11 Clear Signs Of A Wife Who Really Loves Her Marriage
A wife who loves her marriage is tuned into the little things that matter most.
Prostock-studio | Shutterstock Everyone wants to meet someone they can spend their life with, someone who will give them the happily ever after they deserve. While some search high and low for the perfect partner, others already have a loving relationship or marriage where they grow alongside their "person" every day.
While it may not be obvious at first to women, there are very clear signs of a wife who really loves her marriage. She makes her relationship the center of her world, focusing on the little things that matter most in keeping the love alive. And she's sure to remind her partner each day of how deep her love goes.
Here are 11 clear signs of a wife who really loves her marriage
1. She makes time for the little things
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One of the most clear signs of a wife who really loves her marriage is how she makes time for the little, seemingly insignificant things. People can tell a lot about someone based on their actions, and a wife who claims she loves her partner but never makes time for them lacks care and effort in the relationship.
According to life coach Debra Smouse, it's the little acts of kindness in a relationship that make all the difference.
"When it comes to any relationship, you can never go wrong when you choose love and kindness. Choosing to care for your partner will help your relationship thrive. Because nurturing your relationships will always assist you in creating a daily life that feels loving and nourished," she said.
In order for a husband to know if his wife truly loves him, he can observe her actions. Does she make time for things like movie nights or showing up for her partner's big presentation? If so, she's committed fully and is putting in effort.
2. She's unafraid to be vulnerable
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Talking about emotions is pretty hard, especially when you had a childhood where parents encouraged those feelings to be bottled up. In a relationship, emotional vulnerability is a must for couples who want to continue to grow together, but sometimes, couples will jump through hoops just to avoid those uncomfortable conversations.
However, one of the clear signs of a wife who really loves her marriage is when she's unafraid to be honest, open, and fully vulnerable with her partner. And that takes a lot of trust.
As licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship expert at the dating app Hily, Marisa T. Cohen PhD, explained, "Being vulnerable is not easy and takes time, as it requires us to let our walls down and let someone see our true selves. It usually involves a great deal of self-disclosure, in which we share our deepest wants, fears, needs, and desires."
Despite the initial difficulty, because she truly adores her partner and wants the marriage to succeed, a loving wife won't be afraid to discuss her feelings and acknowledge the feelings of her partner. She's comfortable to sit down and have an important conversation, even if it's scary at first.
3. She's affectionate
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There are numerous benefits to showing affection, particularly in a relationship. Physical affection lowers blood pressure, reduces daily stress, and creates stronger relationship satisfaction, not to mention boosting mental well-being.
When a wife really loves her marriage and her partner, she will give kisses and hugs freely. She will cuddle her partner when they watch television, offer back rubs, or gently hold hands. But she also expresses affection in other nonverbal ways like listening without speaking or waiting patiently for her partner while they get ready.
No matter how big or small these affectionate gestures are, she makes sure her partner knows how she feels. And it makes her marriage stronger every day.
4. She compromises and actively works through conflict
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After getting into a heated argument, it's easy to allow stubbornness and anger to win. After all, not feeling heard and understood creates tension and resentment. According to the Journal of the American Psychiatric Nurses Association, feeling heard evokes feelings of importance, worthiness, and empowerment. And for a wife who really loves her marriage, she wants to work through conflicts by compromising.
People say marriage is give and take; compromise is essential to making things work. But that doesn't mean both partners are giving up everything they want for the sake of their partner; rather, it's finding common ground to move forward.
The clear signs of a wife who really loves her marriage is evident by the way she handles arguments or disagreements, putting aside some of what she desires so her partner has a fair share, regardless of how she feels. It requires pushing her stubbornness and pride to the side, but it also demands patience and control, all of which she does out of love.
5. She's loyal
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Loyalty is the bare minimum in any relationship, but unfortunately, cheating isn't as rare as people may think. According to the Institute for Family Studies, 20% of men and 13% of women cheat on their spouses. But despite this depressing statistic, there are people out there who value loyalty.
A wife who is truly committed not only values fidelity, but is respectful, supportive, and reliable. She's always there for her partner, even when things get rough, and will never abandon them through difficulties.
After being in a marriage for years, it's easy for the sparkle to fade and for that loyalty to fall to the wayside. But a loyal wife wants to keep her marriage alive, remaining loyal through her actions.
6. She respects her partner's opinions
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Everybody has different opinions, and married couples are no exception. Just because two people are married doesn't mean they agree on everything. They may not see eye to eye on various issues, like how often to do laundry, who should take out the trash, or which television programs to watch, but a wife who really loves her marriage respects what her partner thinks.
Of course, respecting her partner's opinions doesn't mean blindly agreeing. No two minds are exactly the same, and that isn't a bad thing.
The Gottman Institute suggests couples follow the "magic ratio," where for every one negative interaction, there are five positive ones. So, if there's a negative interaction regarding paying bills, a wife who loves her marriage will ensure there are multiple positive interactions after that one, despite disagreeing.
Instead of looking at her partner's opinions as a hindrance or annoyance, using it as an opportunity to improve as a team can greatly impact the marriage for the better, indirectly causing an already happy wife to grow even more content in her marriage.
7. She emotionally supports her partner without hesitation
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Having a partner for life is the greatest feeling in the world. One of the truly clear signs of a wife who really loves her marriage is if she's her partner's greatest cheerleader. No matter the occasion, she celebrates her partner's success, cheering them on through tough moments.
Unfortunately, many people underestimate just how important it is to have a support system. According to a study published in Psychiatry, having positive social support enhances resilience and protects against developing "trauma-related psychopathology." When a wife is jealous or complains about her partner's desires or wins, she may secretly hate her marriage or her partner, driving them away in the process.
But a wife who truly supports her partner through thick and thin does so not because she expects something in return, but because she knows it will help her partner.
8. She picks up the slack
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Part of traditional wedding vows is "through sickness and in health," and people can really identify the clear signs a wife really loves her marriage by the way she handles everything when her partner is sick or needs a break.
She won't just do basic things like bringing him chicken noodle soup or giving him medicine; she will go above and beyond, taking on his share of responsibilities like picking up the kids, making dinner, and cleaning the house.
She shares a living space with her partner, of course, but because she truly cares about him getting better, she will go to great lengths to take care of everything.
9. She speaks highly of her partner
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The way a person speaks about someone close to them reveals a lot about them. For instance, a friend who says they love their best friend but then secretly talks bad about them behind their back isn't a good friend. But a clear sign of a wife who really loves her marriage is if she speaks highly of her partner, even when they're not present.
According to marriage therapists Mike and Susan Dawson, when partners speak highly of one another, it benefits their relationship by creating trust and respect, giving encouragement to others about honesty, and receiving the same treatment in return from your partner.
While it's normal for spouses to complain about each other from time to time, those who truly love their partner and marriage keep it to a minimum. A wife who is satisfied in her marriage will find the good in her partner every time instead of focusing on the negatives.
10. She sees a future with her partner
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When people get married, they think they will be together forever. But as divorce statistics show, that's not always the case, with the divorce rate around 42%. An essential part of a healthy marriage is planning to achieve dreams and goals together, side by side. It means making plans with a partner as an essential part of the equation.
It's often said that to strengthen the relationship couples should always look ahead. According to relationship expert and psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith PhD, fantasizing about the future with a partner is healthy, as it can easily increase happiness all around.
"Futurizing with your mate is a healthy activity that will make you both happier, because as you look at the future, you'll be creating things to look forward to, and that's where happiness comes from... Making plans builds a bond and a stronger sense of security in our hearts," Goldsmith said.
When a wife truly loves her marriage, she involves her partner in all aspects of her life, especially for the future. Vacations, retirement, and even weekend outings are done together, because they are a team, after all.
11. She makes her relationship a priority
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A wife who truly cherishes her marriage will always find ways to put her partner first. Whether it's taking his side during family disputes, spending time with him instead of being with friends on occasion, or putting his needs and feelings first, she will make her marriage a priority that comes before anything else.
When her partner is in the wrong or she disagrees, she can still put her relationship first by being practical and having honest communication. Although navigating these situations is tricky, a truly dedicated wife will, in the end, choose her partner. She understands that peace at home triumphs over temporary relief in other areas of life.
Marielisa Reyes is a writer with a bachelor's degree in psychology who covers self-help, relationships, career, family, and astrology topics.