3 Subtle Traits Of Women Who Mesmerize Men, According To Psychology
How to drive a guy crazy on the first date.
Jonathan Borba | Canva Many men are attracted to feminine women who are comfortable with themselves and know how to express it authentically. Unfortunately, many women don't know how to flirt with a guy by embracing (and retaining control over) their inner power, let alone feel truly comfortable with the idea of learning how to be confident.
In my own experience, after going on far too many dead-end dates, I realized that the reason I hated dating so much was that I was extremely uncomfortable around men. Eventually, I realized I needed to learn how to be confident and express myself without necessarily feeling the need to be intimate.
Here are 3 subtle traits of women who mesmerize men:
1. Let him know you're listening
Try giving your date a sultry look now and then when he says something flirty, touch his arm to make a point, or intentionally lean in closer to hear what he's saying. Don't just make eye contact; stare deeply into his eyes and smile while he's telling a story. One study found how successful eye contact was when it came to attraction.
2. Use little gestures to go a long way
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Instead of sitting across from him at the table, sit next to him. If you're afraid to touch him, put your hand lightly on his arm and say, "I love your shirt." Or, if you're feeling bold, brush your hand against his knee and say you love his pants. Studies from 2022 indicate that flirty touching is one of the best ways to show someone you're interested in them.
Another simple way to flirt is to address your date by his name. And remember, just because you know how to tease, that doesn't mean you are a tease. With practice, you will simply feel lighter and more attractive with every date.
3. Set boundaries — playfully
One of the biggest mistakes many women make is getting uncomfortable when a man makes advances. If you shut a man down when he tries to take the conversation into intimate, flirty territory, it could stop the momentum cold.
I know it can feel uncomfortable to have a man express his interest, so practice setting boundaries in a playful way. This won't only him want you, but he'll grow curious about getting to know you, which means he'll want to spend more time with you. Research from the Gottman Institute states that setting boundaries lets others know how to treat you.
If things start to heat up, find a playful way to let your date know you are not going home with him. If he suggests you come back to his apartment, you might say with a smile, "I am really flattered, but you are going to have to work a lot harder than that to get me to go home with you."
Lisa Shield is a dating coach with a Master's in Spiritual Psychology and certification as a life and relationship coach through The Coaches Training Institute. She is the host of the Podcast "Finding The Guardian Of Your Soul."