5 Ways To Boost Your Confidence Instantly Right Now
You can do this!
getty Most of us want to know how to be more confident, whether it’s for inviting someone out on a date, selling a service or product, or plucking up the courage to ask for a well-deserved pay rise.
But some people have such low confidence that they lose their power and get dragged toward another person’s dream because they lack the tenacity to follow their own.
Truth is that confidence isn't something you can magically wake up with one morning, unless you’ve been subject to a miraculous upgrade in your sleep and woken up as someone else!
Building confidence takes time and persistence, so we can evolve into different ways of being and believing.
Having the strength to make decisions for yourself has a big impact on how your life transforms. Being that we live in a world of free will, why let someone else decide how your story will go?
When I was a young nerdy teenager, I had low self-esteem. I was too shy to speak up in class and missed many opportunities to enhance my learning ability, as I was afraid to question something I didn't understand.
Fortunately, I was able to put my strengths to good use later on in life. But I certainly know what it’s like to feel invisible and lack self-belief.
The secret to having more confidence and self-esteem starts from the relationship you have with yourself and building in new techniques and behaviors to ignite your inner resources.
Confidence comes with practicing and learning new ways of being. So if you want more self-confidence, the best thing to do is start stretching some unfamiliar boundaries.
Here are 5 tips on how to boost your confidence right now.
1. Create a routine to get out of your comfort zone.
Take action on an activity once a day that pushes you out of your comfort zone. Or, repeat something that is uncomfortable so it no longer has the same emotional effect on you.
The result is that the fear will diminish and the negative affects will lessen in your neurology system, making things become easier the more you do them.
2. Change the way you talk to yourself.
Notice the relationship you have with your body and how you speak to yourself throughout the day.
Practice positive internal self-talk, because that will have a big impact on how you feel about yourself and perceive the outside world.
3. Pay attention to what your body's telling you.
Change your body language. Body and mind are connected, so body language has a significant impact on your mindset.
Whilst lying down, think of something negative or something that makes you unhappy. Then, stand up and jog on the spot for one minute.
Bring in the same thought and notice the difference in your feelings surrounding that thought.
4. Notice when you're setting yourself up for failure.
You've experienced hearing a little voice in your head telling you that you're not good enough, or that there is no point in trying, as you'll only fail.
Did you know that your little voices have a positive intention for you? It's your subconscious protecting you and keeping you safe and away from danger.
When you want to take action on an idea that is unfamiliar and your little voice comes in, change the tone to Gonzo from The Muppets and see if it still has the same effect!
5. Set realistic goals.
Make goals and decide what it is you want to achieve as part of your confidence building.
Many people push the responsibility of their success on to other people giving away their personal power and accountability. As a result, they sleepwalk through their life. The more you can achieve for yourself, the more empowered you will feel.
Write out what you see, hear, or feel as you ponder this thought...
Imagine it is now the future, a few years before the end of your life. You never took action to create the changes you want in your life.
How do you feel? What does it inspire you to do, or not do now?
Caroline Rushforth is a certified NLP coach and life coach with over 10 years' experience helping women who are overwhelmed with worry, negative thoughts, and low self-esteem. She offers a free 30-minute consultation via Zoom or Skype. Send her an email for more information about how she can help you.