10 Simple Ways To Tell Your Marriage Is Over For Good
Don't let divorce catch you off-guard.
Rido / ShutterstockDespite divorce being so common, many couples are caught off-guard when it actually happens to them. They completely miss the signs of divorce that stare them right in the face.
These couples believe that if they just begin to love one another again, everything will turn out fine. But this myth lulls them into missing the warning signs their marriage is over.
Think you might be headed toward divorce?
Here are 10 ways to know when your marriage is over for good, and there's no salvaging it.
1. Sex is consistently boring and mechanical
A satisfying sex life is vital to health and well-being. A long-term frustration of this basic human need can signal the end of a marriage.
2. There are many problems and only a few solutions
The inability to compromise and find workable solutions to common relationship issues turns partners into bitter adversaries.
3. Character assassination occurs
Name-calling, insults, belittling put-downs, and personal attacks aimed at embarrassing and hurting a spouse are all signs of divorce.
4. You're angry all the time
Accumulated anger kills love! If you and your spouse don't know how to handle anger and it piles up like a mountain in your relationship, divorce is inevitable.
5. One of you cheats
With a lot of professional help, most marriages survive can when a partner cheats once. Repeated affairs cause so much pain divorce is usually sought after relief.
6. There is selfishness within your marriage
Marriage is a give-and-take relationship and it's about making your partner's needs a top priority. Self-centered husbands or wives who have partners who feel ignored and neglected will eventually want out at all costs.
7. One or both of you always need to be right
When your partner's always right and you're always wrong, it feels suffocating. When you do not have a voice that's heard and respected, marriage turns into a dictatorship. Divorce provides you that irresistible freedom that you do not receive from your spouse.
8. It's not in the kiss anymore
When you would rather have sex than passionately kiss, this is one of the big signs your marriage is over and you're in deep trouble.
9. The conversations are over
The best way to have a happy marriage is to talk your way through it. This means sharing thoughts and feelings so that you're emotionally in sync. Without this bond, marriage is an empty and lonely place where partners want to leave.
10. There is too little or too much money
When both partners need to work and one earns significantly more than the other, especially if it's the wife, control issues can sabotage the marriage. However, too much extra cash, when partners are not careful, can fuel a party on the lifestyle that invites temptations that cause damage to a marriage as well as the lasting values that remind us of what's really important in life.
Evelyn and Paul Moschetta are marriage counselors who are also married couples themselves. They're authors of The Marriage Spirit: Finding the Passion and Joy of Soul-Centered Love, about dealing with marriage and relationships.