5 Sad-But-True Things Men Really Think About Your Dating Profile
Here's why you're not getting any attention on your dating profile.
B4LLS | Getty Images / vkstudio | Canva So, you figure you'd give one of the many online dating sites a shot. You're wondering what the best one where you can find the highest quality man is. Is it Match? Is it OkCupid? Or is it one of those new apps that you can get on your phone like Tinder or Hinge?
Whatever it is, I'm going to share with you what thousands of men have shared with me over the years: what they really think about when it comes to online dating.
Here are 5 sad-but-true, things men really think about your dating profile:
1. The plain old truth — they're not reading your profile
Most men will skim through your words to make sure you're not angry, to make sure you're not one of those "Listers" that could potentially nag them in the future.
Whenever a man sees a "Lister" on an online site, he immediately thinks to himself, "Oh yeah, that's the woman that's not going to let me watch the Super Bowl. She's going to have a list of things I've either done wrong that week or a list of meaningless things I need to do on a Sunday."
2. When men look at your profile, it's like we're shopping
Here's another bit of cold truth; men look at online dating pictures on online dating sites no differently than when they cruise autotraders.
They're doing a close-up on all your pictures just like they are to check out the rims on a car.
3. He's wondering if he should bother emailing you. Will you even bother writing back?
Men can spend hours trying to craft a great email.
It's amazing how many men I've met who show me the emails that get ignored. In reality, no matter how harsh, what I might have said is, "You've got your own harsh truth, too. Your own criteria."
4. He wonders if you've lied about your age
5. He wonders if you've lied about your body type
Men find women of all shapes, sizes, and colors attractive, but the fact of the matter is, that men love looking at pictures. So whatever your body looks like in reality is what you need to put in your profile. There's a great man who's attracted to you out there.
David Wygant is a dating coach who spent the past 20 years helping men and women transform their love lives. As a lead writer for Ask Men and Huffington Post, his advice has been offered across television, newspapers, and magazines, including MTV, The New York Times, MSNBC, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health, E! Entertainment Television, and more.