6 Expert Blowjob Tips & Techniques To Transform You Into A Fellatio-Loving Goddess

Blow jobs are awesome, but if you don't know how to give a good blowjob, they can sometimes feel a bit nerve-wracking and intimidating.

You may be totally into being on the giving end of oral sex, or it may be a service you reluctantly offer your boyfriend or husband, and only every now and then, because the only part of the word that resonates with you is "job."

But no matter where you fall on the fellatio appreciation spectrum, adding the best new blowjob tips and techniques to the mix in order to refine your oral sex skills on a regular basis can be fun — for both of you.

Let's be honest ... most guys love receiving blowjobs.

When you really know what you're doing and he can see that you're enjoying the experience, too, you make one of his dreams come true, and he will forever be grateful.

In order to become a fellatio-giving (and loving!) goddess, here are 6 of the best oral sex techniques and tips for how to give a good blowjob.

1. Love it

If you don’t, he will feel it, and a pity blow job is never as satisfying as one where you can't seem to get enough of him.

Everyone loves to be wanted, so when he can feel you craving him, it adds to his experience.

It can be understandably difficult at times to really dig it. There may be hair in the way, and sometimes the smell can be unpleasant, but most of these issues can be corrected with proper hygiene and a healthy diet. Try taking a shower together before you start, and make sure you take charge of soaping him down so you get it done the way you want.

If necessary, have an honest heart-to-heart talk with him about what’s truly holding you back when it comes to fellatio. If he's smart, he'll take good notes and do what it takes to meet your criteria.

Don’t criticize him as you explain. Simply share your preferences when it comes to pubic hair styling and hygiene. Offer suggestions and make sure to come from a place of excitement about what that would do for you. He'll likely be more than willing to spend a few extra minutes grooming each day if it means more blow jobs as a result.

2. Make it wet

Saliva, saliva, saliva. Make it wet and slippery.

Think of a lemon, drink water, or use flavored lube, but however you decide to do it, you must have lubrication.

Do not be afraid of being slobbery or gagging. He will love it. Guaranteed.

3. Change it up

Vary your speed, strokes, direction, and depth.

The up and down motion can get tiring for your neck pretty fast, so instead of only moving your head, trying using your tongue to circle around the head and shaft. Alternate between circling and sucking motions, as well as putting his penis underneath your tongue to varies the sensations. Go for long licks from base to tip, and alternate with kisses up and down the shaft.

If you're not into deep throating because it makes you gag (don’t feel bad, most people do), you can use create suction against the roof of your mouth to create the illusion of reaching deep and far.

4. Use your hands

Just because it’s called oral sex, that doesn't mean your mouth is the only part of you that can get involved.

Bring your hands into the equation whenever your mouth gets a little tired, taking over the work while you gently suck.

You can make a ring with your index finger and thumb and go up and down the shaft. Or, another option is to use your full hand to squeeze him at the base while sucking the tip. You can also try a juicing motion with your hand on the head of his penis as you sucking or lick his testicles.

If he's into it, you can reach up with your hands to caress his chest or gently pinch his nipples, or use the tip of your finger to add deep pressure on his perineum, the section between his anus and genitals.

Using both your hands and mouth adds to his sensations, making it more fun for you, too.

5. Surprise him

Adding some variety to your blow job technique will help spice things up.

Include his testicles, as they rarely get enough attention and can really add to his pleasure.

Or try slowing things down. Make it so he doesn't know what’s coming next.

You can also talk dirty to him, incorporate toys, learn how to stimulate his prostate, and experiment with making sounds while his penis is inside your mouth (the vibration will add to his enjoyment).

Another great trick is to bring him close to orgasm ... and stop right before he reaches his point of no return. This will train him to stay in a heightened state of pleasure for a longer period of time. A side effect of this technique is that he will be able to last longer during sex, so win-win!

6. Ask for feedback

Ask him what he likes. Have him tell you when a move scores high on his pleasure scale, and then repeat it often.

You really don’t need to know that many moves, just three to five go-to’s you can rotate.

When you get validation that he likes what you're doing, it will boost your confidence.

Believe in your skills and yourself — you’ve got this!

And if you're still worried, remember that you don’t have to swallow every time you give him a blow job. There are no rules that say you must keep going until he has an orgasm. You can choose when you are done and leave him hanging for more.

Your body, your choice.

Some women consider giving blow jobs degrading, but they can be empowering and liberating when you realize that you are in charge of his pleasure.

The important thing is to always make sure you are comfortable.

You don’t have to be on your knees. You can have him lay down and position yourself on his side or between his legs instead. Find out what works for you.

Remember, it is your show.

Feel inspired and get ready to blow his mind!

Céline Remy is a Holistic Sexologist and Certified Sexological Bodyworker who teaches men and women how to unleash their sexual potential, bring out the best in each other and have mind-blowing sex for hours using a unique body-based methodology. Get her sex tips and relationship advice by joining the Sex Vault, the place to get real about sex.