Why Are People Selfish & How To Deal With Each Zodiac Sign That's Unkind
It's easier than you think.
What makes a person selfish? Is it greed? Is it the desire to be the best? Is it malice?
Many people think you have to be selfish to strive forward in life. Most can agree however, that it is not a favorable quality.
No one really likes to think of themselves as selfish, but what you might not realize is how you are selfish without even realizing it.
Being selfish can come in many different ways, whether you’re too focused on one specific thing, or you fail to see the imbalance in your relationships.
We often see celebrities do things we perceive as ridiculous, such as giving their child a unique name - some may call flat-out strange.
A child’s name will follow them through their life, and they can develop issues from bullying to discrimination based on this.
Being selfish is not just making a ton of money and then not contributing to society. There’s more to it. It affects everyone.
At the heart of the problem is self awareness, or the lack thereof. Self awareness is the key between a selfish person an a selfless person. Many times, it takes years of experience and growth to understand this.
It’s ok to be selfish when you’re young, you still have a lot to learn.
But as a guide, this can help you understand all the ways people don’t even notice how selfish they are and you will be better prepared to deal with them.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Impulses and lack of patience means they will rush into things without thinking of the consequences. Aries wants to do things just to be first. They fail to understand that first is not always best.
Although generous at heart, Aries should take a step back and observe their surroundings instead of having tunnel vision. Give an Aries a reality check every now and then, they will grow to appreciate that.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Taurus’ materialistic nature is fuel for their greed. They are the most selfish of the signs. Dealing with a selfish Taurus means letting them have their way and outsmarting them.
They are stubborn and will not compromise, so trying to reach common ground with them will prove to be a difficult task within itself. Taurus needs to understand suffering to sympathize.
They are not bad people, but they need to look at the state of the world to appreciate the little things in life. Travel the world, see what others go through, and they will grow.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Gemini tend not to be greedy, and value communication so they are willing to hear people out. A selfish Gemini is chatty, and lack the self awareness to notice that.
They can leave you stranded when talking to someone they come across and generally get caught up in conversations that aren’t necessary. Patience is important when dealing with Gemini. Keep them on track and they will excel.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Cancers may come off as selfish due to their amassing of products and other things. They have a hard time letting go, which can annoy people because Cancer can get stuck on something and have trouble moving forward.
They are selfish this way because they don’t take other perspectives into account. They will persuade you to believe they are right and are decent manipulators. Remember their persuasive skills when dealing with Cancer.
LEO (July 23-August 22)
Leo’s may live lavishly and be quite boastful about their wealth, however they are the most generous of the signs. A selfish Leo is one that may be have a false belief of superiority.
They are vain and may seem to not pay attention to those around them. Remind Leos that they are the same as everybody else. Kick them off their high horse but do it gently, they can get lost in their ways.
VIRGO (August 23-September 22)
Virgo’s frugal nature can be perceived as greed, but in reality, they just like to save. They are workaholics and can get tied up paper chasing, which can cause them to alienate themselves to those closest to them.
Although they have goals, their determination in chasing those goals means that they lose focus on the people in their life. Dealing with them means reminding them that they have a life and that it’s worth enjoying.
LIBRA (September 23-October 22)
We know Libras are all about fairness. They love dispersing everything evenly, but balancing everything is not an easy task. Libras can get caught up when it comes to making tough decisions, and will avoid confronting the truth at all costs.
They are selfish in terms of delivering bad news/looking like the bad guy. Being nice is not always a good thing, especially when you pass up an opportunity to correct something. Show Libras the value in being stern and honest at all times.
SCORPIO (October 23-November 21)
Scorpio’s are not generally very selfish. They just like to be in control. The selfish Scorpios are manipulative though, and dealing with them means not letting them control you.
You must stand up to a Scorpio to let them know you have a backbone and will not tolerate that. Scorpios know they are intimidating, so when they see that their intimidation is not working, they will respect you. Just do it respectfully, of course.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21)
Sagittarius loves to give. They are kind-hearted people but have a hard time stabilizing. This means they are prone to getting into financial trouble. They are too trusting and do not value money much.
They have a sort-of care free attitude which can prove to be selfish because they are too lax. They may need help at one point or another any will just expect stuff to be handed to them because they are quick to give. Life doesn’t work that way, and they can spend an eternity to pay back a loan or favor.
CAPRICORN (December 22-January 19)
Capricorns are cautious with their funds and think things through. However, this isn’t the case when it comes to family matters. They have good management skills and are tough negotiators.
Capricorns are notoriously stubborn and a selfish one will do whatever it takes to make sure they move forward. They tend to do everything themselves and don’t allow opportunities for growth and creativity to thrive. You must prove your worth for them to accept your way.
AQUARIUS (January 20-February 18)
Aquarius are humanitarians. They do not let money or materialism rule their life. But, they hate people who don’t agree with them. They can debate hard, but will not compromise.
Their view of the world is the foundation for their activism. They aren’t privy to let ideas go because it can ruin a lot of time and effort they spent. To deal with a selfish Aquarius, get all of your facts straight and make sure you a valid argument. They will consider your take if it’s backed up well enough.
PISCES (February 19-March 20)
Pisces are some of the most giving people. They are prepared to save the world, even if it means sacrificing themselves. The problem with them is that even if they don’t have the means to help themselves, they will still seek to help people.
They fail to see how they can progress and keep everyone happy because they take it as their responsibility to help. They often escape the real world and isolate themselves in periods that can be lengthy due to this.
They like to be alone and may not communicate with the outside world which may seem like they don’t care when in reality, they care too much. Pisces wants and deserves reassurance.
Brian Montes is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.