Why He's Sending Mixed Signals, Per Astrology
Because every man has a little Gemini in him.
pexels Things are going great. Your first few dates went off without a hitch, the cute text messages are flowing, and you’ve even let your guard down enough to tell a few friends that there could be a real future here.
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And then, suddenly, the goodnight texts stop and you’re somehow not even sure you two are still on for this weekend. We’ve all been there. Hey, even Katy Perry has been there. In fact, while you’re here, why not calm your frustrations with this always on-point throwback.
Getting mixed signals from a guy is super frustrating. While it can happen at any point in a relationship, it can be especially difficult to decipher his mixed messages in the beginning. Whether you two had a legendary first date and now he’s dragging his feet on scheduling date two, or you’ve been together for years and he suddenly seems distant, it’s always confusing and disappointing when a guy goes hot and cold on you.
But before you go into full panic mode—whether that means deleting his number along with any evidence he ever existed OR sending him that 1,000-word “what are we” text you have saved in your drafts—let’s take a second to think about what might really be going on here. Chances are, his behavior has more to do with him, and his zodiac sign, than it does with you.
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Conventional wisdom, an infamous Sex & the City quote and the 2009 ensemble film it inspired all suggest a simple if ugly, explanation: He’s just not that into you. But here’s some good news and some bad news: It’s not always that simple!
When dealing with dating drama, it’s tempting to just text the group chat, “All men are garbage,” and call it a day. But the truth is, not all men are the same. They may very well all still be garbage. But they are each garbage in their own special way. Each and every man, and each and every man’s horoscope sign, is a special garbage snowflake, if you will.
Jokes aside, every guy handles things differently, and his unique personality type can tell you a lot about what’s really going on. Before you write him off as a flaky loser who doesn’t know how good he has it, let’s see what astrology has to say about why he’s giving mixed signals. You two might still be written in the stars, and so might the answers to his sketchy behavior.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
The Aries man moves fast! He’s all about competition and drive. But this doesn’t make him a player, per say. He’s definitely looking for something real. But Aries men are perfectionists, and they’re on a high-speed, focused quest for the perfect dynamic. If he senses the vibe isn’t quite right, he’s likely to have second thoughts.
Because the Aries man operates at such a fast pace, he has a tendency to jump into things quickly. If he’s giving you mixed signals, it’s possible his strong-willed Aries impulsivity caused him to jump in a little too hard, too fast. Sensing that your dynamic might not be as dazzling as he initially thought, he could be second guessing himself.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus men are great in relationships because they’re known for being loyal, stable, and reliable. They know what they want and they stick to it. Sounds great, right?
The problem? Taurus men want it easy! Because everything is so black and white for them, they don’t respond well to any hesitation or uncertainty on your part. If your Taurus man senses any indication that you’re not feeling the same way he is, he’ll shut down. If he’s not sure how you feel, he’ll get very insecure very quickly. So if your Taurus guy is giving you mixed signals, it’s possible he’s also dealing with his own questions about where you two stand.
Fortunately, this one's an easy fix. He needs reassurance, so just be honest with him about your real feelings.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
First of all, if you’re dating a Gemini man, good luck to you. Geminis basically invented mixed signals. Unfortunately, if your Gemini dude is acting shady, it shouldn’t really come as any surprise.
Gemini men are all about the chase. They are the ultimate players. If he’s giving you mixed signals, it really comes down to one of two reasons. Either things are getting a little too serious between you two and he’s feeling bored, or he’s just trying to keep the game going.
Despite their bad rap, dating a Gemini can be a ton of fun because it really is a nonstop game. If you’re down to play, pull up a chair and give your Gemini dude a run for his money. But if you’re looking for something more serious, it’s probably best not to bet on this zodiac sign and his mixed signals.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
He’s a water sign, which means he’s deep, intuitive, sensitive and probably artistic. Unfortunately, these signs often come with some major emotional baggage. With great emotional depth comes great moodiness.
If your Cancer guy is suddenly acting distant, he’s probably feeling moody. The good news is, his sour mood may very well have nothing to do with you. Give him a few days to see if he comes back out of his shell. Chances are, he’s just feeling crabby.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo loves life and wants to live it to the fullest. He’s strong and confident, and frankly, it’s no wonder you fell for him.
Leo guys also want plenty of attention. Basically, he wants to be treated like a king. And like a king, Leo can get a little lazy. If he’s giving you mixed signals, he’s either not getting the attention and praise he wants from you, or he feels like kicking up his feet and letting you do the work for a bit. Feel free to give your Leo guy a little extra attention, but be careful not to end up catering to his every whim.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Your Virgo guy is organized, level-headed and detailed oriented, which makes him a great life partner. The problem with his methodical approach to life? He overthinks EVERYTHING.
If a Virgo guy has left you hanging, you can bet it’s because he’s overthinking. If he likes you, he wants to make sure he gets this right, and he also wants to make sure it’s the best choice for the both of you. Unfortunately, no one can predict the future, and Virgo knows that even his best-laid plans can’t guarantee everything will work out. Your Virgo guy needs to feel safe and in control, but he also might need a little help letting go of some of that control. Maybe you can help him not take everything so seriously.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
The Libra man wants to make sure everything is peaceful and fair. Unfortunately, this means he can almost never make up his mind. The Libra guy wants to be loyal and steadfast, but because he’s so committed to analyzing every possible option, he has a really hard time when it comes to making decisions.
It’s not uncommon for a guy with a Libra zodiac sign to give mixed signals. He’s so busy weighing all his options, he just can’t commit. He prides himself on being fair, but his behavior toward you isn’t very fair at all. You’re more than just an option to be weighed!
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Anyone will tell you that you can have the greatest love affair of your life with a Scorpio man. They are deep, passionate lovers who relish emotion and experience.
Of course, any time emotional energies run this high, there’s always a downside. Dating a Scorpio man can feel like a whirlwind. It’s thrilling, but it’ll often leave you to come crashing down after. The Scorpio guy runs on really high emotional energy, and is prone to mood swings. If he’s giving you mixed signals, his passionate nature is getting the better of him, and you’re the one paying the price.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Your Sagittarius man is one of the most outgoing and charismatic zodiac signs. He’s fun, charming, and full of energy. He’s the type to sweep you off your feet in no time.
Unfortunately, this also means that Sagittarius men have a tendency to make promises they can’t, or simply won’t, fulfill. Sag men are generally good natured, so he’s probably not intentionally leading you on. But if you feel like you’re getting mixed signals from this zodiac sign, there’s a good chance he promised a little more than he could deliver.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
The Capricorn guy is all about self-control. If you’re sensing a sudden shift in his behavior toward you, it’s possible he felt like he let himself get a little lost in the moment with you and now feels like he needs to reign it in.
This has much more to do with him than it does with you. Capricorn men don’t like feeling carried away, so if he found himself falling head over heels for you, he’s probably just trying to take a step back and regain some control. The good news is, if he’s backing off suddenly, it probably means he’s feeling swept away by you! Just give him a little time to put himself back in order.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Your Aquarius man is a rare find: he’s a deep thinker who also thrives in social situations. Unfortunately, he’s not great when it comes to emotional expression. He loves to share his thoughts, but once they get more emotional than intellectual, he’ll clam up quick.
If your Aquarius guy is sending mixed signals, it’s because his usually talkative nature is having trouble processing all the feels he has for you! Just give him some time. He’s smart, he’ll figure it out.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Ah, the Pisces man. He’s sweet, he’s sensitive, he’s artsy. Feelings run deep with this one, but unfortunately, the Pisces man LOVES to play the victim. He’s the type to go on and on about the girl who broke his heart in high school, and tell you that he’s guarded because he’s “been hurt before.”
If your Pisces dude suddenly goes dark on you, chances are he’s being all moody. He’s probably thinking about his last breakup and listening to sad music on purpose to make himself feel sadder. It’s probably nothing you did, but the Pisces guy is definitely one to have his guard up. He needs to move on in his own time, and Pisces time tends to move pretty slowly.
Kayla Kibbe is a writer wrapping up her final semester at Connecticut College where she is an English major with a concentration in creative writing. She writes about astrology, love and relationships, covering everything from dating and single life to love and marriage.