5 Secrets People In Loving Relationships Know Better Than Anyone
Successful relationships start here.
fizkes / ShutterstockWe all want a successful, healthy relationship in our lives, yet we manage to sabotage them one way or another. Sometimes we do it because we don’t know better because we’re mad, or we get afraid when a relationship gets too good to be true, so we end up messing it up.
Yet beyond the fear, the messing up, and all our layers, we truly want our relationships to last. And with this relationship advice, you'll understand that a successful partnership depends on a few key factors.
Here are 5 secrets people with the most loving, long-lasting relationships know better than anyone:
1. Always be honest
I’m not talking about little things. Yes, tell her she looks beautiful when she wakes up, and tell him silly things that make him feel more confident, but never ever lie about the things that actually matter.
These things could potentially turn into big issues in the long run.
2. Keep the fights at home
You’re in a relationship, therefore there will be fights, misunderstandings, and moments when you want to pour your heart out. Unless you belong to the Housewives of (you pick the city), there is no reason you can’t wait to have that conversation or even fight until you get home.
3. Always defend them in front of other people
There’s always this phenomenon of ganging up on people just to be part of the bandwagon. You should never be part of that bandwagon when it comes to the person you’re in a relationship with.
You can tease them as much as you want, but whenever anyone gangs up on him/her, always be the first to defend them. Remember you are a team in front of the rest of the world, whether that’s your family, your friends, or just random people.
4. Choose your words carefully
Sometimes when we get mad, things heat up. When you feel you’re close to saying things you should never say to your loved one, just take a step back.
If you’ve already said something that you know was wrong, apologize for the second you realize it and make sure your partner understands that it’s not how you actually feel, but that you were angry and just blurted out something stupid.
5. Sleep on it
You know that saying: never go to bed angry. Well, sometimes that’s just the best thing you can do. Go to bed angry, and sleep on it, before you say or do something you might regret.
Whether you realize it or not, the success of your relationship depends on little things just as much as the big things, and following these simple steps will not only ensure the success of your relationship but will also support you in having a happier and more thriving life every single day.
Lavinia Lumezanu is a communications and public relations executive. She has been featured in Medium, Fast Company, Yahoo, The Culture Trip, Thrive Global, YourTango, Elephant Journal, JustLuxe, Fremont Tribune, and more.