7 Unexpected Ways To Completely Charm A Man
Sweep him off his feet.
Volodymyr Melnyk | Canva You might not realize it based on their reaction to most romantic comedies, but men do appreciate romance. The thing is — when you’re a guy, normally, the expectation is that you’re going to be on the giving end of the romance and not the receiving end.
So what does romance mean to a man? Well, if you want to warm your man’s heart, there are sweet, unexpected romantic ideas you can use on your special guy to make him feel loved.
Here are 7 unexpected ways to completely charm a man:
1. Pick where to go to dinner
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The whole “where do you want to go" / "I don’t know where to do you want to go” dynamic has become such a relationship cliché, but it can be a real source of frustration with couples. There's that pervasive sense of “Why can’t you just say what you want and not turn this into a debate?”
If you want to show your man that you love him, give him a stress-free evening by stepping up and making the call about your dinner plans. No debate. Just “Yep, we’re going here.” He’ll love it. (Particularly if you pick a place he really likes.)
2. Run him a bath
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Most guys aren’t used to being pampered. They shower quickly, throw on some cologne, and that’s the end of their morning routine. So, if you want to give your man some extra romantic attention, why not set him up for his little morning spa?
Get a bath ready for him, complete with candles and your favorite bath bombs. Or if they’re not into sitting in a tub, get a foot bath ready for them, followed by a foot rub. The idea is — to slow down their hygiene routine and give their bodies some TLC.
3. Go see the movie he wants to see
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Go see that big dumb summer blockbuster without any complaints. You don’t have to fake overwhelming enthusiasm, but just be positive about going and keep the eye rolls to a minimum.
He doesn’t want you to pretend that you like it. He knows it’s not high art. He just wants to share a fun experience with you. Even mocking a bad movie together can be really entertaining — just don’t go in with a pervasive sense of “I don’t want to be here.”
4. Tell him he looks great
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Men don’t have a lot of experience when it comes to being complimented for their looks. Granted, that happens to some men because they pay almost no attention to their physical appearance, but on the whole, we don’t often tell men that they look pretty today.
With that in mind, if you want to sweep a man off his feet or romance him a bit, tell him, “Wow, you look good today.” Wait for the appropriate time to say it, of course. Maybe hold it back until he’s wearing a new shirt or just following a haircut (not when he’s lounging in his old sweats), but you’ll be surprised by the impact a simple compliment will have on your man. He’ll love it.
5. Bring him flowers
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Sure, it’s a big ol’ cliché, but it’s a big ol’ cliché for women. Men don’t normally receive flowers unless they’re in the hospital for something serious. So why not subvert his expectations a little and bring him flowers one day for no particular reason? A poll by the Society of American Florists revealed that 60% of men would like to receive flowers.
If your man isn’t the flowery kind, you can always bring him just a potted plant or a Japanese peace lily. The kind of flower isn’t as important as the fact that you decided to try to woo him with some old-school romance techniques. He’ll appreciate the gift and feel pretty special too.
6. Organize a night out with his friends
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The best romantic gestures are unselfish gestures — the kind that bring the desires of the other person to the forefront. One way to can pull this off with your guy is to put together a fun night out... and NOT invite yourself.
Call up some of his best pals and plan an excursion. It can be something simple (bowling or a movie) or something more involved (a fishing trip or some other vacation). It might not seem particularly lovey-dovey if you won’t be with your man, but the fact that you went so out-of-your-way out of your concern for his happiness... that’s romantic.
7. Stay in, just the two of you
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Cancel plans. Tell your friends you’ll see them another time. Don’t get out of bed. Order food in.
Make the conscious choice that you’re going to stay at your man’s side all day and that you want him to do the same thing, preferably near the bedroom. Even if intimacy isn’t on the table, just this simple act will remind your guy that he’s a big priority in your life and, sometimes, all you need to be happy is to spend a day doing nothing with him. Your date nights don't have to be extravagant, and according to the Insitute for Family Studies, regular date nights help keep your marriage strong and happy.
Tom Burns has served as a contributing editor for 8BitDad and The Good Men Project, and his writing has been featured on Babble, Brightly, and Mom.me, Time Magazine, and various other sites.