How To Mend A Broken Relationship, Per Astrology
Things can be mended.
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You want to try, but you can barely manage to be in the same room with each other without arguing.
You want things to work so you try to talk it out, but everything you want to say feels fake. And sometimes, you want to just give up, but you know that you love this person too much to do that. Just because your relationship feels broken right now doesn't mean that you can't still work together to turn things around and fix it.
There is still a chance that you can mend your relationship. The most important thing for this to happen, though, is to work together. You and your partner are a team – anything you do for your relationship should be done together.
When you start working against each other, that's when you know the relationship is in need of some real TLC. Relationships can be broken for a lot of different reasons.
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Whether it was because of infidelity, external stressors, or the fizzle of romance and that spark that brought you two together in the first place, you can now both agree that something needs to change. But knowing how to repair your relationship can be difficult – where do you even start?
Should you try to fix your relationship alone or do you need a professional's help? One thing that might be able to help is by looking to your horoscope sign for answers. Each zodiac sign has specific skills and strengths that make them amazing at relationships.
Every zodiac sign has the ability to make a relationship strong and built on a foundation of love and trust, based on these strengths. So, when you're looking for ways to get started repairing your own relationship, knowing what your strengths are according to astrology can help.
Of course, it also helps to be compassionate and attentive, active in communication, and willing to leave petty things in the past – so don't rely solely on astrology to fix your relationship; use it as a guideline to help get you started.
Once you start mending the foundation of your relationship again, you can use the strengths you've learned from these reparations to keep your relationship healthy and happy.
Relationships take work, but if both of you are willing to put in the time and effort, you can have a relationship that makes you proud to be a part of.
Here is how to repair a broken relationship, based on your zodiac sign, per astrology.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries, you often expect things to go off without a hitch in your relationship without really being present. You have a busy and full life with people constantly demanding your attention that you sometimes forget that you have a relationship, too. If your relationship is failing, it could be because you’re constantly rushing through love just so you can get back to the other things that need your attention.
Fixing your relationship is as simple as slowing down. You like to always be on top of your deadlines, but your relationship isn’t one of those things. Not only should you slow your entire life down and do things more intentionally, but you should also slow down when you’re with your partner. Turn your phone off, enjoy the present moment, and be more mindful of what your relationship needs.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
There’s no denying that you’re a very patient person, Taurus (your partner can always count on your to be there), but you’re also pretty set in your ways. While you’re more than happy to take your time with love and let your partner warm up to new ideas for your relationship, it’s either your way or the highway. You hope that with time, your partner will see things your way without asking questions or disrupting your plans.
If your relationship is broken, it’s because you’re not letting your partner be a part of the relationship. You hate when people try to give you alternatives (why isn’t your way good enough?), but a relationship is supposed to be about the two of you. Learn how to be more open-minded and flexible to new ideas, and you’ll realize that change can make a relationship better not worse.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
When things don’t go your way, Gemini, it can stir up a lot of negative self-talk. Are you worth this relationship? Does it even make sense to try anymore? You’re stuck in a rut that you can’t get out of, and your relationship is suffering for it. You might have noticed that things were going bad before your partner did, but now it’s up to you to work together and figure out how to fix things before it’s too late.
One thing you absolutely hate is routine. You’re probably in a rut because you’ve fallen into a boring routine with your partner that neither of you knows how to get out of. If you want to fix your relationship, throw away your old routine. You can’t always spice up your relationship with expensive dinners and surprises, but you can move the furniture around, cook a new recipe together, and try a new position in bed.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer, relationships both excite you and frighten you. You want to dive into love with both feet, but you worry that you don't know how to swim once you’re in the water. All of these what if’s are single-handedly ruining your relationship. Where was that Cancer that swept your partner off their feet? The one who was so confident in the relationship when it was new?
Fixing your relationship is about learning to trust yourself. You were able to do it once before, and you can do it again. Get out of your comfort zone and teach yourself that new things are just as fun as they are scary. Practice having more open and honest conversations with your partner, learn something new together, and even consider some kind of couple's therapy where you can learn how to create a safe space at home. at home.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
You’re a very intense person, Leo. You’re a leader, a trailblazer, and a very passionate soul that wants every day with your partner to be extra special and amazing. This love you have for you partner is incredibly inspiring, but it’s also unrealistic. Life happens and you don’t always have time to sweep each other off your feet. But while this is normal for all relationships, it feels like the end of the road for you.
If you want to fix your broken relationship, you need to learn to find the sweet spots in the most boring days with your partner. Yeah, you both have the flu, but you can have a GoT marathon in bed together. Yes, laundry is super boring, but it’s also an excuse time to just chat and get to know each other. Not every day can be filled with fireworks, but you can learn how to make your own even in the most mundane situations.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
You want everything in your life to be perfect, Virgo – your career, your relationship, and even yourself. But just because you want these things doesn’t mean they come easy. You have to really work for perfection if you want. The thing about you, though, is that once you reach perfection, you feel like you have to keep pushing yourself (and your partner), which only puts a strain on your relationship.
You’re so critical of yourself that you’re convinced that you’re not good enough for your partner. Rather than beat yourself up over nothing, learn how to chill out and accept that not everything can be perfect. You don’t have to lower your high standards, but you should consider learning how to be content with the most important things in your relationship.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
One thing you definitely need to learn about your relationship, Libra, is that discretion can go a long way. You do love to share things about your relationship, especially when your partner surprises you with flowers and treats (can you say Instagram-worthy?), but it can also open you up to a lot of criticism. When you put things out there that is probably best kept a secret, you invite everyone else’s opinion into your life.
This is only part of the reason your relationship is broken, though. The other part is because your relationship has taken a very boring turn. Now that your partner knows everything about you is on Instagram, there’s too much pressure to impress you… and everyone online. This is an easy fix: keep your relationship private and know that the only person’s opinions that matter are yours and your partners. End of discussion.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
It was cute when you first started dating your partner to be all quiet and mysterious, Scorpio, but now it’s just straight-up ruining your relationship. It’s okay to be scared to open up and be honest about yourself and what you want from your partner, but if you constantly let it stop you from being part of your relationship 100 percent, you’re going to lose something good.
While your partner is getting worked up over not being able to connect with you, you’re caught up in wondering if sharing too much about yourself is making you look weak. Being vulnerable is scary, but it’s the only way you’re going to save your relationship. Put your pride aside and know that this person loves you. Unless you want your partner to say, “Forget it,” it’s time to open up for real.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
You need your freedom to really thrive in a relationship – we get it, Sagittarius. But you can’t keep using this need for independence as an excuse to not get close to your partner or get out of relationship duties. Can you imagine how much that hurts your partner? No, probably not because you’re never around for the tough stuff. Needless to say, this is why your relationship is so broken.
Constantly asking for things you need and never giving your partner’s needs a second thought is incredibly selfish of you. Yes, freedom is valuable to you, but you can’t expect to have total freedom AND be in a relationship – it just doesn’t work. Practice thinking of your partner before you think of yourself. What’s best for the relationship? Can you spend more quality time together? Try, Sagittarius.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn, you treat dating like a fight to the death. Whoever is the toughest and most worthy will get to spend their life with you. Yeah, that’s only fun for you. In reality, it makes your partner feel like they constantly have to prove themselves to you. You want specific things for your relationship and you’re willing to make your partner jump through impossible hoops just to please you.
If you want to fix your relationship – because, yes, there ARE problems right now – you need to treat your partner like a person; a person who is in this relationship with you. The only person you’re allowed to control is yourself. Using manipulation tactics to get what you want is petty and childish. If you want an adult relationship, you need to start acting like an adult.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
I know you don’t want to admit it, Aquarius, but change scares you a little bit. You get comfortable in a relationship, and then before you know it, the relationship is failing because nothing ever changed. Can you honestly say that’s what you want? You’re the kind of person who’s always up for trying new things, but when it comes time to put your money where your mouth is, you get scared and chicken out.
This can be fixed by getting out of your comfort zone. It’s okay to be scared, but don’t let that stop you from getting what you really want. Instead of just getting comfortable with the mediocre, speak up and tell your partner what you need. If you can’t make your own decisions, you’re doomed to a life of letting other people make decisions for you.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
One of the main reasons your partner fell for you in the first place is because you had such big dreams for yourself. This is certainly admirable, but not if you never come back down to reality long enough to achieve those dreams. You like living in the dream world so much that you use it as your excuse when you don’t want to deal with real life. If you can’t see the problem, it doesn’t exist, right?
You have to come back to reality if you want to fix your broken relationship – there’s just no other way. Practice addressing your issues a little at a time instead of acting like a child and pretending they don’t exist. Start small, like talking to your partner about sharing the responsibility of chores, and work your way up to the big leagues, like asking your partner to treat you with more respect around friends and family. Easy!
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.