12 Things Women Wish Guys Knew About Playing With Our Boobs
All you need to know about breast and nipple play.
Getty If there's one thing that guys love almost as much as they love a vagina, it's boobs. Throughout the centuries, men have praised women's breasts — wanting to look at them, play with them, and suck on them.
But as awesome as breasts are for both the person playing with them and the person they're attached to, sometimes breast owners really wish they had a user manual so they could teach their lovers how to suck boobs the right way.
After all, if done just so, it is entirely possible for women (and men) to have nipple orgasms.
To help out in that department, I've written this brief guide for anyone interested in taking their nipple and breast play game up a notch or ten.
Here are 12 tips for men on how to suck boobs and play with nipples to turn a woman on.
1. Make sure the woman in question likes having her boobs sucked or played with.
Some women really aren't sensitive there at all, so don't get upset if she doesn't moan. It's sad but true that some women just don't have sensitive nipples, and others truly dislike the feeling of having theirs played with.
You can suck on them all you want if she gives you consent, but you'll never really blow her mind no matter what you do if nipple play just doesn't get her aroused.
2. Help her relax first with a gentle neck and shoulder massage.
Particularly if she has large breasts, a back massage and shoulder massage is a great prequel to breast play. Breasts can get very heavy, and that means some women can get back pain just from hauling them around all day.
If you want her to relax, a foreplay to the foreplay back massage can help.
3. Gently knead her breasts with the same kind of motion.
It's rare to find a woman who isn't happy to receive a breast massage from the person she's into.
Believe it or not, it's possible for women to carry some tension in their chest muscles. This is particularly true if it's during that time of the month.
4. Keep in mind that the size of her breasts has nothing to do with her pleasure.
The size of a woman's breasts does not influence how sensitive her breasts or nipples are. There are some flat-chested women who really prefer getting their boobs sucked more than receiving oral sex. There are large-chested women out there who are very "meh" about anything involving their breasts.
Basically, don't assume things because of her size.
5. Pay attention to the way she touches herself.
A good way to tell if and how she wants you to play with her boobs is by watching to see if and how she puts her (or your) hands on them.
If she's trying to seduce you and if she does this, chances are she wants you to play with her breasts a bit. She probably wants you to suck on them, too. Don't go off track and start playing with a different body part she's not trying to call your attention to.
6. Don't limit yourself to playing with her nipples.
Depending on the woman, the entire area around her breasts can be pretty sensitive. Focusing in on the nipples may not do much for some women when you're ignoring the rest of a fairly large erogenous zone.
7. Don't get aggressive unless she asks you to.
Please don't assume a woman wants you to create a vacuum seal on her nipples. Getting too aggressive often just makes the entire experience painful.
8. Do not bite her nipples or breasts unless she tells you it's OK.
As mentioned above, women's breasts vary in sensitivity. Some women love a little biting, some love a lot of biting, and some don't like any biting or nibbling at all.
It's an entire spectrum, and that means that it's best to be careful until you actually learn a bit about the boobs you're touching. If you aren't sure how rough or gentle you should be, ask her.
9. Don't get too focused on whether or not her nipples are erect.
Nipples have a mind of their own. If you're sucking on them and they don't get erect, please don't think she's not having fun.
A woman really can't control what her nipples do. Much like your penis, nipples don't always do what they're "supposed" to do when they're supposed to do it.
10. Don't be afraid of a little breast milk.
Be aware that if you suck on her boobs frequently and vigorously enough, there's a chance she might lactate. This is true for both women who have had kids and women who haven't.
It's usually not a lot of milk unless you actually put in the effort to make a lot of milk happen. Plain and simple, don't freak if it happens.
11. If that turns you on, ask her if she's OK with you trying to make her lactate.
Some women aren't just OK with breastfeeding their boyfriends, they actually love it. This is one of those things that some women find weird, but others find very intimate.
If you are into that idea, there's no problem with at least broaching the subject.
12. Don't stress about whether or not you're doing a good job.
Most women love it when the man they're with gets excited about foreplay — breast sucking and touching included. It shows us you care in the most awesome way possible.
Don't worry about whether or not you're doing it well enough. If you've followed the advice above and she's still there and seems to be enjoying herself, chances are she's having an excellent experience.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a Jack-of-all-trades writer based out of Red Bank, New Jersey. When she's not writing, she's drinking red wine and chilling with some cool cats. You can follow her on Twitter.