People Who Grew Up With Good Families Develop 7 Rare Traits Later In Life
Growing up with a healthy family has incredible benefits down the road.
Drazen Zigic | Shutterstock The ways we were raised as children have a direct connection to the people we become as adults.
Every family functions differently, yet the bonds we have with our parents, siblings, and other relatives impact our personalities and the relationships we choose for ourselves.
Here are 7 rare traits people who grew up with good families develop later in life
1. Accountability
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A healthy family atmosphere depends on the boundaries that are set and how parents communicate with each other and their kids. An environment based on mutual respect is a stable place for kids to develop, allowing them to take appropriate risks and develop a strong sense of self.
A study published in BMC Public Health noted that positive childhood experiences provide a foundation for someone's well-being as an adult, even when there's adversity in their lives early on. Having a foundation of emotional safety and feeling like they belong leads kids to cultivate a strong sense of routine and responsibility as they grow.
When parents model behaviors like apologizing, owning their mistakes, and centering repair after conflicts, kids learn how to do so, as well. They're able to enter adulthood knowing how to say they're sorry when they've done something wrong, instead of growing defensive and deflecting their behavior outward.
Coming back from conflict can be uncomfortable, especially if you don't have practice in it, but kids raised in good families develop a solid sense of their own accountability.
2. A calm nature
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A good family is often defined by the parenting style the kids were raised with. An authoritative style, which can also be described as gentle parenting, establishes clear boundaries that kids are expected to meet.
Kids need boundaries to feel safe. They have to know that if they're loved, even if there are consequences for pushing against a boundary that's been set for them.
Boundaries can help mitigate against a sense of impending chaos from the outside world. In other words, when a family system has solid outlines, it creates calmness, which leads to being a calm adult.
3. Strong coping skills
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Kids who are taught how to be emotionally intelligent become adults who understand their inner landscape and know how to express their feelings. They also learn how to handle emotionally fraught situations without falling apart.
According to clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone Ph.D., "Research has shown that emotional intelligence or EQ 'predicts over 54% of the variation in success (relationships, effectiveness, health, quality of life).' Additional data concludes that 'young people with high EQ earn higher grades, stay in school, and make healthier choices.'"
Emotional stability is a prerequisite for having strong coping skills. Being from a good family prepares kids to deal with the harder parts of life, because it gives them a basis of self-awareness and confidence that they need to face their struggles head on.
4. A positive outlook
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When parents teach their children that they're appreciated, they grow up to believe in their own self-worth. Expressing affection shows kids how to love themselves, which is the first step to loving others and seeing the world as a promising place.
Their inner optimism will shine through, because they were raised to believe in themselves and believe that the good in the world outweighs the bad.
5. An accepting mind
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Good families give kids access to education and emphasize the need to respect other people, even when those people's opinions or values don't align with their own. When kids learn that there's more than one way of looking at the world, they understand that everyone's life experience is different yet no less valid than theirs.
Accepting others without judgment is a rare trait, but kids who have been taught to keep an open mind can easily see other people's perspectives.
6. Commitment to others
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A study from the University of Cambridge found that when parents and children develop a loving bond early in the child's life, it significantly increases the likelihood that they will grow up to be "prosocial." They'll help people in their community, and act with empathy and kindness, because they know the value of being generous.
Ioannis Katsantonis, a lead researcher in the study, explained why having a strong parent-child relationship leads to being a helpful person later in life. "As children, we internalize those aspects of our relationships with our parents that are characterized by emotion, care and warmth," he said. "This affects our future disposition to be kind and helpful towards others."
Seeing our parents help us means that we learn how to help others, in turn.
7. A strong moral compass
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According to a poll from Pew Research Center, 66% of parents said it's "extremely important" that their kids grow up to be ethical, honest adults.
Good families instill a strong moral code in their kids. They teach them how to choose between right from wrong. They show them how to be accepting of people's differences. They lead based on love, which fosters children's compassion and allows them to develop the kind of moral compass that will guide them from a place of understanding and humanity.
Alexandra Blogier is a writer on YourTango's news and entertainment team. She covers social issues, pop culture analysis and all things to do with the entertainment industry.