When It's Love For Absolutely Real, These 12 Feelings Always Show Up
Real love isn't a singular feeling; it's a collection of them.
Handsome Bob | Canva How many times have you wondered whether it's real love? Isn’t your whole dating history an endless procession of people who weren’t good enough to be “The one?” And what if Prince Charming is around you and you don’t even know about it?
A 2020 study explained that love is a powerful, complex emotional experience involving changes in your body chemistry, including neurotransmitters. Well, there is the cliché of butterflies in the stomach that you could use to know if Mr. Forever is standing next to you. But suppose we tell you that there are physical reactions to adjudge the presence of Mr. Right around you!
So what are these signs that you should look out for? Well, this isn’t a clinical procedure. It is not like some symptoms would prove the infection of love, but these signs may help you to understand whether the person you are dating is special enough or not. Anyways, it is very rare to feel these signs, and it cannot happen with every guy you date.
When it's love for real, these feelings always show up:
1. Warmth
You feel warm and comfortable around him. His very presence makes you feel that you are free to share any secrets that you may have. The feeling of warmth makes you feel that you are an intrinsic part of his life and your feelings and your comfort are absolutely important to him.
2. Optimism
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A great relationship will make you feel positive about yourself and the things around you. Even if you feel blue or you feel depressed, a good partner will surely make every effort to make you feel better. So the existence of positivity between two people indicates a rare, special bond that you must not let go of.
3. Motivation
Of course, if you feel positive on the inside, you will make efforts on the outside as well to improve your life. This means that when you come in the aura of someone special, you are motivated to do much better than before.
A good partner will force you to work hard and will surely stimulate you to expand your horizons. A good partner will force you incessantly to become a better person and this will certainly help you achieve your goals.
Love, especially in its early stages, activates brain areas associated with reward and motivation. A 2015 study showed that this motivation drives individuals to seek a loving relationship's presence, intimacy, and satisfaction.
4. Authenticity
You won’t have to present yourself as someone else. The good partner will only be interested in knowing your true self and thus there will not be any fake behavior or any attempts to be someone else. You will be absolutely comfortable being your own self and you will let go of all your inhibitions and insecurities.
5. Attraction
If his fragrance makes you feel weak in your knees, it is sure because you have found your match. This is also scientifically true because smell is the strongest of all the senses. Hence, if he smells good to you, keep him!
6. Desire to improve
If, because of him, you have started making healthier life choices and you have started focusing on yourself more, he is probably more special than you think. If a person forces you to be the best possible version of yourself, there is no way that that person isn’t special.
According to a 2019 study, love's psychological and physiological effects can create a positive feedback loop. Feeling loved and supported leads to improved health, which in turn strengthens the relationship and reinforces the feeling of well-being.
7. Intuition
Your intuition reveals more than you give it credit for. This means that if you are around someone special, the intuition radar will give you the strongest signals, and you will know whether he is the one or not. This may not be the most scientific way, but it is surely important.
8. Empathy
It does not happen often that we feel for someone so deeply that we would love to share their pain and even bear their pain ourselves. If this feeling of empathy overwhelms you in his presence, he is surely your Man.
9. Fondness
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Oh! This one does not even need that much explaining. It’s a fairly biological reality. Even if after months or years of being together, he can still make you swoon, why would he not be a keeper?
One study explained that falling in love triggers a cascade of physical and emotional responses due to the release of specific brain chemicals and hormones. These changes manifest in various ways, including bodily sensations like a racing heart, sweaty palms, flushed cheeks, and butterflies in the stomach, and emotional states like passion, anxiety, and euphoria.
10. Intimacy
Cuddling is more intimate than we think. If you are at work and all you are thinking is how comfortable and cozy it will be to hug him in the evening, there can be no greater physical manifestation of what you feel for him. Please keep him and cuddle him forever!
11. Calmness
What if you feel calm around him? Even though people feel that you are supposed to feel butterflies in your stomach, you might not. Ironically, he may make you feel calm and composed. Even during stress, he may have a calming effect on you.
12. Desire
You have to feel a strong need and an urge to be with him. This means that there is a vacuous feeling in your life when he is not around, and all you think about is being with him and meeting him.
This indescribable urge is probably the consequence of the need you feel for him and the emptiness that sets in your life when he is not around you. Nurture that need and make efforts to be with more often. You need him in order to handle the extremes of this life.
Here’s to hoping that you smiled to yourself when you read the above because deep in your heart, you know you have found “The one.” And to others, who are still searching, don’t lose hope. There is someone made for you, and he will make the world a better and brighter place to live in as soon as he arrives.
Mykh Goldstein is a writer, artist, blogger, and former contributor to The Mind's Journal.
