How Important Is Oral Sex For A Woman In A Relationship? Part II
Okay, gentlemen, in order to answer this question, you first need to know if the woman you are in a relationship with, whether it is a serious relationship, a friends-with-benefits arrangement, or a booty call, likes oral sex.
Some women do not like oral sex at all, for whatever reason. If this is the case, try to find out why. She could have gone through something traumatic or been taught that it is just plain wrong, had a bad experience with it, never had it done, or had it done badly.
Communication is the key to everything. Most women love having you go down on them just as much as you love them going down on you. Oral sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it is important. A lot of women feel as if there is something wrong with them if the guy they are having a sexual relationship with is not willing to go down on them, and it really can mess with their self-esteem. They will start to wonder if you don’t like the way they smell, taste or look down there, and they will think that you are just in it for your own satisfaction and don’t care if you please them or not. The thing about oral sex is that it is very intimate, even more so than penetration. It can make her feel a bit vulnerable but can also open her eyes and make her feel sexual desires she may never knew she had. Oral sex makes her feel sexy and wanted. I have never met a man who would go downtown and put his tongue in just any girl he meets, so there is a desire there that a woman can feel when her man pleasures her orally.
I understand that some of you men can be shy and worried about whether you are performing the way she is expecting. Here is a little secret: All women are hoping it is going to feel amazing but honestly aren’t expecting much. So make sure you are gentle and you pay close attention to her body language. Do not freak out if she squeezes your head with her thighs. That is actually a good sign. If you are not sure what to do, tell her you want her to tell you what she wants and how she wants it, because you want to please her. But try some basic moves before you ask her, like a little bit of foreplay, such as kissing down her body, caressing her curves and paying attention to her whole body, not just her love button.
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Foreplay is important. Do not just start messing around on her most sensitive areas. You need to start slowly, build anticipation and build the desire. You almost want her begging for your tongue and mouth on her magic spot. A little bit of teasing is a good thing Men, it keeps her guessing, and things won’t become predictable. Kissing, caressing, telling her you want her--all these things come into play and allow her to open up and enjoy herself more, and in return will allow you to have more pleasure as well. No one is going to enjoy oral sex if you and/or your partner are nervous, worried, insecure or anything else. Take your time. You like when she takes her time pleasing your manhood. Oral sex is not a race to see how fast you can make her reach orgasm but about how much you can please her, how strong you can make her orgasms and if she has multiple orgasms. So by taking your time with foreplay and paying close attention to her reactions to your touches, kisses and the way you pleasure her, you can blow her mind.
Just remember, men, you love oral sex. It makes you feel good, sexy, desired, pleased, etc. The same goes for a woman, and if you learn what she likes, keep it new and not predictable, let her know you enjoy what you are doing to her and keep her cumming, she will not feel like it’s a chore but will want to make you feel as good as you made her feel. And that, my friend, will make both of your sex lives much better.
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