5 Words That Are Infinitely More Romantic Than Saying 'I Love You,' According To Psychology
Do you say these words often enough?
Ivanko_Brnjakovic | Canva While they're the most sought-after three words in English, the phrase "I love you" is a bit vague — and justifiably so. Human emotions are so fleeting and nebulous that even Shakespeare had to invent a bunch of words in an attempt to describe them. Isn't it amazing how humanity has been spending thousands of years trying to define love?
"I love you" is a symbolic affirmation that implies loyalty and an overwhelming abundance of positive emotion. But it can mean so many things to so many people that it's essentially impossible to communicate the true significance of the word to the other person.
It's not just a feeling, it's a choice every day. Most married couples would agree with this with a YouGov poll showing that more than seven in 10 married people say that love is a choice. If you tell a person you love them, how do you prove it? Will your idea of proof be the same as theirs? Probably not.
But there are words more romantic than "I love you," and the phrase "I am there for you" suffers no such weakness.
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All we want is someone to be there even in our darkest hours, to be patient and kind when we need it the most. It's unambiguous. It offers you the opportunity to stand behind your words. It lets your actions speak for you. This is a great way to show you love someone, research from Penn State says.
It lets the other person know that you see them and that you would choose them no matter what their past is. And those actions mean more than any "I love you" ever could. Those actions could say "I love you" more than the words themselves.
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Saying words more romantic than "I love you" — "I am there for you" — means you're willing to do the work that a relationship requires. It says you can be leaned upon when your partner cannot stand on their own. It's a phrase of giving, rather than receiving. "I love you" is another way of saying, "You make me happy."
"I am there for you" is another way of saying, "I'm prepared to do what it takes to make you happy." It's the difference between enjoying reading and committing to writing a book — they both value you in their own way, but the latter will wind up saying so much more.
But regardless of intent, the words "I am there for you" are hollow and worthless if you don't back them up. You can sing your love from the mountaintops, but you'll still be drowned out by the volume of your actions if they don't reflect that love. Love is all about commitment and choice.
Bob Alaburda is a senior editor at dvm360. His writing has appeared in the Huffington Post, Ravishly, and more.