Kink Up Your Sex Life '50 Shades Of Grey' Style

The new "mommy porn" erotica is sweeping the nation! If you have not heard of "50 Shades of Grey" you have been hiding under a rock. This new genre of erotica is the talk of every book club in the U.S. and kinking up "married sex" all over the country.

Who knew soccer moms and book worms liked it all so kinky? Well, apparently, author E.L. James knew! Her erotica trilogy is #1 New York Bestseller list and one of the most popular kindle downloads ever!

I think it's a fun book, myself. Maybe not the best writing ever, but the sex scenes are super hot! I am a Sex Toy expert and the founder of an online sex toy store called BlissConnection.com - so it's pretty hard to surprise me or shock me. I am exposed to a lot of very kinky people and kinky lifestyles through my business, so I did not find the sex scenes to be so shocking. (I know, I sound jaded.) But, I LOVE any kind of book, sex toy or new concept that HEATS up the bedrooms of married people and people in long term relationships. And HOT SEX (or just any sex) is happening thanks to this book! Now that makes my heart sing.

So, I did read the first book in the trilogy and thought I would outline some of the kinky sex toys they referred to in the book. Who knew American women like the "submissive" fantasies in this book. Now let's have some fun and check out the sex toys and bondage gear in the book!

Are you ready to be tied up? A fabulous company in Southern California called SportSheets.com ( and they make all of their products in the U.S.) makes a really cool product called "Beginner's Bondage" which gives you 4 restraints and a blindfold. These restraints are perfect for beginners and intermediate kinksters. And, what I personally love about this product is that the part that attaches to your ankles and wrists are super soft and use velcro to tighten them down. This company knows that some of us want to get kinky at home, kinky in a motel or a hotel so they made it so you can throw the whole thing in the washer and dryer!

Want something visually kinky that is versatile and looks very kinky? How about some Fetish Tape that Christian Grey keeps in his "Red Room" for tying up pretty, submissive girls like Anastasia? This fetish tape can be used for bondage..... but it's so versatile ... you can even use it to make a temporary mini dress or halter top. The tape sticks to itself and has no adhesive on it. So you can use it over and over again. It comes in super hot kinky colors like red, hot pink, black and blue.

Anastasia mentions Nipple Clamps, spanking gear like paddles and floggers which seem to scare Ana a little bit. But, we do find out pretty early on that she does enjoy being bent over Christian's knee for a good bare handed spanking when she disobeys.

I have not read the second and third books in the trilogy, but I have heard there are mentions of sex furniture like the Fetish Sex Stool, the Liberator postion pillows like the ramp and we can't forget the good old standard fuzzy love cuffs. (Though I am sure Christian Grey would frown on the soft, fuzzy part of these kinky hand cuffs.)

My intuition tells me that these "submissive" themes and scenarios in the 50 Shades trilogy appeals to American women for a variety of reasons. And, I think part of it may be sort of cliche... but sometimes it's a super hot fantasy to let go of all of the control we have do deal with on a daily basis. It's a fun fantasy to imagine a man (in this case a billionaire) helping us to find sex clothes, shoes and who creates scenarios where we can do out dressed like a total slut.

It's very POWERFUL to give up the power and just be used for SEX. It can be a very erotic fantasy to just exist for someone else's pleasure and I think that American women have this "Super Mommy" pressure to have a clean home, a great job, well behaved kids, a rich family life, be fit and sexy and do it all. This book allows women to imagine giving up all of that control to a very "agro" type who has the money and who can help us to lose ourselves in his sex slave fantasy.

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That's just my opinion, though. What do you think? Why do you love "50 Shades of Grey" and why do you think it's so popular right now?