Seductive Clothing: A Symptom Of Sex Addiction?
That desire to look sexy all the time can be an addiction that can ruin your life.
At this time of year it seems people, both men and women, opt for the most glamorous of clothing as they attend the various office parties and social functions of the winter holiday season.
New Years Eve tops it off, particularly for women, and wearing something eye catching is definitely the look everyone is striving for. But, for some women, the desire to look sexy all the time isn't just a product of the season; it is an addiction that is ruining their lives.
While not all women that have a sex addition will develop the urge or impulse to constantly dress and act seductively, it is a major part of the addiction for many. Often these behaviors will escalate in nature until the provocative dress and behavior goes from just being sexy and flirtatious to the need to engage in public exhibitionism and/or public sex acts.
Knowing when sexy is appropriate and when it is not is a big part of understanding if your friend, partner or perhaps even yourself may be leaning towards the beginnings of a sex addiction. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look sexy and to even choose clothing to enhance your physical appearance and make yourself attractive.
However, when you choose clothing based on this factor alone for all types of events and even daily wear, this is a good indicator there may be a sex addiction developing.
Some key factors to look for in a person's clothing choices that may indicate a sex addiction include:
1. Dressing inappropriately for the given event. This could include always choosing tight, low cut or revealing clothing for daily wear at the office, to go shopping or whenever in or out of the house. Keep reading ...
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2. Constantly wearing clothing that draws attention. Clothing that draws attention and is revealing and focuses attention on the body at all times is another sign of being focused on attracting partners. Again, for a night out at the club this is not a concern but it if is the most common style of dress there is something going on.
3. Pairing flirting behavior with clothing choices at inappropriate places and times. Anyone can show up dressed a little too sexy for an event but if they use their behavior to draw more attention to their sexy clothing they definitely didn't do it by accident. Combining sexy clothing with flirtatious behavior in the office, workplace or at other events and times that are obviously not social events is more than just trying to be a little sexy.
4. Not caring what other's think. People with sex addictions are unwilling to see other people's displeasure, disinterest or distain as being a result of their behavior. A sex addict could care less if friends or family tell them their clothing and behavior is inappropriate as long as it gets them the attention they crave.
A sex addict is going to use whatever means they see as effective to make them the center of attention. Recognizing this as an issue of the addiction can help in seeking help from an addiction recovery therapist before life completely falls apart.
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