Bride Reveals The 'Red Flag' She Noticed About New Husband During Speech He Delivered At Their Wedding
His wedding speech wasn't quite what she expected it to be.
taras.chaban / Shutterstock Weddings are happy occasions — well, they’re supposed to be. Unfortunately, there are often cases in which something happens to make the wedding less than you hoped it would be.
That’s certainly what happened to one bride whose husband gave an off-color wedding speech.
A groom gave a wedding speech that had a glaring ‘red flag.’
An anonymous bride posted on Reddit asking for advice after what she felt was a strange speech at her wedding from her husband.
“So, I recently got married to my husband,” she said. “He is a very sweet and kind person.”
However, some things about the speech he gave at the wedding weren’t so sweet and kind.
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“He gave a speech during our wedding reception,” she explained. “It was really sweet and emotional, but then he said something like, ‘And when we were dating, I knew I have to marry you, as nobody can tolerate you better than me, and I love tolerating you.’”
While the comment might give some pause, the bride said that it went over well in the moment as a joke. “Everybody laughed and I did as well, as it was supposed to be a fun banter, and I didn’t think much of it,” she said.
She also explained that she can understand why her husband might feel that way. “Well, I do get giddy and too excited if I am happy and would talk a lot, while my husband is very calm and patient and always listens, but I can see that it could be annoying for others,” she stated.
Unfortunately, the bride has not been able to stop thinking about what her husband said in his speech. It’s so bad that she is still pondering it after their honeymoon.
“We had a great time and recently came from our honeymoon, but just wondering, do other guys also joke about their spouse like that?” she asked.
Fellow Reddit users had mixed reactions to the speech.
People who commented on the bride’s post were split in how they felt about the speech. Some wondered if the groom was perhaps making a pop culture reference, as both "Friends" and "The Big Band Theory" feature speeches with similar wording.
“Maybe not the best time for your husband to make that comment, but hopefully the intent was good,” one person who pointed to "Friends" said.
Others noted that it may have simply been an awkward moment for the groom. “Unfortunately, some people are just awkward at public speaking events, too,” they said. “For some of them, their wedding is their first time giving speeches to a crowd.”
However, others weren’t so forgiving. “Ugh, I hate jokes like that,” someone said. “You see it all the time at weddings how men are becoming ‘trapped’ by marrying their wives … For some reason, these types of jokes always crop up, where men don’t like their wives, and I just find them disrespectful.”
There was a consensus that the bride should tell her husband how she felt.
One thing Reddit commenters could agree on, regardless of their opinion on the speech, was that the bride should share her feelings with her husband. “I would mention to him that it made you uncomfortable, but I don’t think it’s worth fighting about,” one person said.
According to a clinically reviewed article from Marriage.com, it's important to “express your feelings clearly” and “talk to the other person in the relationship” when your feelings are hurt by your partner. “Remember, others might not even realize they hurt us,” the outlet noted. “However, creating a safe place for communication will help you understand each other better.”
It’s important to be honest about how something made you feel so resentment doesn’t grow and fester over time. It’s also important to be mindful of your words and how they affect others. Hurting those who are closest to you is never a good thing.
Mary-Faith Martinez is a writer for YourTango who covers entertainment, news, and human interest topics.