Psychology Says If You Can Master These 4 Skills, You'll Remain Happy Into Your 80s
The only person who can make you happy is you.
Asia Images Group | Canva Regardless of your version of true happiness, living a happier, more satisfied life is within reach. A few tweaks to your regular habits, like getting more sleep and exercise, can help you achieve this. Happiness is a skill that, once developed, can lead to a much more fulfilling life.
The key is to be happy anytime, regardless of circumstances or conditions. Cultivate this happiness mindset by being in control, and you will have a more fulfilling life. How do they get there? It's simple: They employ a few daily habits that keep them positive.
Psychology says if you can master these four skills, you'll remain happy into your 80s:
1. They look their best for themselves
"When my ex and I first broke up, it was a sweatpants party for weeks," says one 29-year-old woman. "I couldn't be bothered to shave, shower, or get dressed unless it was absolutely necessary for work.
But a friend eventually forced me into a routine of getting ready for me, and it felt amazing. Now I like getting dolled up and impressing myself — like, wow, you look amazing in those jeans! — and it'll just be icing on the cake when a new guy notices too."
2. They start the day off right
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"I never hit snooze. Instead, I wake up and immediately begin my day with something I love — reading, exercise, making a homemade caramel macchiato," says a 24-year-old woman.
"Doing something fun in the morning sets my whole day in positive motion. I think that's a good way for anyone to start the day, but as a single person, it's especially important to do this on the days you wake up feeling lonely. It's the best thing you can do for yourself."
Starting your day with positive routines and activities can significantly influence your overall happiness. It sets a positive tone and can contribute to better mood regulation.
A 2021 APA study showed that people who begin their day with a positive mindset tend to maintain that positive state throughout the day, leading to increased well-being and resilience against stressors. This concept is often linked to positive priming, where initial experiences can influence subsequent perceptions and behaviors.
3. They lean on their friends
"The worst part of being single is feeling like you're alone, right? So I make sure I never feel alone by staying in close contact with my friends," says a 27-year-old woman.
"I have friends with whom I chat about my day at work, and those who I regularly hang out with on the weekends so that I can beat those 'I'm going to be alone forever' blues."
4. They have hobbies
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"There was a time when I would get up, go to work, come home, turn on the TV, and fall asleep. That was my entire life," says one 30-year-old woman. "
And then I was like, I am boring even to myself! So I went to the nearest craft store, grabbed a canvas and paints, and channeled the former high school artist in me.
It's so much more fun to come home and do something I enjoy. And I think it will make me a more interesting person when I meet someone else."
Engaging in hobbies is strongly linked to increased happiness levels. According to a 2010 study, hobbies reduce stress, boost self-esteem, foster a sense of accomplishment, and promote the release of feel-good chemicals like dopamine and endorphins, ultimately contributing to a more positive mood and overall well-being. Creative hobbies like painting, writing, or music can be influential outlets for self-expression and emotional release.
Jillian Kramer is an award-winning storyteller. She's been featured in Food and Wine, Glamour, SELF, Brides, and Women's Health Magazine.