How To End On Good Terms With Your Ex, Per Astrology
Breakups are never fun.
pexels It’s true, whether you are a man or a woman, the person who does the breakup or the one who receives it — if it’s your first crush in elementary school (or a 20 year committed marriage) — breakups suck.
There are dealbreakers that end a relationship, no questions asked. Each horoscope sign handles things such as drinking, connecting with friends, or trying out new things (some are more positive than others) differently. So, what might be a no-go for one zodiac sign, another could have no problem with at all.
When there's no way to go but out, and you're ready to quit dating the person you once thought you love, the next question becomes how do we actually break up? Is there a good way to end it well?
It may sound simple but psychologically it’s hard to tell someone you no longer want them after however long your relationship has been. Will they be angry? Will they beg and plea for you to change your mind? Will you guys ever talk again? Did I make the right choice?
It’s good before you partake on your journey through single life to consider all your options, and if you like astrology, let it be one of them. Also it is good to consider the consequences and the reasons as to why you shouldn't be with this person.
1. Do you guys have the same values?
Values are the most important predictor of whether a relationship will work or not (even more important than looks). If you find a man to be the greatest thing since sliced bread but he doesn't want kids, doesn't want to get married, doesn't have a drive or purpose, and you're the exact opposite then why should you be with him? Having similar drives is important too if you're career oriented and you're with a bum then your two perspectives will clash eventually.
2. Does he respect and love your family?
Although your family isn't the one dating your partner it's important for him to be able to keep up a conversation with them. Is he open to helping them in time of need? Is he friendly and respectful when being around them? If he doesn't want to meet them and have dinner then you need to question whether its the right person.
3. Does he respect you?
Does he do the little things to show that he loves you? The random acts of kindness, the different way he looks at you when you enter a room, the new adventures he takes you on, that matters.
4. Do you find him attractive?
Although the other questions matter a lot more, looks still play a factor. If you're very much into health and fitness and want a partner who is muscular then you won't be attracted to a guy who is skinny. Consider this though, are they willing to change? If they are working towards that goal then it’s a positive, not a negative that he has that body shape. Putting in the work matters the most.
If you're still choosing to break up with him then here are the best ways to handle it, according to zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
As someone who is optimistic you are hopeful about your future with your ex. Whether it ended bad or good you believe you can reconnect in the future. Always stay hopeful but don't be sad if it doesn't go the way you want.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
You're very unlikely to stay friends with your ex. If it's over it is over. You prefer to be blunt about why it didn't work out, what they can do to be better, and if you'll talk after.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Geminis are fickle, one moment you want to be friends but the next you hate the person and want nothing to do with him. Try and get yourself right emotionally first and then decide whether its a person to keep in your life or not.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
It's hard to convince yourself to love again, you feel being broken is the ultimate betrayal or if you're the one doing the break up then you doubt that you'll ever love again. Keep going, keep going, because sometimes you need hard times to appreciate the golden times.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
As someone who always loves human connections, you feel destroyed when a breakup happens. It’s what you expect the least out of love. They want to fix it and try to keep fighting for the relationship. For you fixing the relationship is what you prefer but when worse comes to worst, accept the loss.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
As someone who pays attention to detail, you love the idea of having a conversation with your ex about all the things wrong with the relationship. You like conclusions to your relationships and prefer to have communication after. Since they are overly critical of themselves they love to say it was their fault.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libras love to be in a relationship, but if that time comes they prefer to keep the door opening. Having some way to communicate with your ex and possibly start again in the future works best for people of your zodiac sign.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
They are very distrustful and jealous of any person they end it with. So anger and fighting is second nature to a lot of Scorpios, don't be tempted. Control your anger and take some time away before you can handle the other person respectfully.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
People who are Sagittarius are about as free as an American Eagle, they hate the idea of being locked down to one thing so they welcome a new journey. So breaking off from the person who kept you trapped is the best option for you, feel the pain and carry on.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
You’re always searching for what's next. You're focused on finding that special someone so if you break up you immediately try to move on to the next, its just a chapter in your life. So staying firm with your opinion is best for Capricorns.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
You're someone who runs to emotions. You take hard the twist and turns, upside downs, and in-betweens of any connection. This leads you to build up walls after a breakup. Cutting ties with your partner for a while is what they prefer as to not relive the pain over and over again.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
As someone who is altruistic and always willing to help and love others it's no wonder you prefer to keep the breakup as vague as possible. Keeping the reasons as ambiguous while still leaving a window for friendship is how any Pisces breaks up.
Steven Hall is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.