Why I Don't Kiss On The First Date ... I'd Rather Give Head
Kissing on the first date is as useless as having just one glass of wine.
weheartit Let's face it: kissing is overrated.
This isn't a Disney movie where you live happily ever after just by having one kiss. Sorry, but it's gonna take a little more work for me to want to spend the rest of my life with someone and we'd be lying to ourselves if we said sex wasn't a big factor in our lives.
When I go on a date with a guy I'm always taking my mind elsewhere. I always wonder how big or small his penis is, is he cut or uncut, how long can he last? (It's good to focus on the important things.)
During my time in the dating field I've come to learn that kissing isn't all it's cracked up to be. I've kissed a lot of frogs throughout the years and not one of them has turned into a prince.
Most of the time, I had nothing in common with them! But I was still sexually attracted to them and wanted to get into their pants. Here's why I would rather give a blow job than kiss on the first date.
1. It's not all about chemistry.
I'm not that type of person who feels that there needs to be chemistry in order to blow or sleep with a guy. Sorry people, we're in a new time and a whole new dating world. Some say they have to kiss a lot of assh*les before they meet the one. Not me. I'm done kissing. I want to know up front (and down below) what you're all about. I'd rather go in for the kill and just give you head straight-up. After dinner, that is.
2. Just because I want to blow you doesn't mean I want to date you.
Sometimes when I go down on a guy, he'll think we should date. No, we shouldn't. It's not about running away from someone who likes me, but sometimes a blow job is just a blow job, nothing more. Some guys we meet in our lives are just meant for one thing. And once you get the thing you want, it's time to move along to the next thing. Nothing more, nothing less
3. Kissing means way more than a blow job.
Others may not agree with this and that's fine. It's just how I see it. Before I kiss someone for the first time — or anytime for that matter — I have to have that connection, that passion, that drive to look into his eyes and pull him closer to me. I want to have that feeling of holding him in my arms. Since I haven't had that feeling in my most recent dates, I stopped kissing.
4. I'm 30, single, and still giving blowjobs to guys in cars.
Most people my age want to meet someone, get married, and start a family. Many have begun to settle for anything that comes their way, thinking that time is running out. Most of my friends are in relationships and I couldn't be happier for them. It's just not for me — yet.
Relationships take a lot of work and compromise. I just haven't met that person that I'm willing to compromise for. While my friends are out being happy and cute with their partners, I'm still meeting guys online and blowing them in cars. I see no downside to this.
5. Dating is fun ... and other bullsh*t lies I tell myself.
With all the dating and hookup apps out there, it's easy to find someone to sleep with. With a touch of a screen you could meet a new fling basically anytime you want, but it's finding that person that you want to kiss, hold and look into their eyes that's the hard part.
Sometimes, we meet people who should only be in our lives for a little while; they are the ones that help us see and understand what and who we truly want in our hearts — and that's perfectly okay, too.