9 Subtle Signs Of A Woman Who Is Radiantly Attractive To Others, According To Psychology
How to get any man to want you by exuding radiantly attractive energy.
Terricks Noah | Unsplash When a woman possesses a truly beautiful soul, she exudes a certain kind of magnetism that is radiantly attractive to others. It’s not always about the most apparent traits, though. Sometimes, it’s the subtle behaviors that reveal her inner beauty.
Research on evolutionary theory suggests men are driven to seek out cues of fertility and reproductive value in potential mates. This often manifests as a preference for youthfulness, physical attractiveness, and bodily symmetry, which are seen as indicators of good health and reproductive capacity.
However, the most effective behaviors are often overlooked, yet they hold the secret to understanding the depth of someone’s inner beauty. And the best thing? They’re not complicated or grand gestures, but simple, everyday acts.
Here are the subtle signs of a woman who is radiantly attractive to others:
1. She challenges you
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You wouldn’t want to date someone who is a total doormat, would you? Probably not. That’s why most people who are super-nice don’t end up with people who respect them.
The problem is that most people are socialized to believe that being nice wins people over. That’s only half the truth because being genuinely nice and yet assertive is what wins people over. For many men, a woman who presents a certain level of challenge can be appealing because it activates their innate desire to pursue and conquer, tapping into primal instincts related to mating and proving one's worth.
A 2012 study explained that this phenomenon is often linked to evolutionary psychology and the concept of mate selection, in which men are naturally drawn to partners who require some effort.
2. She has a familiar vibe to her
Speaking from personal experience, I’ve noticed that most men love the idea of the wild, exotic free spirit, but they’ll never settle down with her. There is indeed some truth to men wanting someone like their mother. After all, most people do want to recreate things from their childhood lifestyle in their own adult family as well.
3. She's interesting
Having a partner with myriad interests is generally appealing because it fosters a sense of individuality, prevents relationship stagnation, allows for personal growth, and demonstrates a well-rounded personality, ultimately contributing to a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.
According to a 2023 study, while having separate interests is beneficial, some shared interests are still crucial for creating a connection and fostering shared experiences.
4. She takes responsibility for her own emotions
Most guys, save for the White Knight crew, do not want to date a classic damsel in distress. They don’t want to have to “save the day” or be responsible for another person’s happiness. If you’re emotionally healthy and practice emotionally healthy things, that’s a huge plus in most books.
5. She enforces boundaries
She draws boundaries when necessary and has the strength to assert herself. Research emphasizes that healthy relationships generally benefit from clear communication and the respect of personal boundaries, regardless of gender.
Communicating boundaries helps prevent misunderstandings and conflict in relationships. Setting and enforcing boundaries can empower individuals to make choices that align with their values and needs.
6. She exudes kindness and gentleness
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Here’s the thing that most guys are aware of: truly, genuinely kind people are rare. If you have that trait, guys will take notice more often than not. A 2021 study found that kindness is a highly valued trait in a potential partner for men.
It is often considered even more important than physical attractiveness when seeking a long-term relationship. Kindness signifies positive qualities like warmth, empathy, and reliability, which are crucial for building strong emotional bonds and a supportive partnership.
7. She's alive and happy
A sunny personality is super-attractive, regardless of what gender you are. If you’re always on the move, vivacious, and funny, then you probably are getting a lot more attention than someone as bitter as I am.
8. She is unapologetically authentic
Have you ever been in a room with a person who you literally could just feel secretly judging you? Or, have you ever spoken to someone who you really couldn’t figure out what the real person behind their smile was? It’s a really tense, uncomfortable feeling.
Unfortunately, a lot of us don’t feel like we can be ourselves around people, and that tends to make us give off that vibe. When a guy feels this, he runs. Can you blame him, though? Men generally find women who can be themselves as partners highly appealing.
A 2018 study explained that this indicates authenticity, confidence, and a strong sense of self, which are considered desirable traits in a long-term relationship. This aligns with the likes-attract principle, where people tend to prefer partners with similar values and personalities.
9. She holds her own
Most men resent the idea of a woman who only wants to date them based on their income. If you don’t want to keep a career after dating him, there’s a chance he’ll end up dumping you. Be your person, and chances are you’ll attract a better level of people and a lot more respect.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer whose work has been featured in Yahoo, BRIDES, Your Daily Dish, New Theory Magazine, and others.