How To Reframe Your Thoughts To Manifest Your Dream Life
Your thoughts create your reality.
by Thaís Sarmento from Pexels You have over 70,000 thoughts each day and 95 percent are repetitive. Your thoughts create your reality.
Your subconscious mind does not think in terms of past, present or future. It also does not know the difference between what’s real and what’s not real. It just accepts what you tell it.
Your words mold and shape you. They cause you to form your beliefs and from that, your actions arise. To create a business and life you love, you have to become a gatekeeper of your words you choose. Plant the best words, with the best intentions, and the best possible outcome into your thoughts every moment of the day.
This is consciously creating your future.
Sounds easy, right? The truth is that it is this simple and this hard all at the same time.
Consider what you do when you want something, you say:
"I want ..."
When someone finally gets to a place of truly wanting or desiring something, they can comfortably say, “I want.” That expression produces two states of consciousness.
One is the realization that there’s something you don’t currently have, but would like to have. It’s positive and proactive because it tells your mind the direction you want to go next.
From a more challenging place, that thought of “I want” also tells your subconscious mind that you are in a state of lack.
There is an awareness that you’re missing something, which can inspire all kinds of thoughts and feelings. Distracting thoughts and feelings.
It’s good to know what you want. You can’t reach a goal if you don’t know where you want to go.
But if wanting causes you to attach to negative feelings of “being less-than,” or “not good enough,” or “failure,” then you won’t progress through to the goal.
To get what you want, you have to get clear about it and then take the next step. This requires bravery. And assertion. And clarity.
Be brave here … Choose what you want, then put it out to the universe that you’re ready for your desire to manifest.
Instead of saying "I want," try "I am ..."
When you say I am, you're consciously creating your future. You are stating to the world, God, your highest self who you are in the form of a statement that’s clear and wise. It’s also simple so the universe can’t be confused about your desire.
It’s through that clarity that life will provide you the means to have what you truly desire.
In this way, shifting from “I want” to “I am” can change the trajectory of your goals.
Here’s an exercise for you to make this real:
Every time you make a statement of “I want,” reframe that to a new statement that begins with “I am.” By training your mind to refocus your words to “I am,” you'll attract what you are, not what you want.
To the best of your ability, make all affirmations in the present tense. This takes the statement from one of lack to one of “already having.”
For example:
Re-state: “I want a home with a loving family where I feel safe and secure.”
To: “I am now ready for a home with my loving family where we feel safe and secure.”
If you’re ready for a little more, try this:
Say out loud to yourself: “I feel so relaxed and at peace with my loving family in my wonderful home.”
And instead of focusing on the words “home,” allow your mind to focus on the feelings this home will bring to you: relaxed, warm, loved, content, at peace.
Create a visualization of the sun shining through one of the windows. Maybe you hear your children’s voices laughing in the background. The smell of a meal being cooked by your beloved in the other room.
Bring your vision into your senses and breathe it in. Watch out for the saboteurs: “I can’t,” “I won’t,” or “I never …”
Each of these phrases is like a dirty little trap in your mind. They rob you of your peace and cause you to get distracted from the goals and wishes that filled your heart.
- What happens when you say “I can't," is you're telling yourself and your subconscious that it’s not possible. Eliminate the word “can’t” and begin to think from a place of infinite possibilities. Talk about your dreams in the present tense.
- When you say “I won’t,” you’re telling the universe where your boundary is and what you are unwilling to do. But it creates a laundry list of things you won’t do instead of focusing on what you will do. It’s much faster to clarify your list of healthy beliefs vs manufacturing a big list of negative beliefs.
- When all else fails, try to move your “I won't” to “I am,” and you’ll see faster progress manifesting your goals.
Instead of, “I won’t date men who have commitment issues or kids from another relationship or past money issues," etc., direct your thoughts to the positive and say, “I am ready for a loving partnership with a man who is healthy in his mind, body, and soul.”
Finally, when you say “I never …” you are opening yourself up to victim energy inviting more of that to your life. By focusing on what you don’t have, you are not living in the field of infinite possibilities. You’re asking for more of the same.
Replace “I never” thoughts with positive thoughts. For example, instead of saying, “I’ll never find work that pays well and is fulfilling” say, “I am worthy of all the universe has to offer me and more.”
Jacqueline Neuwirth is a Certified Life Coach, CPCC, and Master Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner. She helps people find love, heal from toxic relationships, boost confidence, and improve relationships.