How To Turn Your FWB Into A Real Love, By His Zodiac Sign
How to make him yours for real.
Unsplash Some friendships come with a little extra perk, called benefits, but sometimes you catch feelings and want something more. FWB is a workaround to falling into the friend zone, and as long as you play by the rules, no one gets hurt, but some rules are made to be broken when it comes to real love.
Having a friend with benefits (also known as a FWB) is having someone in your life that you can hook up with without all of the feelings and responsibility that come with a real relationship. A lot of people prefer to have a friend with benefits because they can still get what they want and not have to be serious about one person. In fact, a lot of people who have friends with benefits tend to have more than one.
What makes this set up so great is that whether you have one friend with benefits or more than one, there are no strings attached, so nobody’s feelings get hurt (as long as you play the game right). Some zodiac signs were made to have friends with benefits.
They are the kind of people who prefer casual relationships over serious ones, and they know how to keep their real feelings separate from something that is just casual hook-ups every now and then. Other zodiac signs need to be in a serious relationship to be happy.
They can’t do casual hook-ups or FWBs because they tend to catch feelings and want something more from their partner. If you want your friends with benefits related to work out, you need to follow the rules, otherwise, things can get out of hand.
One of the main rules of having friends with benefits is coming to a mutual agreement at the beginning of the relationship about what you both want. As long as you keep communicating, you can probably pull off having a friend with benefits pretty easily.
Of course, there is still the chance that one or both of you could end up catching feelings for the other person, which can complicate your situation. That said, some of us want to turn our FWB into a real relationship. This is certainly possible, but you have to play your cards right. The main reason you started being friends with benefits in the first place was to have casual hook-ups with no strings attached, right?
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So, if you want to turn your situation into the real thing, you will have to go into it knowing that there’s a possibility that the other person might not feel the same way about you.
Of course, you can always use his zodiac sign as help when trying to figure out what he needs to be happy in a real relationship. Every horoscope wants something different, and if you know what would make him happiest, you will stand a real chance to turn your FWB with him into something real and serious.
One of the best things about transitioning from friends with benefits to a real relationship is that you already know what the other person likes. There is no “get to know you“ stage that takes time and a lot of awkward dates before you become comfortable with each other.
I mean, you’ve already seen each other naked, so all that’s left is to work on your emotional connection with each other. The strongest relationships are ones that are built on emotional closeness.
Physical closeness can be important to some couples, but if you want to move out of that FWB territory, you’re going to have to open up to him and show him that there’s more to you than the relationship you already have with him.
This is going to take time, but with the help of astrology, you can figure out what he’s looking for in a partner. You will have to work together to find a situation that you’re both comfortable with, but it is possible!
But before you can get into all of that messy details, here are the first steps you need to take to turn a friends with benefits into a real relationship, based on his zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Being FWBs works for Aries because he gets whatever he wants from you without the commitment. You're at his beck and call, which sounds kind of sexy but really isn't. If you want to turn this FWB situation into a real relationship, you gotta make him work for it.
First, you need to stop being his friend. If he thinks you're just his "buddy" then he'll think he can treat you however he wants – show him you're serious about this relationship. Charm him and show him a whole new side to you. He only knows you as his FWB, so show him the real you.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus is one of those people who easily gets into a routine and doesn't think to try anything new until someone else suggests it. So, if you're FWBs and it feels like there's no future relationship in sight, it could just be because he got comfortable with the routine – don't lose hope!
If you want to turn what you have into someone more, take him out on a date. Keep it casual so you don't totally throw off your dynamic, but make sure he knows that it's definitely a date. Taurus loves being in relationships, so he'll see this bold move from you as something good.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini is one of those people who tend to bounce from person to person, depending on how he's feeling that day. That means there's a good chance he has more than a few other FWBs lurking around somewhere. If you want to turn this thing into a relationship, you gotta work hard.
He's clearly into you (otherwise he wouldn't waste his time), so don't be afraid to ignore him a little bit (he'll come to you). Stop being so available to him and tone down the flirting. Make him chase YOU for once instead of always being there when he texts you the eggplant emoji at 2 am.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer is scary good at being able to separate his FWBs and his real relationships. A lot of people think he gets too hung up on one or the other, but he's a serious pro. While that sounds intimidating, it really just means he knows what you want to be with him, based on your actions.
If you want things to become a real relationship, show him that he has the makings of a real boyfriend. Let him take care of you by making you dinner or picking you up from work. And show him you like when he's around, too. Above all else, he wants to feel wanted.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo likes having FWBs because they're like friends... with benefits. What I mean to say is that Leo likes having friends, and if he's lucky enough to turn those friends into something more, he's happy. That said, he also likes relationships – you just have to show him that's what you want.
Part of being in a relationship is introducing your partner to your friends. Your friends want to know what makes Leo so special to you, and Leo will appreciate you making him a part of your life. Reveal an important part of yourself to him and he'll see that you're serious.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Before you start thinking up ways to turn Virgo from FWB into a real relationship, know that he's super serious about who he dates. He's the kind of person who would rather be single than be in a relationship with someone who isn't in it completely (that means you have to work for it).
The best way to do this is to be caring. Virgo will help you if you help him, so do favors and be there for him when he needs it to show him you want him, not just his body. And on that note, don't let your give-receive ratio only count in bed – show him you want to be a team!
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra is one of those people who are constantly searching for people to worship and adore him – but not in a shallow way. What can he say? He just really likes being in a loving, romantic relationship. So, if you want to be with him for real, you need to sweep him off his feet.
Do this by showing him that he's the only one for you. FWBs can get messy and impersonal if you're with more than one partner, so stop seeing other people! Drop the hint that you're a one-guy person and that he's the one guy you want to be with.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Some guys just need to be told the truth! You can't expect to catch someone like Scorpio without being totally honest with him. If you never speak up, he'll always think you just want to be his FWB and not in a real relationship.
If you want things to get real with Scorpio, you have to be honest with him. Don't beat around the bush, drop hints, or expect him to read your mind. Just say, "Hey, man. We're good together. Let's make a real relationship work." He'll definitely find your boldness and honesty crazy attractive.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius has a deep, intelligent side hidden beneath all of that silliness and casual outer shell. The difference between FWB Sagittarius and Relationship Sagittarius is the side of himself he shows to you. Seeing Relationship Sagittarius means getting deep.
Show him you want to be in a real relationship by talking about the hard stuff. Shoe him you're interested in more than just the physical connection with him. Have intellectual conversations, show your true self, and don't be afraid to get profound and emotional!
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn likes FWBs because it's his way of keeping things casual and fun while still being able to keep up with his busy schedule. It sounds kind of shallow, but it works for him. That said, he expects you to be honest with him if things aren't working for you.
You have to be assertive if you want to show him that you're worth a real relationship. Limit last-minute booty calls with him. Don't let him hit you up out of the blue and expect to come over. Is he too busy for a real hang out but still wants you? Too bad! Make him work for your time.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius is another zodiac sign that prefers FWBs over real relationships. He's never been a fan of relationships and all of that lovey-dovey stuff, so you're going to have to show him that it's really worth it – otherwise, he'll tell you he needs space and finds someone else to replace you.
If you think you could be good together, spend time outside of the bedroom. Be his friend (not just his FWB) and prove to him that there's more to you than just a few minutes of pillow talk you allow yourself before you leave. Prove to him you want this by making a consistent effort.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces is definitely more of a fan of real relationships over FWBs, but he won't be the first to admit it. If you're FWBs with him, he's going to let things run their course (he can get shy). But if he knows you want something more, it might spark him to take the next step.
Above all else, he wants someone who will be there for him. Life can get stressful and crazy, but knowing he can lean on you when he needs support means the world to him. Learn to get serious with him (instead of keeping it casual) by listening to him and attending to his needs.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.