New Year's Resolutions For Better Sex In 2011

Whether you are coupled or single, here are a few resolutions to get your “Year of Pleasure” started.

First of all, do some redecorating. Look around your bedroom – does this room make you feel sensual and sexy? If not, it’s time to spruce things up. Our surroundings can have a significant impact on how we feel. Think about it – we spend time in nature or go to a house of worship to feel connected to something greater than ourselves. In contrast, when we want to let loose and have fun, we go to a bar. In this way, we use the energy around us to help create a different mindset. So make use of your bedroom in this same way. Chose fabrics, incense, artwork, mirrors, music, candles, and pillows to create an effect that helps bring out your sexual animal for the new year!

Second, have a panty raid! Go through your panty drawer, and in the spirit of the new year, use an “out with the old, in with the new” mentality. Buy yourself a few new sexier styles, or start wearing regularly the ones you save for special occasions. Either way, treating yourself to sexier underclothes will help you tap your sexy side.

Third, food can be a very sensual part of your life. This year, when you grocery shop, keep this in mind. Forget the corn chips and go for the juicy, creamy, and succulent stuff. Ripe peaches, tart olives, and ice cream might do it for you. Finger foods can be very sensual, as can food that is grown from the earth rather than processed. Take your time when eating to feel the textures and flavors of the food in your mouth. Savoring food can be great practice for savoring sex! Click here for healthy options.

Finally, I often encourage my patients to write their own fantasy. Give your creative, sensual brain a chance to construct a love scene just for you. To begin, think about what very specific gesture might feel good right now. Perhaps your lover approaches you from behind and softly kisses your neck, or you receive a dozen roses from a secret admirer, or a stranger looks you intently in the eye on the subway. Start here, and then imagine your next move, and go from there. Soon you’ll have a page that can make you squirm with delight – or share your excitement by gifting it to your lover.

So I hope I convinced you that New Year’s resolutions are a fabulous idea. If you do make a New Year’s resolution, let us know. Sharing your resolution with others may very well help you keep it. Here’s to making 2011 a very happy, sensual year!

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About the author: Dr. Marianne Brandon is a clinical psychologist and Diplomat in sex therapy through AASECT. Dr. Brandon is Director of Wellminds Wellbodies LLC in Annapolis, Maryland. She is author of Monogamy: The Untold Story and co-author with Dr. Andrew Goldstein of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido.

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