11 Traits That Give Off Bad Vibes Without Anyone Meaning To

While people have good intentions, their habits may have the opposite effect.

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We all have different habits, behaviors, and characteristics that make us unique individuals. From body language to communication quirks, we're not always aware of how we are being perceived by others. And while we may sometimes have good and innocent intentions, there are certain traits that give off bad vibes without anyone meaning to.

While people may have good intentions, the habits they exhibit can actually just come from their insecurities, shyness, or discomfort. Without knowing how to handle these traits, they end up sending the wrong signals and making others feel uneasy or unwelcome. 

Here are 11 traits that give off bad vibes without anyone meaning to

1. Lack of eye contact

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Being able to maintain eye contact with someone while they're talking is the best way to show that you're not only engaged in what they're saying, but that it's interesting to you as well. 

When someone is unable to meet your eyes during a conversation, it can come across as rude, but maintaining eye contact can be hard for some people.

study published in PLOS One found that people are more likely to trust a person's statements if they make direct eye contact while speaking. 

There are definitely small adjustments a person can make to ensure that they become just a little bit better at having eye contact, and prevent themselves from giving off bad vibes.

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2. Over-apologizing

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When someone is known for apologizing excessively, especially for things that aren't their fault, it can leave a negative impression on others. 

While knowing when to apologize is a valuable skill, someone constantly apologizing is one of the traits that give off bad vibes without anyone meaning to. It can also mean that they lack confidence and would rather please everyone in the room than have to stick up for themselves.

According to cognitive behavioral therapist Joanna Hardis, "Just because you feel anxious doesn't mean you did something wrong that requires an apology. 

Once you get some distance from the situation, if you still think you need to apologize (and you're confident you're not doing it to mitigate the distress), go for it. The key is to respond to the situation versus your feelings."

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3. Being intense too soon

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For some people, it doesn't take much to connect with others. Whether that means giving their entire life story in one fell swoop or trauma dumping, they can come across as being too intense, which can leave a negative feeling for others who are trying to get to know them.

It may feel a bit overwhelming to know such personal details about a person you've just met. And though there's nothing wrong with taking your time to open up to others, if you desire to form meaningful connections, it's best to take a slower pace

It doesn't mean you have to always keep your cards close to your chest, but the most loving and nurturing relationships are with people who have gotten to know you organically.

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4. Interrupting

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When someone is talking about something or just trying to vent about the problems in their life, the best thing you can do is listen. Whether it's from a moment of enthusiasm, wanting to show them that you relate, or just a bad habit, interrupting someone while they're talking can make them feel quite small. 

After a while of it happening, they won't want to engage in conversation with you because they know that you'll just talk over them or won't hear them out.

"A discussion can take only so many interruptions before it ceases to be a discussion," explained life coach Sherri Gordon. "For this reason, chronic interruptions are conversation-killers that disrupt a healthy exchange of information."

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5. Fidgeting or having nervous habits

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Research from the University of British Columbia found that misokinesia, a common condition defined as the "hatred of movements" that are repetitive, like fidgeting, can actually cause overwhelming distress for people when they see others fidget. 

While a person who often fidgets probably isn't doing it to make others uncomfortable, it can definitely come across that way, making it one of the subtle traits that give off bad vibes without anyone meaning to.

Tapping your fingers, moving your leg up and down in quick succession, or even pacing around a room are all traits that can be seen as distracting. It can trigger anxiety in others and just end up giving bad vibes all around. 

These habits are quite common, but it can make a world of difference if you're able to control it.

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6. Having sarcastic or dry humor

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While having sarcastic or dry humor is a way to showcase wit and charm, it can also come across as offensive or create a misunderstanding. When sarcasm or dry humor isn't recognized for what it is, it can end up being taken as passive-aggressiveness or even mean-spirited.

"These folks also often harbor passive-aggressive characteristics and simply don't have the ability to be real about emotions, or fear confrontation were they to speak their mind. 

They, therefore, employ sarcasm, a sort of cloak-and-dagger approach to communication," explained licensed mental health counselor Anthony Smith.

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7. Having a lack of engagement in conversation

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Being able to engage and participate in active conversation is an important trait and can help form connections with others. 

On the opposite end of that, lacking engagement in conversation, whether that's being distracted, having minimal responses, or being obviously disinterested, can make the other person trying to converse with you feel invalidated and ignored.

A 2023 study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that people can often underestimate the ideal balance between talking and listening during first interactions. 

We can all learn to improve our skills when conversing with others, but the key starts in learning to be more engaged.

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8. Not understanding personal space

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There's nothing worse than waiting in line at a store and feeling the breath of the person standing behind you because they're unable to understand the importance of personal space. 

You never want to be that person who's always up in someone's face when you should just take a step back.

Invading someone's personal space is one of the traits that give off bad vibes without anyone meaning to. It's a big vibe-killer and causes physical discomfort in others when they're subjected to the loss of their space.

It doesn't take much to keep a bit of distance between you and someone else when you're interacting with them.

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9. Having an 'intimidating' resting face

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If you're someone whose resting face makes you unapproachable, you may have gotten that you seem intimidating or that you give off negative vibes. There's really nothing a person can do to fix their resting face, as it's just based on your facial structure.

It can end up creating an air of unfriendliness and misunderstandings though, and while there's no way to just walk around all day with a smile on your face, it can help to supplement in other ways. That means going up to people instead of waiting for them to come up to you or making an effort to incorporate small gestures to show that you're not disinterested.

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10. Rushing conversations

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Rushing through a conversation with someone can lead to an impression that you don't care about the other person's feelings, thoughts, or ideas. 

Whether it's because you're late to get somewhere or you simply don't have time to have the conversation, in general, there are better ways to politely let someone know you need to continue talking to them another time.

But simply rushing them to finish talking or making obvious gestures that you need to go, like checking the time on your phone, darting your eyes around looking for the nearest exit, or huffing as they continue speaking, is downright rude behavior. 

It gives off bad vibes and makes people not want to engage in conversation with you, knowing you're always on a time crunch.

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11. Giving too many compliments

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Compliments are a nice thing to hear from someone, but if you're constantly giving out compliments, after a while, they can start to feel disingenuous and forced. It won't be long until people start to wonder whether the compliments they're receiving are actually real or just a way to get on their good side.

According to clinical psychologist Leon F. Seltzer, PhD, "Most of us thrive on compliments and flattery precisely because they can buoy us up, warm our hearts, and allay old fears and self-doubts. But praise has its dark side, too. Much more than we typically realize, it can constitute a kind of verbal bribery, offered primarily to serve the interest of the person offering it."

Because it's one of the traits that give off bad vibes without anyone meaning to and can come off as manipulative, there are a few things to be cognizant of. If you're giving a compliment to someone, it's best to either be specific or just compliment them when it feels right, instead of believing that you're always obligated to.

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Nia Tipton is a staff writer with a bachelor's degree in creative writing and journalism who covers news and lifestyle topics that focus on psychology, relationships, and the human experience.

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