5 Steps To Vibrator-Free Masturbation (That's Even Better Than Sex)

A chief aspect of a healthy sex life is a taboo topic for women, and routine for men: masturbation. Perhaps if female genitalia were as exposed as male bits masturbation would not be such an esoteric concept to some women.

Most women cringe at the word masturbation and its euphemisms. I like to keep it classy and describe this intimate, personal act as solo love. Because ultimately, if you do not love yourself as a person and know how to love yourself sexually, how can you possibly have pleasurable sex with a partner?Here's the answer: you can't. So starting today, I am campaigning for a battery-free solo love zone.

We live in a technology-obsessed society. Devices have infiltrated our bedrooms and caused a great deal of pleasure, but also a lot of intimidation and confusion. Have you ever gone shopping for a sex toy? Even the stores are overwhelming. From the Silver Bullet vibrator to the Jack Rabbit, the evolving technology of sex toys has frightened women out of exploring and enjoying solo love. 

I'm not against vibrators. In a pinch, sex toys can be useful. However, some women become too dependent and start to avoid real tactile stimulation, denying themselves the joy and sensation of their own touch. You have the power to transform your sex life! We were born with fingers for a reason.

There is nothing more empowering than masturbating without the aid of an electronic device. The only way you can truly know yourself sexually is to touch the beautiful gifts you were born with. Ladies, we are so lucky. Men are not able to have lengthy, mind-blowing multiple orgasms. This is the pulsating power of our underground world. So toss your batteries and start exploring.

Here are 5 simple steps to show you how to orgasm without the help of a sex toy.

1. Start with some landscaping.

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Don't go crazy; try a nice buzz cut. Leave the Brazilian landscaping for later. Furthermore, you don’t want to contend with the itching related to re-growth. The idea is to make your gem more accessible for pleasure. 

2. Break out a compact mirror.

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Have you ever truly admired yourself? Do you know where everything is positioned? Do you know how wonderful our underground world is? Grab a mirror and take the time to get to know your sexual environment. And while you’re there, enjoy your new landscape.

3. Touch yourself.

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Set aside time to reconnect to your sexual source. By exploring and understanding your erogenous zones, you will be able to direct your partner and be more receptive to receiving his or her touch. 

4. Be patient.

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Solo love is a true art form, and like any art, mastery takes time. Relax and enjoy. If applicable, set the mood with some wine or music. Use lube if you need a jump-start. There's no need to be shy, it's just you. Do whatever it takes to put yourself in the moment to masturbate.  

5. Practice, practice, practice.

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This is not a one-shot-deal. Solo love is something to be incorporated into your sexual routine. The more you practice, the more proficient you will be. And with proficiency comes the ability to communicate your preferences to your partner. 

Just talking about masturbation is beneficial. A conversation will demystify the process and start to remove the taboo feelings. Remember, solo love is the gateway to loving yourself, loving your body, and having an amazing orgasm.