7 People Reveal Their Spouse's Sex Fetishes (And How They Found Out)

Sometimes we discover we're into kinky things have sexual fetishes because of our partner. We discover something new through them and we don't know what to make of it.

Still, the question remains: How did you discover your partner was into kinky things? What were they into? Did they enjoy being peed on, or spanked, or wanted to try some voyeur action? How did you feel about it? How did they tell you? What happened? What was the moment you discovered your partner had a kinky fetish?

We asked people to tell us that story, and we got some pretty amazing answers:

1. My boyfriend wanted me to spank him.

"I was just out of college and had started dating a hunky, athletic guy that had just got out of the Marine Corps. One night, we were having sex and as I was building up to an orgasm, I gave him a hard slap on the ass. His face lit up with a smile and he said, 'Harder please!' It turned out that my 'man of steel' really liked being dominated in bed with as much hard spanking, slapping, pinching and biting as I could dish out to him. The bonus of this new aspect of our sex life is that it unleashed my inner dominatrix which I had no idea was lurking inside of me," says sexpert Coleen Singer of Sssh.com.

2. She was really into suffocation.

"My college girlfriend was riding me in my pitch black bedroom one night and wasn't being as vocal as usual. My roommate pulled into the driveway and left his headlights on long enough for me to see in the glow that she was covering her mouth and nose with one of my dirty gym socks. Turns out she was just into suffocation," says Stephen P. of Motorbunny.

3. He had a stocking fetish.

"I learned that my boyfriend had a stocking fetish on our first night together. We had already been on a date and this time I knew that we were going to have sex. When we went upstairs there were stockings and a garter belt laid out on the bed. He wasn't shy about telling me his fetish," says Julia Allen, pioneer female entrepreneur and co-founder of StockingsVR.

4. We went to a swinger's club.

"He suggested one night that we go to a type of sex club. I really didn't know what I was getting into. There was no pressure from him at all. He let me take the lead so when I was ready to play (initially I just wanted to watch people have sex), I was really ready. That's when I discovered that his real fetish was watching a bunch of guys come on my face. He made it seem like it was all my idea," says Allen.

5. We took a golden shower.

"I discovered that my boyfriend had a pee fetish. We were in the shower one time when he peed on me. At first, I didn't know what to think. Then he started getting hard and I suggested that he lie down on the ground so I could pee all over him. I've been into watersports ever since," says Allen.

6. He had a mommy fetish.

"I realized the guy I'm having sex with has a mommy fetish. It's kind of hot. At the beginning he would just say something like "hi mommy" on text messages and I thought he was commenting on our age difference... but then during sex he would say something like "I love my mommy".... and then a few months later he would say "do you live your little boy?" It took me a while to get into it, but he was so handsome. It started to get deeper even like "is this mommy and my little secret" and I would have say "yes... you can't tell anyone what you and mommy do." It got weird. When I looked up the fetish after kind of feeling weird about it I learned that it has nothing to do with incest and more to do with a females dominance over him." —Janie, 33

7. He wanted me to tickle his butthole.

"When I first started giving my new boyfriend blowjobs, he'd always slide my hands downward and I assumed it was to massage his balls. After a few more times, he'd open his legs wide and move my hands lower towards his ass. After asking him to use his words, he told me that he really enjoys some ass tickling simultaneously." —Rachel, 38