The Reasons Why Older Men Want Younger Women -Part 1

Have you ever uttered the phrase: "older guys are only interested in younger women"? If you haven't you're either still in high school or God has gifted you with incredible beauty and you get men hitting on you all the time.

To deny that there is a large percentage of single men who are only interested in younger women would be foolish and ignorant. And I'd like to believe I'm neither of those things, so I’m not even going to try.

It is true....there are a lot, and I mean A LOT, of older guys who are only interested in younger women.

Instead of debunking this idea I am simply going to shed some light and help you to understand how circumvent it.

You see, I believe it's not so much that older guys want younger women as much as they want what younger women represent. I believe the older guys who seek out younger women do so for one of two reasons: 1) They want to feel younger than they really are; and 2) They have distorted views of women and relationships.

First let's look at the first reason. When an older guy seeks out a younger woman it's usually because he is looking for that younger woman to make him feel better about himself. You see it all the time. The old, graying gent driving around in the expensive car and the girl with supermodel looks on his arm.

BTW, how come you never see on older garbage man driving around with a young hottie in his 98 Ford Focus?
For these guys it's about one thing and one thing only: Their EGO. By having a young hot babe to show off they feel better about themselves. Now, I'm all for feeling better about yourself, but if you allow someone to dictate your sense of security, you usually learn that those things can't get you the peace and happiness you really desire.

Don’t believe me? Look at Charlie Sheen? He’s been with ort married to some of the most beautiful women in the world. Heck, he’s recently been shacking up with not one but TWO goddesses, yet he’s still a tormented soul.

The second reason older men pursue younger women is because they have a distorted view of women and relationships. Many of these men have been burned and as a result they tend to believe that all women in that age demographic are the same.

These types of men are the equivalent to the women who believe "All men suck" & "All men cheat".
The sad part is that at one time most of these men did believe in love and commitment.

But after experiencing relationship hell and having their hearts broken (yes, ladies, men do get have their hearts broken, they just won't admit it to you), many men make a decision to avoid the older women.

These men have a very distorted view of women and relationships. They think that because they got burned before they will get burned again. They look back over their relationships and see nothing but stress, drama and games.

The attitude of these men is "been there done that, so why would I do it again?”

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I think this is a foolish way to look at women and relationships but to deny that there is a large percentage of men who think this way would be stupid on my part.

If you were to put yourself in the position of some of these men it becomes easier to see why they think like they do. Now, I'm not condoning in any way what they do, but I'm just trying to shine some light on why they do it.

Personally, I never got this approach. Even when I was in my 30's and my single friends were chasing around the girls in their early 20's. I never understood what someone who has lived for much longer could have in common with someone who was much younger (other than the obvious!).

As we grow older we experience so much more of life, how is it possible to connect w/someone when you're at different stages in life.

Now, I understand that every rule has an exception and I personally know some May-December relationships which are very successful, but for the most part if a man pursues a younger woman it's because of one of the two above reasons

It is my belief that the older men are not seeking younger women as much as they are trying to avoid going back down the path into relationship hell.

In fact, that is something I hear from many older single men. They state that they did the marriage thing, and they got burned. It wasn't what they wanted and it turned out to be a very bad experience.

They look back over their relationship and marriage as if it was open heart surgery without anesthesia. So, in their minds why would they want to do it again?

What's interesting is the majority of these men admit that they don't like being single and if they could find one woman to share their life with they would. But this woman would have to be special. She would have to trust him, be drama free, and she wouldn't have to get mad at him if he was watching sports.

I noticed that there was a central theme which connected these desires. The desire to avoid pain.

If you could show a man that you are a woman who wouldn’t make his relationship one of stress, drama and pain and that his life would be better with you in it many of these men admit that they would trade in their bachelorhood in a second.

The problem with many of these guys is that they don't think it exists.

The good news is if you show an older guys it is possible and you are not like most women of the women he has been involved with than he will be more open to making a commitment, even to woman who is his age.

Want to know how to do that? Stay tuned for Part II of this article where I'll show you how.

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