The Master List For Attracting Your Soulmate

I hear it all the time. Dating sucks. I must admit, at some point in my life, I was probably guilty of sharing that sentiment. That said, we all instinctively know that attitude creates a self-fulfilling legacy. 

I always tell people if you are going to date, you have to be willing to date simply for the thrill and joy of dating. You’ve got to be in a serious place of appreciation and honest excitement about the prospect of meeting and dating new people with no agenda.

This specifically means no agenda of finding and marrying “the one.” That agenda has a way of spinning all manner of not-so-soul-mate-attracting vibes. 

One strategy I highly recommend during the dating process for bringing in “the one” is a master list of positive qualities. This means every guy or gal you go out on a date with isn’t the one; the goal is to figure out what all of their positive qualities are you appreciate.

You milk them for every positive quality you can get from them, and if they aren’t the one and you move on, you move on happily, inspired by their best. Your goal with dating isn’t to qualify them for the job of your significant other. Your goal with dating is to observe and document everything super cool or even just plain pleasant things they have going on.

By doing this, some cool things happen.

* Because you are focused squarely on the best in others, you get more of that. People tend to show you exactly what you are looking for.

* You also tend to attract in others what you are focusing on. So, if you are focused on all the best qualities in the person you just dated, you are much more likely to attract other people into your life with those great qualities and other cool qualities that are similar.

* You start creating a notebook of “best qualities” that starts to paint a very clear picture of your ideal future mate. Maybe the only good quality about the last guy you dated was his hair or his car.

But hey, great hair and a hot car are nice things. Put them on the list and move on. Use all your dates, great, good, or disastrous, as a muse for building a better mate. And don’t forget to document, document, document. 

There is something very powerful about the written list of good qualities in black and white or pink gel pen on parchment. This could be the most important list you ever make.

In the end, for all those you date who aren’t “the one,” you leave them with a smile. You leave them on whatever level, in some way great or small, feeling appreciated and honored because it was your goal when you sat down for that first cup of coffee. 

In the very end, when you meet Mr. and Ms. Right, you will recognize them without question. How? You will have a notebook perfectly describing all their best and most fabulous qualities.

Lisa Hayes C.Ht. is a law of attraction relationship coach and author. She specializes in helping people get the love they want, no matter where they are in their lives.