Lose The Baggage! How To Get Out Of Your Relationship Slump

We can all admit that playing the dating field is super frustrating and downright painful. And when you finally get into a relationship, only to realize that your man isn't the person you thought he was, it can be a serious letdown.

You constantly put yourself out there, only to end up with a broken heart. The worst part is that when you are finally ready to move on and start all over again, you can't help but bring your baggage with you.

It's not as if you are actively trying to hurt your chances at finding love. After being burned by your last relationship, it's clear that the hurt still lingers. Who can blame you? Getting over the past isn't as easy as all of those Hollywood films make it out to be.

Is it really possible for you to get rid of your baggage and find the happy, healthy relationship that you crave? (For cynics, that sounds like more of a dream.)

For Nadette, a 45-year-old casting director who just recently ended a year-long engagement, that dream became reality. Nadette entered and won YourTango's Love Life Makeover contest, earning the privilege of taking on a 31-day love life makeover with Dr. Diana Kirschner, bestselling author and renowned relationship expert.

In this first episode of our Love Life Makeover video series, Dr. Diana helps Nadette identify and let go of unhealthy dating patterns in order to help her get over her past relationships. This video will prove why every single relationship is a learning lesson for future ones.

Don't believe us? 

YourTango's 31-Day Love Life Makeover Challenge comprises 31 days of expert love advice aimed at helping readers—single, married, taken and starting over alike—life their best love lives. Check out the Love Life Makeover blog for more advice.

Are negative beliefs hurting your love life? Check out "6 Dead-End Dating Patterns—And How To Change Them," an adaptation from Dr. Diana's new book, Sealing The Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love.