Why He Can't Get Over You, Per Astrology
He can't get you out of his mind.
pexels There are some exes we just can't get over. Even after the relationship is over, when someone makes an impact on our lives, it's hard to let them go.
This doesn't always mean you want to get back together with your ex, or even that you want to continue being friends with them after breaking up, but it does mean that the effect that they've had on your life is one that can't be forgotten.
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When your own ex keeps trying to talk to you, hit you up on Instagram, or text you like you didn't go through a horrible break-up, it could be because he's missing having you in his life. Look, I already know just how fabulous and irreplaceable you are, and clearly if he's not over you just yet, he feels the same.
While the urge to rub it in his face that he's not over you might be strong, let's look at this in a more positive light. The reason your ex can't get over you is because he saw something in you that was unforgettable.
And now that you've broken up, he's having a hard time living without that unforgettable thing. Yes, it feels good to know that you're so wanted even after a break up, but whatever quality of yours he's missing in his life should be used for good.
Think about it from his perspective. When you're not over someone after a break up, consider the reason why. Is it the actual person you're not over, or are you missing the kindness or security that your ex had? He might not be in your life anymore, but that doesn't mean you can't find someone who can bring those same qualities to a new relationship.
Likewise, it's not up to you to let your ex back into your life when he's having a hard time getting over you, but you can use that unforgettable quality of your personality or even yoru horoscope sign to strengthen your relationships right now and in the future.
One fact you might find interesting is that men often take longer than women to get over their exes. Having a hard time getting over your ex can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, of course.
That said, men tend to try the "get over it" method that doesn't really give them any sense of closure (which is why he's still not over you), while women feel the emotional toll of a break-up almost immediately after things end, which gives them the ability to cope faster and in a healthier way.
In short, it's better to let yourself be sad and cope with a break-up in your own time instead of trying to rush things because you just want to get over it.
Using astrology, here's why he can't get over you, based on your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
He can't get over you because you were exciting and spontaneous, Aries. You brought an energy to his life that he can't find in anyone else. You are certainly unique – not everyone can be like you. And now that you're out of his life, he's quickly starting to realize that, too.
Every day with you felt like a new adventure to him. The reason he can't get over you is because his life is starting to feel like a boring routine now, instead of the constant fun it was when you two were together. Don't be surprised if he tries to get back together with you.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
He can't get over you, Taurus, because you were a role model and inspiration to him. He honestly looked up to you as someone he could see himself being like one day. You inspired him to be his best self every day, and he won't soon forget that.
Not only did he look up to you as a person, but he looked up to the way you cultivated relationships. Sure, the relationship between you two is over, but he appreciated how hard you worked to keep things happy and healthy while they lasted.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
One of your best qualities, Gemini, is how witty you are. You know you've found someone extremely special when you're able to keep each other laughing. The reason he can't get over you is because you brought a sense of intelligent humor to his life.
The other reason he can't get over you is because you always challenged him. Rather than let him be comfortable in his routine or feeling average, you challenged him to go after that new job, be more outgoing, and step out of his comfort zone. Without you around to root him on, it's hard for him to keep doing these things alone.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
He can't get over you – and really, neither can any of your other exes – because you of your big heart. You were always willing to welcoming home with open arms and a warm heart, and he never wanted to take that for granted.
You were also always so forgiving. Relationships can be hard at times, but it's always better to be kind and forgive than to fight over nothing. He knew that, no matter what happened between you two, you could always work things out.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo, he can't get over you because you gave him the confidence to be himself. In a world where everyone is expected to live up to certain expectations, you taught him the importance of being himself.
You have a confidence that is unmatched. He looked up to you because he knew that you were always willing to teach him what was most important in life. He's going to miss that about you, but he also appreciates having you in his life at all.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
One thing that everyone loves about you, Virgo, not just your exes, is that you always follow through. When you say that you're going to do something, you do it. When you were together, he knew that he could always count on you to stick to your word.
In addition to that, you always worked hard for the relationship. Even when work kept you busy and your squad had a weekly night to get together, you still made sure he felt like a priority. Not having you around anymore is a serious hole in his life.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
The reason he can't get over you, Libra, is because you were his calm in the storm. Whenever life felt like it was too stressful for him, or he was feeling down on himself, you were there to lift his spirits.
One of the things you like doing in your relationships is letting the person you're dating know that you'll always be there for them. Being his constant might not have been something he appreciated enough when you were together, but now that you're not, he's thinking about just how much he wishes you were still around.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
It's not always easy for you to open up and be vulnerable, being a Scorpio and all, but once you find someone you really care about, all of that changes. The reason he can't get over you is because your vulnerable side showed him just how special he was to you.
He's still thinking about you because you were his safe space. He knew that he could come to you with any problems he might have, or just to vent about his day, and that you would listen carefully to him. It's not always easy to find a connection so pure as the one you had with each other.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
If you ever know what it feels like to meet someone who completely changes your life for the better, then you know exactly how he felt about you. The reason he can't get over you is because you were a breath of fresh air in his otherwise simple (and boring) life.
You took him on countless adventures, got him to try new things and get out of his comfort zone, and brought experiences to his life that he didn't have with anyone else. He can't stop thinking about you because you were unlike anyone else he's ever known.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
When you're in a relationship, Capricorn, all of the effort you put into your own success gets redirected to helping your partner find success, too. The reason he can't get over you is because you pushed him to succeed in life.
You're no stranger to hard work and putting your nose to the grindstone. And it's important for you to be with someone who is just as motivated as you. You were his driving force when you were together, and now that it's over, he's trying to get back to how he felt when he was with you.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
One of the most important things to you in a relationship, Aquarius, is building a foundation that can never be broken. When you were together, he admired your ability to build a lasting friendship before building something romantic – which made sure that the relationship would last.
The reason he can't get over you is because he didn't just lose a romantic partner when you broke up; he lost a best friend, too. He would give anything to have you back because you were there for him on so many levels.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
The reason he can't get over you, Pisces, is because you made him feel understood and loved fully. He knew that even when the world was cruel and unforgiving, you were always there to give him a hug and a shoulder to lean on.
These same qualities are what make you such a great friend, as well. Anyone who is important to you in life knows that you have enough love and understand for everyone. He might not be in your life anymore, but he's certainly thinking about you all the time.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.