5 Sex Positions That Make Women Orgasm So Much Easier
You deserve it.
Pavel Chusovitin On Unsplash Female orgasms can be tricky, and sometimes figuring out the best sex positions for your own body's needs takes some work.
According to statistics from Planned Parenthood, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. As many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone, and most are only able to climax from clitoral stimulation. Every woman's body is different, of course, so masturbation is a perfect way to start learning more about how YOU need to be touched in order to feel satisfied. By experimenting solo, you’ll come to understand what does and doesn't get you off.
Then you can take what you learned to the bedroom...
Once you get the rhythm of climaxing down on your own, you can bring those same skills and techniques to your partner. That's when you can really turn up the heat with some sexy moves that also happen to be more likely to stimulate you in the right spots and give you the pleasure you’ve both been craving.
Here are the best sex positions for increasing the chances of a female orgasm, because sex should always be orgasmic for you both!
1. G-Whiz
While laying on your back put your legs on his shoulders. This tightens your vaginal muscles, increasing sensation and giving him easy access to your G-spot. The tightening of your vagina is a plus for him, too!
Are you thinking to yourself that you’re not living in a flexible, cheerleader’s body? Don’t worry, you can still do it! Just bend your knees to give your leg muscles a bit of a break.
The farther down your partner’s torso gets to your body, the deeper the penetration feels. You’ll feel his penis hitting against your g-spot, and you can make adjustments to insure the sensation is just right to increase your chances at the big O!
2. Doggy Style
This one’s a classic. Although most people think this is a “guy’s position” because there is little eye and body contact and a lot of thrusting, but this position can be incredibly pleasurable for a woman when done right.
Move your bodies and angles until you can feel your partner hitting your g-spot. While your partner hits your g-spot from behind, there’s easy access to stimulate your clitoris, speeding up your orgasm! Also, try bending your arms and putting your face on the bed for deeper stimulation. Be sure to keep your back arched for maximum pleasure.
For another good doggy style position, kneel on the bed and have your partner stand on the side of it. This gives him more control; which could mean quicker, deeper, and harder thrusts — if you enjoy that, of course.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
You call the shots in this position. Luckily, this one also slows down his climax so you don’t have to be racing for the finish line to meet him.
I like to think of this one as showing off how you twerk. Maybe you don’t really do it well, or don’t have enough of a behind (like me), but the rotation and speed of your hips really makes a difference for your pleasure here. And hey, it’s good practice! This position is a plus for him too, because he gets to watch the action, which is a huge turn on for him (and hopefully for you, too).
Even the regular cowgirl position can be beneficial for a woman's orgasm. The trick is to stay upright rather than leaning forward. It might be a little uncomfortable at first because you don’t know what to look at or don’t want him to see your O-face, but once you get over those body insecurities, it’s fabulous for your pleasure. You’ll get the hang of it!
Prop yourself up on your feet, like you’re in a squatting frog position, and do it exactly the way you like it, because you’re in control!
4. Missionary
Here’s a basic one that you might not believe is a fabulous position for her, but if you shift the position of your legs it can feel so much better than standard missionary.
For many women, the farther your legs are spread, the better it feels because he can get a deeper penetration. You can even bend your knees and pull them toward you to angle your g-spot closer to his member. If you want a tighter feel, you can push your legs closer together and get a tight, squeezing sensation.
5. The Flat Iron (or Downward Dog)
This one is my personal favorite. Like any position from behind, the Flat Iron intensifies vaginal pleasure and reaches your g-spot perfectly. The pillow shown in the picture is just there to prop up your body; it’s not needed. (Though, if you don’t want a sore back the next day, I suggest you use one!)
I like this position because you can do it for any mood. If you want to be up close, personal, and affectionate, have your partner lie down onto your back a little farther. Even soft and gentle thrusts enhance the likelihood of orgasm with this position. On the other hand, if you want rough sex, this position can be just as good. With your partner hovering over you while thrusting, he can easily place his hand over your mouth, or your neck, and he can pull your hair back to be leveled with his head, causing your back to arch more and increase g-spot stimulation.
My favorite thing about this position is that when your partner is resting his body on yours, the gentle kisses and nibbles to the neck or whispers in your ear can really intensify the mood.
Now, you can jump in bed and reach your orgasm on the first try!
Remember that masturbation is key. If you don’t have one already, you may want to invest in a vibrator of some sort. My first vibrator really helped me to learn what I liked and taught me how to master the orgasm during sex.
Now that you’ve learned the basics, put it all to work and achieve great orgasms, every time!
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