5 Frustrating Reasons It's So Hard To Love A Man With 'Mommy Issues'
Issues with mothers can have long-term consequences that are pretty painful.
OneInchPunch / Shutterstock You've probably heard of "daddy issues," but "mommy issues" are just as prevalent. This isn't a clinical phrase, but psychological theories may frequently explain the principles behind mommy issues. This is partly because mothers' roles are still commonly seen as crucial.
Anyone who has a poisonous, distant, or simply overly-doting connection with their mother may experience mommy issues. A child's self-worth might be harmed for years if their mother was cruel or constantly criticized their appearance growing up.
Here are 5 reasons it's difficult to love a man who has 'mommy issues.'
1. His mother will remain his priority.
Every sentence includes his mother. Every plan includes his mother. It seems like every thought he has, in general, is centered around his mother.
If he's constantly talking about his mom and visits her often, you can envision what your future is going to be like: full of constant, consistent mentions or inclusions of his mom in conversations and ideas.
If you don't want to hear about his mom all the time or spend a lot of time with her, it's a big sign your relationship may not last.
2. He can be insecure.
A man with mommy issues believes his mother will take care of him, no matter how old he is, He may not feel as lovable or deserving as he once did, and he doesn't think he has any regard for himself.
That's the problem with men with mommy issues: they don't respect themselves, which means they will only respect you because they're projecting onto you.
3. He feels entitled.
He terrorizes you and he tyrannizes everyone around him. He's simply ensuring that everyone has a bad day and adopts a negative mood, all because he isn't getting his way. He believes the world owes him something.
If he acts like a prince, there's something very wrong with him since he's not accepting responsibilities like grown adults do. Instead, he expects everyone to bend over backward for him.
4. He always thinks you will hurt him.
Men who have troubles with their mothers are often terrified of being hurt. So it's possible that their mother didn't meet their requirements.
Perhaps their mother didn't provide them the care they needed. Maybe they never felt secure setting boundaries because the mother was a matriarch, or was quite harsh, or was not at all warm, or was perhaps a narcissist.
Then, he begins to believe that all women are out to get him. As a result, he might become defensive, making your relationship unenjoyable and downright toxic. He projects onto you, which becomes tiresome.
5. He disrespects women.
He granted authority to his mother, who was his first female human sample. And then, because he didn't regain his control, he began to resent her for it. That resentment may have led him to become distant from her and insult her to reclaim his authority.
That disrespect ends up being projected onto you. His perception of women was skewed based on his own relationship with his mother, so any of your actions may be misconstrued as something his mother would have done.
He also has a grudge towards himself. He didn't want to give up his power; he desired to maintain his manhood. He also may have wanted to establish limits and be recognized for the demands he feels inside his body, but whatever the situation was, it was not satisfied.
Can you have a healthy relationship with a guy who has 'mommy issues'?
The term "mommy issues" is commonly used in a derogatory manner, which is no surprise to anybody. It's typically related to the term "mama's boy" among men, which refers to someone too devoted to their mother.
This may happen when mothers are too submissive, instilling in their sons the belief that this is how women should act. It may also happen when a mother inflates her son's ego to a point where he's unwilling to hear anyone else's opinions or be humble in his behavior and attitudes.
It can lead to men having such expectations in romantic relationships and even looking for female partners that tick this box. Men may also end up unconsciously comparing the qualities of their romantic partners to those of their mother.
How can men with mommy issues overcome them?
People who have been abused by their moms and have gone on to break the cycle usually have significant supportive others and networks of supportive friend and mentor ties. Their relationship with their significant other and their circle of friends provided much emotional and social support.
Everyone who was able to break the pattern of intergenerational abuse was conscious of their personal history. They were also angry about what had occurred to them, which indicates that they were aware of the abusive behaviors. Identifying these behaviors makes it more difficult for people to repeat them.
Finally, those who were able to overcome their mothering concerns received counseling. This allowed them to recognize and lament the abuse they had experienced in the past, and gain insight into how it occurred and how to avoid it from happening again.
Issues with mothers can have long-term consequences that are pretty painful. It's quite natural if it takes you a long time to recover from the emotional anguish you experienced as a kid or adolescent. Be patient with yourself while you work through these challenges to break the pattern of toxic family connections.
Sidhharrth Kumaar is an astro-numerologist and Founder of NumroVani. He couples his knowledge of modern sciences to solve real-world problems in the areas of mental well-being and relationship growth.