4 Unusual-But-Scary Narcissistic Traits That Often Go Unnoticed
These are under-reported and often unnoticed until it is too late.
Flotsam / Shutterstock The internet seems to be flooded with articles about narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and narcissists' manipulation tactics.
Sometimes, you may recognize the signs of narcissism, but never think they go beyond a lack of empathy or making everything about themselves.
After several personal encounters with narcissists, I would like to share some of the more unusual narcissistic traits I have observed in people with a destructive personality disorder.
Here are four unusual-but-scary narcissistic traits that often go unnoticed:
1. They have a voice that doesn't quite "fit."
Unusual as it sounds, narcissists often have a voice that doesn't quite seem natural. This is because they speak to create an impression, rather than to communicate, and quite often they don't quite pull it off. It is not unusual for a narcissist to speak in an incongruously posh way while in a certain company, or to change his/her accent dependent on the company.
2. They have a perfect smile.
Unfortunately for members of the opposite sex, narcissists often tend to have extremely photogenic, attractive smiles. Well, wouldn't anybody if they practiced it all day long in the mirror? The lack of genuineness in a narcissist's smile can be very picture-friendly; however, it is never truly beautiful.
There is something unsettling about the way in which a narcissist's smile sits, quite Cheshire cat-like when there is nothing really to be beaming about.
3. Their eyes are incredibly intense.
Another trait that can, unfortunately, be considered attractive is the narcissist's seemingly deep, focused stare. This can be mistaken for a seductive gaze, depth of thought, or even deep emotion. However, when a narcissist looks deeply into your eyes, the only thing they are gaining delight from is how they appear to you.
4. They have encyclopedic knowledge.
Also adding to narcissists' "wonderful" personas is the way in which they seem to know something about everything. This is partly because they have the capacity to remember information due to the lack of time they spend building meaningful relationships, and partly because they have no qualms at all about BS-ing you.
If the information they are providing you with is incorrect, they will never admit to their fault. And God help you if you call them on it. It is difficult to admit that somebody you have known, trusted, and perhaps even loved is a narcissist, but if you have reason to suspect it, then there is likely something in that.
These four narcissistic traits are not the sole signs of narcissism you should look for when detecting a narcissist. But if they share signs of an emotionally abusive relationship, it is time to call for closure. Please let these traits act as potential warnings for toxicity and allow yourself to be aware, informed, and in control.
Rosalind Bruce is a music teacher and Philosophy graduate with a keen interest in life, communication, and the sharing of knowledge. She writes on mental health, the maintenance of relationships, sexuality, and speaking up to help others.