What He Wishes You'd Quit Doing, Per Astrology
He may love you, but that doesn't mean he's in love with everything you do.
pexels You know that one thing your boyfriend does that drives you absolutely insane? Maybe it’s the way he’s always canceling plans at the last minute.
Or forgetting to text you when he’s coming home late. Or getting too drunk at family parties and making everyone uncomfortable with suggestive jokes about your sex life.
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Whatever it is, there are things about your boyfriend that are—let’s just say, NOT the reason you fell for him. Well, good news: He has things he can’t stand about you either! Awh, relationships are fun!
Obviously, in any relationship, it’s important to talk to your partner about the things that are bothering you. On the other hand, there’s something to be said for choosing your battles.
There are going to be things that bother you about your partner, and pointing out every single one of them in the name of radical honesty isn’t healthy, it’s called nagging.
Just like you don’t want to be a constant nag, neither does your boyfriend. So yes, the reality is there are probably things about you he wishes he could change, but at the end of the day, he knows most of them just aren’t worth bringing up.
For the most part, this is probably a healthy approach. Of course, if you suspect your boyfriend is feeling bothered by more than just your quirks and minor peccadillos, it may time to have a bigger conversation. Otherwise, there’s nothing wrong with keeping his minor hangups to himself.
In the meantime, you can always mine his astrological chart for his secret relationship pet peeves. Whether it’s your bad habit of always stealing his food or your complete refusal to ever pick a restaurant, there are certain relationship behaviors that some horoscope signs just can’t stand. Here’s the one thing your guy wishes you’d stop doing, according to his zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Be on time, please! Your Aries guy lives a dynamic life all about speed and competition. He wants to be first in everything, and he can’t do that if you keep showing up late to your dinner reservations!
Your Aries man operates on a tight schedule, and even if he’s the only one holding himself to that standard, he’s definitely holding you to it, too. The bottom line, he wants you to stop being late, whether that’s showing up to dates or replying to his texts. But hey, you can’t rush perfection.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus is a simple man. He’s grounded, reliable, and when he says something, he means it. This also means he can’t stand change. If you have a tendency to be fickle or indecisive, Taurus wants you to stop changing your mind.
Taurus guys are very sensitive to shifts or changes in the relationship, and sometimes this heightened sensitivity causes them to create problems where there really weren’t any in the first place. When you change your mind about something, even if it’s something small that has absolutely nothing to do with your relationship, it makes him start considering the fact that you could change your mind about him too. At the end of the day though, his fear of change isn’t your problem, and you can’t let it hold you back.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
The Gemini guy is wild and carefree. He lives a fast-paced, adventurous life, and he’s not interested in being tied down. Gemini wants you to stop sticking to the same routines and patterns. Whether you always order the same thing on the menu every time you go out to eat or you’ve made Friday night takeout and Netflix a hard and fast relationship rule, your Gemini man wants you to break out of your comfort zone.
Gemini men are the definition of can’t be tamed. They need constant adventure and stimulation and they dread routine and repetition more than anything. They just can’t grasp why anyone would want that kind of life, and when they see you comfortably in the throes of a stable routine, they can’t help but be irked by your complacency. However, the reality is that routine and stability are the foundation of any lasting relationship, and even Gemini knows he needs to settle down eventually.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Your Cancer guy wants you to stop asking him what’s wrong, which is pretty unfair, considering Cancer men are famously moody and pessimistic. He expects everyone else to just accept his mood swings without question. If you make the mistake of taking his sudden coldness or irritability as an indication that something’s wrong (like any normal person would), he gets frustrated that you’re “making it about you.”
Frankly, dating a Cancer is no picnic. He expects you to just overlook his mood swings and then act like everything is normal after. This isn’t necessarily fair or healthy, but sometimes the Cancer guy really does just have his moods. If he says nothing’s wrong, just take his word for it and don’t keep pressing him. In some ways, he’s basically a toddler. He’s just fussy and will probably feel better after a nap.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
He wants you to stop ignoring him! Unlike most guys who will accuse you of being clingy if you so much as text them unexpectedly in the middle of the day, Leo wants all the attention he can get. It’s refreshing, really. To a point anyway.
Even Leo knows he can’t have all your attention at all times, and since this zodiac sign is also known for his pride and confidence, you’ll never catch him actually asking for attention or validation. Deep down though, he always wants more, so don’t be afraid to throw your guy a bone every now and then and surprise him with a cute text or random compliment. It’ll make his day.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Your Virgo man wishes you would stop taking unnecessary risks—which, as far as Virgo is concerned, includes pretty much any risks at all. What you call being laid-back or spontaneous, Virgo sees as lazy and reckless. Whether it’s your spending habits, outfit choices, or weekend plans, your Virgo guy probably wishes you’d reign it in and tone it down.
It’s not that Virgo is a total stick in the mud, per say. But he’s very practical and has a very methodical approach to life. Everyone’s entitled to their opinions, and as long as your Virgo man doesn’t get controlling, it’s fine to take his opinions into account. A Virgo can actually be a good partner to have around when you’re trying to focus on moving forward or making big life changes. Just make sure you don’t let Virgo’s overly cautious nature crush your vibe.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Your Libra guy secretly wishes you wouldn’t act so different around your friends. The Libra man prides himself on living a life of radical honesty and authenticity (cue eye roll), so he can’t stand conformity. He’s very sensitive to shifts in your behavior and personality, especially as they apply to different social settings. He assumes only he knows “the real you,” and he’s very put off by any perceived inauthenticity on your part.
Hate to break it to you, Libra guys, but everyone adjusts their behavior according to different settings and social circles. It’s not being “fake,” it’s called acting like an adult. He should try it some time. Also, who is he to assume only he knows the real you? Maybe you’re actually your real self around your friends and donning a completely manufactured persona in the relationship. How would he know?
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
The Scorpio man is the textbook example of a jealous lover, and he wants you to stop texting that guy you told him not to worry about. Scorpios are famously passionate lovers who lead very intense love lives. Unfortunately, this also makes them very jealous and highly suspicious in relationships.
Most people will tell you a little jealousy in a relationship is healthy. If your guy is feeling insecure, there’s nothing wrong with easing his mind and reassuring him that he has nothing to worry about (as long as that’s true, anyway.) However, if your guy is acting overly suspicious or accusatory for no reason, that is toxic behavior that you should not stand for.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
When it comes to dating pet peeves, Sagittarius men are as typical as it gets: they want you to stop being so clingy. Shocking. Truly original.
Yes, everyone needs space in a relationship, and everyone deserves to ask for the space they need. That said, the “clingy girlfriend” stereotype is so tired and over, and any guy who feels the need to reach for that offensive cliche can kindly go back to whatever 90s sitcom they crawled out of. If your Sag guy needs space, he can ask you nicely in a way that shows respect for your needs as well as his. If he uses the word “clingy,” tell him you’re more than happy to give him space—for the rest of his life. Bye.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
If you don’t have anything nice to say about your guy’s family, Capricorn would prefer you don’t say anything at all. Yes, that’s right, Capricorn, the MOST judgmental sign of the entire zodiac, wants YOU to be less judgmental. Let that soak in.
Here’s the deal. Capricorn is super judgmental about everyone and he does not hold back when he has an opinion about someone, which is all the time. That said, Capricorn also has very strong family ties, and he’ll always come to their defense. Of course, that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have anything bad to say about them. Capricorn judges his own family as harshly as he judges everyone else. You’re just not allowed to join in on that one.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
The Aquarius guy wishes you’d stop picking fights. He loves being right more than just about anything, but he’s not particularly interested in having to fight for it. Aquarius men pride themselves on being free thinkers, and they love soapboxing on all of their groundbreaking new ideas. But as soon as someone challenges one of those ideas, the Aquarius guy is out. He’s just there to show off, he wasn’t counting on having to actually defend any of his ideas.
He’s the same way when it comes to your relationship. He just wants to be right and is never prepared for you to challenge him. Um…too bad? If he can’t handle a challenge, then maybe he should date...no one?
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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces are famously sensitive creatures, also known as big cry babies (I can say that because I am one). Your big cry baby of a Pisces boyfriend can’t take criticism, so he wants you to please stop calling him out. You’re hurting his feelings.
Obviously you don’t want to be constantly needling your guy, and there’s no reason to intentionally hurt his feelings. If you know he’s particularly sensitive about something, maybe lay off a bit. Then again, Pisces are particularly sensitive about almost everything, so maybe he just needs to toughen up.
Kayla Kibbe is a writer wrapping up her final semester at Connecticut College where she is an English major with a concentration in creative writing. She writes about astrology, love and relationships, covering everything from dating and single life to love and marriage.