Older Women Using Social Networks For A "quickie

If you happen upon a phone lying in a house with teens and you see a naked body part, there is a 50% chance its mom’s phone. Teenagers aren't the only ones sending racy pictures and text messages over their cell phones. According to the AARP, "sexting" is catching on with the 40 and 50 crowd.

The owner of Firstwivesworld.com explains that there is no expiration date on “sexy.” This web site helps divorced women get back into the swing of things, which may include sexting. With divorce occurring in about 50% of marriages, 40 and 50 year olds are dating more than ever before. Women are seeing themselves as ageless and no longer see themselves as part of the 50-year-old stereotype. Many look better than they did when they were a 30-year-old. According to a poll by Men’s Fitness and Shape magazines, nearly 40 percent of women say that social-networking media (text messaging and Facebook) are causing them to jump into bed faster with their partners than they would have in the past. Dr. Belisa Vranich PH.D believes that texting creates anticipation and builds emotional and physical tension between the couple.
Facebook and texting may be seen as a form of courting, and it provides couples with a sense that they have been together for a long time. Two nights of texting may seem more intense than two face-to-face dates. More risqué words and a more intimate language may be used because people are less intimidated if they aren’t looking at each other. Having sex quicker may seem more natural if you assume an intimate position with each other sooner.
Older women are sooner to sleep with their partner for many reasons including their lack of concerns about getting pregnant. They may feel less inhibited since they typically have more confidence than younger women. They also may have the feeling that they know the person well (usually they don’t) so they may not practice safe sex. This can lead to consequences they may not have thought out clearly. Older women are more confident in their careers, financially well established, and many have been through painful divorces. They aren’t looking for a husband or someone to take care of them; many of these women already have families of their own. They are looking for a boyfriend with benefits.
Safety tips for older women prior to having sex:
1. Your immune system is not as strong after 40 as it was at 20. This leaves you more prone to STD’s. Use protection.
2. Older women are more prone to bladder infections with sex.
3. Even though you may believe you have better insight into men, be careful. Two days of texting can never replace several months of face to face dating. Lies are texted too.

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4. Make sure your rendezvous is not at the expense of caring for your teenage children. Many women get “so into the texting” that they forget they are raising children. Children are going to practice what they see.
5. Prior to getting involved with anyone make sure you have a clear idea of what you want. Make sure your clear idea has been communicated to your partner. You have more to lose than you may have at the age of twenty.
If you are turning to sexting and social media for sex because you feel old and bored with your life, may I suggest a few other outlets that may not lead to the consequences you will surely face with quick sex?
1. Invest in traveling. Join a singles club of like-minded people who like to get away. You will learn more, and when you talk to others there will be more interests in your recent escapes.
2. Take tango lessons. If you don’t have a partner when you sign up, tell the instructor. They will help assign someone to you.
3. Go back to school. Learning is a wonderful way to build and support your memory (losing your memory is all part of growing older), and also meet new people.
4. Get a make-over. Nothing can make you feel better about yourself than looking good.
5. Get into a consistent exercise program. You will feel sexier, look healthier, and project a confident image to others.
Many women over the age of 40 begin to feel resentful of all they have given to their family, or that they were married to their career. Many of these women feel like they always followed the rules, and risqué sex offers them a chance to break this mold. One of the problems with quick hook-ups, whether they are from Facebook or texting, is that the sex is casual. If you are trying to evolve or do something for YOU then don’t turn to another to help you do YOUR work. Take control of your life; when you reach 40, you realize that the ride is half over. Make the last half meaningful for yourself with relationships, intimacy and sex. –Mary Jo Rapini

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