How He Ruins Intimacy When He's Feeling Majorly Insecure, By Each Astrology Zodiac Sign
Sometimes insecurities within your relationship, have nothing to do with confidence or self-esteem.
pexels Some men are strong but intimacy can make them weak in their relationships especially when there's a problem that involves how you feel towards him as a man. The reason can be explained by astrology and found in his zodiac sign, if you're curious as to why.
Insecurity are could be compared to death and taxes. We all have them and it's one thing everyone has in common.
Relationships are an inevitable part of life and we all need them. Unfortunately there are a few other things that happen in intimate relationships, and insecurities are one of them.
However, like anything else in life, people deal with their insecurities in different ways, and interestingly enough this be gauged depending on a person’s zodiac sign.
Now I’m not here to tell you how you can guess what a person’s zodiac sign is by how they act insecure. I find it more useful to point out how each astrological sign displays insecurity if you’re in a relationship and your union happens to be on the rocks, particularly in the intimacy department.
Now I just would like to preface these evidences of of insecurity by saying that these aren't the end all be all in terms of marking the fate of your relationship. Depending on what your man's horoscopes says about him, is what counts. He could be jokingly insecure, or he may be disturbingly insecure, and insight into those personality traits can be found in astrology.
Either way neither are absolute. Just because he may typically display insecurity the closer you become more than other men it doesn't mean you can't work with him to try and get rid of his insecurities.
After all, more often than not, when a person is insecure it's because they lack validation from their significant other. Validation is particularly important to men. A man can be strong, confident, and have high self-esteem, but be weak when he loves a woman.
He can be smart and a hard worker who loves you, but without validation, his insecurity kicks in and it can affect how he feels when intimate, even in conversation. However, this is not to throw shade at you. Some people just need more validation than others. So, if you are looking for him to open up more and share his feelings, let's fix that.
Whether it's you constantly telling him he has no reason to be insecure, or showing him (which would work better), or a bit of both, it's worth being more vulnerable to make your relationship even stronger.
Hear me out, from a male's point of view. Here's how each male zodiac sign acts when insecurity issues kicks intimacy issues into high gear, but looks like low self-esteem, by zodiac sign in astrology.
1. ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Trigger: Your admiration and respect.
Not being the alpha-male (or most respected). Typically they can’t handle not being the best at whatever it is that they do. Sadly this doesn’t just pertain to their career. Usually when a person (especially a guy) feels the need to assert their dominance in every facet of their life, everything is a competition.
They compete with their friends to be the most respected; they compete with their siblings to be the most favored (to their parents); they compete with their wife to be the better spouse; if they have children they compete with their wife to be the better parent and so on and so forth.
Therefore if you’re in a relationship with a man who is always trying to out-do you, this may be why. Letting him know you think the best of him will help him overcome his insecurity and he'll naturally feel closer to you as a result.
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2. TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
Trigger: Not giving you what you want or need.
A Taurus male is born to be possessive and a bit stubborn. He can get insecure about his status and will always compare himself to others. It's not because he's insecure or lacks an ability to be deep, it's because he's a money sign in astrology and wants to provide security and nice things for you.
In contrast to Aries, though, he may not try to compete with everyone, but at least will always be analyzing how they match up to him. So if you’re used to him overthinking things or never being satisfied if someone else’s (even your) situation is perceived as more favorable, this is most likely why.
You can help encourage him by showing him you are comfortable with the process of self-improvement and lots of praise goes a long way.
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3. GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Trigger: Feeling excluded.
Gemini men aren't ones to jump into commitment, so when he decided he wanted to be with you, he meant it. Feeling like he's being left out triggers his self-esteem and can affect trust. Geminis get really insecure when they’re not included in something. Unfortunately it doesn’t matter how big or small of a deal it is.
Whether they were left out of a group text or weren’t consulted by their partner about their child getting their first cell phone, that Gemini can take offense to either.
In response they’ll most likely confront you every time this happens or bottle it up and explode at some point. Therefore you may want to make it a habit of running things by them going forward.
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4. CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Trigger: Lacking your undivided attention.
Self-worth and intimacy with the Crab go hand-in-hand. Cancers’ arch nemeses typically are themselves. Regardless of what goes well in their life, they always question their value. Unfortunately, doubts about self-worth are one of the most complex causes of insecurities.
It’s because they can display their insecurity in one of two ways. They can either act angrily or sadly. If the former is true they will try and talk s**t about others every chance they get to make themselves look better.
If the latter is true they will take the blame for something (even when it’s not their fault) and even self-deprecate themselves frequently. I don’t know about you, but when people do that I typically stay clear of them because it’s awkward.
Back to the point though, if your man is a cancer and does these things he may be insecure and the best thing you can do is give him constant validation that he’s enough.
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5. LEO (July 23-August 22)
Trigger: Not knowing you find him physically attractive.
Appearance and Leo, is there more to say? The lion notices every detail of your life, even if he doesn't say it. He cares for himself because he's trying to impress you, and it's important that you notice it. There’s not much to say here but if your man spends as much time in (and out of) the bathroom getting ready (or even longer) as you then he cares greatly about his appearance.
Also if you guys have an argument and he criticizes your physique, deep down it’s because he’s incapable of looking beyond the physical.
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6. VIRGO (August 23-September 22)
Trigger: Wanting to keep you stress-free.
Control issues often come up when a person is in a close relationship with a Virgo. Virgos are the type of people who have to be in control at almost all times. Personally I’ve seen this and it’s not pretty. When people have control issues (and feel like they’ve lost control) they do a multitude of things to regain it.
Those things include belittling or rudely dismissing others. Both make you want to have nothing to do with them. However if you truly love them you may want to put them in the driver seat of your relationship from time to time.
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7. LIBRA (September 23-October 22)
Trigger: Feeling like they have hurt your feelings.
Losing face and having their reputation tarnished are huge to a Libra man. So, of course, your feelings matter to him. He wants to make sure your relationship is harmonious and happy. Much like Taurus’ and Aries, Libras care very much about their reputation, and that comes with being the type of person who shows support and love in a caring way.
Therefore will do whatever it takes just to makes sure others can’t justifiably think of them in a negative light. For example, if all is well in your relationship or in your partner’s career, but they go the extra mile to make that fact known, then there may be some insecurities in play.
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8. SCORPIO (October 23-November 21)
Trigger: Feeling like others know more about you than they do.
Exposure is a no-no with Scorpio men. They love privacy. They love intimacy, so when they feel like your mother, best friend, sister, or whoever else knows more than they do about you, they feel hurt.
Scorpios are one of the more private zodiac signs. Everything isn’t for everybody to know. It's not that they want you be friendless. A Scorpio man in love just wants you to know he is interested in being your very, best friend.
Therefore to prevent arguments it may pay off to consult with them before you post about your romantic weekend all over Facebook and Instagram. Same goes for PDA. It’s for some people, other not so much. If this is in fact true, the trick is to not take it personal because chances are it truly isn’t you.
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9. SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21)
Trigger: Feeling like they made a mistake.
Monogamy. Sagittarius’ are the liberals of zodiacs. They love the freedom of being able to what they want with whom they want. They won’t give up their freedom for just anyone they happen to be shacking up with. So, if they feel misunderstood or that you aren't interested like you were before they committed, this could give them a case of the regrets.
Therefore I hate to say this but if they seem to be retreating in the relationship, they may be having doubts. However don’t worry, they might just need some space. In this event, don’t be quick to find someone else during this break. That’ll only push them away further due to the feeling of disloyalty.
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10. CAPRICORN (December 22-January 19)
Trigger: Feeling like they failed you.
Capricorn is quite a family oriented man. He loves to succeed and even though he knows, “Failure is necessary to succeed”, you are an exception to that rule. In the eyes of a Capricorn man, you are their greatest treasure, and so caring for you is a priority. They’re terrified of failure, which can be good or bad for your relationship. It can be good because they’ll try extra hard to make it work.
However it can be bad because they may try too hard to make it work, which ironically may put you at wit’s end and force you to end it. This may be obvious if they have a hyper-competitive side to them, which unfortunately can get nasty under certain circumstances. However, just remembers it’s because their inability to cope with failure, not because they have malice towards you.
11. AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Trigger: Lack of closeness.
As contradictory as it may seem the exact thing he wants most may be the thing he seems to be least interested in. Lacking of Intimacy can trigger his insecurity, and so he withdraws to protect himself.
We all know some people just aren’t good with intimacy. If this is your partner however don’t take it so personal. It’s probably because they’re awkward and know they’re limits. At least astrology says that might be the case.
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12. PISCES (February 19-March 20)
Trigger: Feeling like you deserve better.
Pisces men care deeply about what others think of them. he knows you're someone special, so he may sometimes think you could do better than him because he wishes he could do more for you. You may notice him being paranoid and going the extra mile to see what someone said about them, at work or with friends.
He does this to avoid conflict. If he find out or suspected you said someone to someone about something that he didn’t do, it can crush his spirit. Truth be told, the latter can get to be extremely annoying, but just always assure them that they’re more than enough for you.
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