If A Person Has Radiant Rare Bird Energy, Psychology Says They'll Usually Display These 9 Unique Qualities
People who are rare birds embody these radiant personality traits.
Valeriy_G | Canva Being an awkward teen forced me to take a keen interest in human behavior. People are quick to make snap judgments, and we can take advantage of this to strengthen our connections. A little extra awareness will change your life.
Being a rare bird isn’t about manipulation or deceit. It’s about being unique, being genuine, making others feel valued, and creating a radiant, rare-bird energy people want to be around. These are simple yet powerful actions that can transform how others perceive you.
If a person has radiant rare bird energy, psychology says they'll usually display these unique qualities:
1. Emotional control
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If you are quick to react with anger, you lose respect. Avoiding this is to nurture what I call "the Gap." Reactive people have tiny gaps, meaning they don’t create any space between a triggering stimulus and their emotional response. Non-reactive people command tremendous respect because they have nurtured gaps wide enough to allow any tension in themselves to dissipate.
2. Physical radiance
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Taking a little extra care for your appearance and your online presence creates a strange aura around you. Your appearance sends strong signals about how you view yourself. If you take care of yourself, others will want to take care of you. Caring about appearance and putting effort into one's presentation can positively influence social interactions, perceptions, and even career outcomes.
However, a 2023 study explained that these effects are often nuanced and depend on the context and cultural norms. While appearance can create a first impression, long-term attraction, and relationships are built on personality, character, and interactions.
3. Ability to hold space
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Holding space gives people room to speak their minds without cutting them off or rushing them along. Most people are too busy trying to come up with clever things to say next.
People end up sharing all kinds of personal stuff with me because I let them talk, and I allow the conversation to slow because I demonstrate my comfort in silence. If you rush, they rush, which diminishes the connection between you.
4. Relentless enthusiasm and focus
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Obsession conjures an unhealthy image these days. But nothing remarkable was ever created without an unreasonable level of focus brought to its creation. Enjoy many pursuits if you like, but find something to which you can bring relentless energy and attention.
The great disease of the modern age is to run from one shiny thing to the next. Be different. Whether it’s a specific language, an area of history, or even a narrow skill, like knitting beanies, elevate the object of your obsessiveness to the point you turn heads.
The appeal of hyperfocus stems from its potential to increase productivity, foster creativity, and create a sense of deep enjoyment and accomplishment. However, a 2019 study found that it's also acknowledged that prolonged hyperfocus can lead to negative consequences, such as isolation, missed deadlines, and difficulties with emotional regulation.
5. Self-deprecation
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There’s a difference between a doormat who continually complains about how terrible their life is and someone who throws in some humorous self-criticism.
Sporadically putting yourself down in a funny way is highly attractive because it demonstrates the very opposite of insecurity. You are secure in yourself to the degree that you can make fun of yourself. People love this.
6. Mystery
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Most people can’t wait for the opportunity to tell all about their problems and successes. They love being the center of attention. Mysterious and thus interesting people are slow to share things about themselves, though they don’t hide entirely.
This isn’t about being tight and guarded. You just aren’t swayed by the need to show off like most are. You are busy letting them talk, which immediately raises your status and intrigue. Being a bit mysterious can have advantages such as piquing interest and curiosity, allowing for healthy privacy and boundaries, and potentially enhancing attraction.
However, a 2019 study cautioned that excessive mystery can lead to confusion or mistrust, so a balance is key. Suppose people are constantly guessing or trying to decipher your mysterious nature. In that case, they create unrealistic or even inaccurate expectations about who you are, which can lead to misunderstandings or disappointment down the line.
7. Charisma
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Overly nice people are a dime a dozen. While most people try desperately to impress, you do it differently. Your charismatic compliments are rare, unexpected, and specific, and come from a genuine place. This makes you unforgettable.
8. Ability to diffuse tension
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Conversations often get heavy and serious. An interaction is often only "serious" because that is the frame participants have set. There are moments when seriousness is called for.
But often, when you can respond to a somber tone with a humorous one, the tension will dissipate, and people will admire you for your strength. You become a master of light.
Research suggests that being admired for strength can motivate self-improvement and inspire others. Still, if the admiration is unattainable, it can also lead to envy or frustration.
9. The 'it' factor
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It takes courage to say what others are thinking but are too afraid to say. It requires tenacity to do anything most refuse to do, whether it’s bringing a relentless consistency to your creative output, your fitness regime, or taking calculated risks.
Most people are determined to fit in, so when you do anything that goes against the grain, people can’t help but admire your 'it' factor.
Alex Mathers is a writer and coach who helps you build a money-making personal brand with your knowledge and skills while staying mentally resilient. He's the author of the Mastery Den newsletter, which helps people triple their productivity.