateeffectively #communicationskills #communicationtips #partswork #ifs #internalfamilysystems #emotionalintelligence #regulateyournervoussystem #codependency #codependent #anxiety #anxious #anxiousattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #attachmentstyle #innerchildhealing #shadowwork #lifecoach #rapidresolutiontherapy #rrt #relationshiptherapist #relationshiptherapy #marriagecoach #marriagetherapy #trustissues #communicationissues #communicationcoach #communicationskills #communicationproblems #communicationtips #gottman #gottmanmethod #gottmanapproach #gottmanrelationship #gottmantherapist #dating #datingadvice #datingtips #codependency #codependent #codependentnomore #codependentrecovery #confidencecoach #loveyourself #selflove #selflovejourney #selfworth #feelinyourself #peoplepleaser #peoplepleaserproblems #peoplepleasing #howtostoppeoplepleasing #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #spiritualtiktok #spiritualgrowth ♬ snowfall - Øneheart & reidenshi

4. The "poor me"

Gets others’ energy by complaining, telling you all the horrible things that happened/are happening/will happen to them, and making you believe it is partly your fault unless you help them. While writing that article, I can visualize you putting names on each profile (“That is exactly my partner!” “Oh yes, my mother always does that!…”). Very well, because that was my goal. Learn how to recognize the energy thieves, young and old.

But now, think about your profile. Do you recognize yourself in one (or more) of these descriptions? If the answer is yes, it is time to change your behavior. Your relationships will benefit wonderfully. Our energy fields constantly mingle, intertwine, and influence each other. Help yourself, and help others by gorging yourself with energy without stealing it.

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If you think you may be experiencing depression or anxiety as a result of ongoing emotional abuse, you are not alone. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone and is not a reflection of who you are or anything you've done wrong. If you feel as though you may be in danger, there is support available 24/7/365 through the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 1-800-799-7233. If you’re unable to speak safely, text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474.

Anne Cossé is a Certified Acupressure Practitioner and the author of Sleep Better, Safe & Easy Relief with Self-Acupressure, and Facial Rejuvenation Acupressure: Look 10 Years Younger.