8 Habits Of Women Who End Up Old, Lonely, And Talking To Their Cat, According To Psychology
Nobody plans to grow old alone with their cat, but some habits might be pushing you in that direction.
Maria Lupan | Unsplash No one wants to grow old, feel lonely, or be isolated alone with just their kitty as company, yet many people unintentionally adopt behaviors that lead to these outcomes. Whether they push others away, fail to invest in friendships, or refuse to embrace change, these patterns can make aging a solitary experience.
It’s often said that our strength lies in our vulnerability. But what about those women silently battling loneliness yet too strong to let anyone in on their secret struggle? Understanding these habits can lead to deeper connections, stronger communities, and fewer lonely hearts.
Here are the habits of women who end up old, lonely, and talking to their cat, according to psychology:
1. They only date arm candy men
Life isn't a music video, and chasing that kind of lifestyle will only lead to drama and poverty.
2. They treat men as ATMs
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Both men and women have a lot more to offer than just money. If money is your only criterion, you're probably going to end up alone.
A 2023 study found that a strong focus on money and financial success can negatively impact relationships, potentially leading to stress, conflict, and even decreased relationship satisfaction. A healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, understanding, and open communication, essential for navigating financial challenges together.
3. They're heartless
This isn't always a sign that you're gonna end up alone, but if both men and women are telling you that you're not treating people well, you might want to listen to them.
4. They don't last more than a week with someone before they get bored
Once you're bored of them, you ghost them and look for someone new. Feeling bored in a new relationship can stem from a need for novelty and stimulation, potentially influenced by individual differences in boredom proneness and relationship expectations.
According to a recent study, expectations play a role in diagnosing whether someone is bored in their relationship, with boredom occurring when there's a growth-type expectation gap.
5. They ghost people, then call them back up when they decide they want them again
This is a classic alone-for-life action, and if you're doing it to people, stop. If you aren't proud to be with him, why would you lead him on or be with him? You're better than that.
However, a study by The Pew Research Center explained that a reluctance to be seen publicly with multiple dating partners could stem from embarrassment, keeping options open, or a desire for privacy. Some individuals might experience dating anxiety, which can manifest as a fear of rejection or a worry about how their dating experiences will be perceived by others, leading to a preference for keeping relationships private.
6. They don't date for genuine love
These types of girls don't date to find love, nor do they show love. If the reason you date is to find a guy who has money or the ability to give you a picket-fence-perfect life, then you might end up lonely and alone.
7. They're cavalier about cheating
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This is a clear sign that you're going to end up alone with a bunch of cats because only a lonely girl would cheat on loyal guys. Feeling unfulfilled, neglected, or lacking emotional or intimacy in the primary relationship can lead to seeking satisfaction elsewhere. A 2023 study concluded that some individuals may cheat due to a desire for novelty and excitement or a lack of challenge in their current relationship.
8. They're more concerned with appearances than reality
If you're chasing an Insta-worthy life with a guy without actually being interested in him as a person, you're not it. A 2017 study explained that while physical appearance initially plays a role in attraction, long-term relationship satisfaction is more influenced by personality, compatibility, and shared values than by looks alone. An unhealthy focus on appearance can lead to perfectionist self-presentation, which can be isolating and detrimental to relationship functioning.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer whose work has been featured in Yahoo, BRIDES, Your Daily Dish, New Theory Magazine, and others.