Getting Bored? 10 Ways To Beat (Totally Normal!) Relationship Boredom
You don't have to stay bored in the relationship.
getty Is your relationship is getting tiresome? When you start feeling bored with your partner, it’s common to worry that something is wrong.
You might even ask yourself if you still love your significant other. But even if the answer is "yes," you still might occasionally have those days when you're bored together.
Particularly during an unprecedented situation like the pandemic lockdown, boredom is the order of the day.
But does that really mean that you don’t love each other anymore? Or is there a way to deal with days like this?
Being bored sometimes is normal and has nothing to do with love!
First of all, don’t panic if you and your partner are both feeling bored. That doesn’t mean you don’t love each other anymore.
However, if you spend every waking moment together, it’s only natural that you’ll have times where you’ll find that you have nothing to do or nothing to say.
Sometimes, you may even feel like you want to do something but don’t know what.
If boredom generates no conflict but you take advantage of it to relax or try to find ways to manage it, instead, then it’s perfectly normal.
But if moments of boredom irritate you or your partner, that's different.
Moments of boredom are not something you or your spouse can control. Therefore, there’s no responsibility or guilt.
If you get mad and blame it on your partner, there may be something else going on in your relationship.
When you're in a loving relationship, you should feel comfortable with your loved one, even if you both have nothing to do. If something as normal and solvable as boredom gets you into fighting or anger, you should talk about it.
If you don't know how to begin, don't worry! Not everything is lost. You can seek professional help to overcome your issues and save your relationship.
How do you manage boredom in a relationship?
As mentioned before, it’s normal to get bored if you spent every day together. When you start feeling bored, it may be time for you to give each other some personal space.
Perhaps you can use that time to visit a friend (if your area's Covid's restrictions allow it), take that walk you’ve been longing for, call your family, or engage in one of your hobbies.
The fact that you don’t do everything together doesn’t mean your relationship is not working. On the contrary! You both must have your own space.
If you go out and have your own adventures, there’s so much more to tell and share with your partner later!
Here are 10 things you can do as a couple to manage your boredom.
1. Read books together.
Perhaps, read each other your favorite books.
2. Take a bath together.
Set some romantic candles and scents!
3. Give each other spa treatments.
Doing this together can bring a whole world of opportunities!
4. Plan things for the future.
Is there a trip you’ve always wanted to schedule but never got the time? Now's the opportunity to do it!
5. Take pictures.
Just funny faces and whatever it goes!
6. Organize your house together.
There’s never enough time for this! But now that you're always home, you can get started on some much-needed home projects!
7. Watch movies.
Even the bad ones can surprise you when you're bored.
8. Cook together.
Many people have been trying lots of different recipes lately, and it can be fun to do as a couple. Why not try making some banana bread?
9. Challenge each other in games.
Whether it's video games or board games, it's a fun way to pass the time. And if you have none, you can invent one!
10. Video call friends and family together.
You can even make it into a Zoom party with snacks, games, or a movie.
There’s so much more you can do. With a bit of imagination to it, you can come up with as many ideas as you can — one of them must work!
What if the boredom in your relationship doesn’t go away?
If nothing can help you get over the situation and you still struggle to tolerate each other, perhaps it’s time to question your relationship.
Just think 30 years ahead. Is that what you want for your life?
You must understand this: While love does give you butterflies, it’s also full of regular days.
You can’t feel intoxicated by love all the time! And that’s a normal part of a loving relationship.
So, if you just can’t find a way to get over boredom in your relationship, it may be time to move on.
Agata Dominika is a relationship counselor. She works with many couples and single people who struggle to find happiness in love. For more information, visit her website.